Naming son after father in law who passed away...

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Mamaofdos · 30/09/2019 02:03

My father in law passed away sadly last year. My husband is keen to name baby after him. But I can’t help feeling really sad at the thought...

My mother in law has talked about how she wished she had called my husband this name. Making me think she would like us to name the baby Paul if we had a boy...however it is still very raw to all the family. The baby would have same surname too. I honestly don’t know if his mum would be able to say babies name without crying.

I am also really concerned for my five year old. We were talking about names and we mentioned my father in laws name and she said ‘grandpa up in heaven’. So she still associates the name with him and heaven.

Just looking for opinions...

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AverageMummy · 30/09/2019 06:51

Your daughter sorry

AverageMummy · 30/09/2019 06:50

I think middle name is much nicer because a first sort of feels like replacing someone. Your son hearing that name would no longer say / think grandpa in heaven

Astronica · 30/09/2019 06:33

Much better as a middle name. Allow your son to have his own name, but in the middle it's a lovely reference to his grandfather.

pumkinspicetime · 30/09/2019 02:29

I agree a middle name is a good compromise.
Let your ds have his own fresh name.

Rachelover60 · 30/09/2019 02:08

I think it would be fitting to name your son after his grandfather. Just tell your daughter that you chose grandad's name because he was so nice, she'll get it.

Children are often named after parents and grandparents.

Blueuggboots · 30/09/2019 02:06

What about giving him the name as a middle name? It's there but not so prominent?

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