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Initials BJ - is this worth worrying about?

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MakeLemonade · 21/09/2019 09:09

I’m keen on a name combo that would give overall initials of BJT. Struggling to find anything else we like but not sure if we should avoid the first two letters being a BJ combination.

I can’t think of the last time I had to use or tell anyone my middle initials in that type of format but aware there might be things I haven’t thought of.

The middle name has a family tie so I really want to use it and DH and I can’t agree on any other first name we like!

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mistermagpie · 22/09/2019 16:15

They are my initials. I have two middle names so the full thing is BJXX.

I'm nearly forty and honest to god, nobody has ever mentioned it, not even at school and you know what kids can be like. If I ever point it out (in situations like this) then people who know me go 'oh yeah! I'd never even noticed'.

Just my experience but I wouldn't worry too much.

Benefitofthedoubt · 22/09/2019 14:54

I am reliable informed by niece that the term (still) used the days is “give head”. She’s 19 and didn’t understand blow job because, as Ben Elton used to say IN THE EIGHTIES WHEN IT WAS A THING AND FUNNY that you weren’t supposed to blow.

Benefitofthedoubt · 22/09/2019 14:51

Is it e en used these days though? I mean it’s a 70s joke. People talk about such things more openly now, they are not sniggered about are they?

I don’t get it 🤷🏻‍♀️

No one cares!

(C Hunt I think is unfortunate as that will get comments. But everyone I’ve asked about BJ didn’t know apart from one guessed boob job!)

PregnantOnPurpose · 22/09/2019 14:48

I had an ex with unfortunate initials.

His post came as Mr C. Hunt.

That he was .

I wouldn’t worry though. If anyone does notice it will be. Quick joke, quick laugh from
Both parties and then if mentioned again met with a blank expression. The joke only works once.

Joeybee · 22/09/2019 00:55

Don't think it matters as it's the first and middle name that spell it BJ, not the first and last name.

AutumnColours9 · 21/09/2019 23:23

I have known people to be teased. Certainly would avoid.

cacklingmags · 21/09/2019 11:44

My kid was a BJH, only once were they teased about it.

Grufallosfriends · 21/09/2019 11:27

Whatever you think of his politics, it doesn’t seem to have done Boris Johnson any harm.

How do you know he wasn't teased mercilessly for it at school?

GeneralCustard · 21/09/2019 11:17

BLT would be noticeable (!) but BJ? Not to their generation, it's so old now. Seriously, the younger generations would have no idea what you were talking about.

But if you think your older acquaintance would make jokes, then put another name in before your mum's name.

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MakeLemonade · 21/09/2019 11:05

The middle name is my Mum’s name so that’s the bit that is fixed.

A real mix of responses here!

I’ll start trawling the girls baby name threads again and see if I’ve missed anything Grin

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whatnow55 · 21/09/2019 10:33

Shane gets a lot of stick at our (posh) school, no idea why. People can find anything to bully you about if they look.

rainbowstardrops · 21/09/2019 10:33

If it's only the middle name initial then I honestly wouldn't worry about it.
People don't generally go around telling others what their middle name is, so I really don't think it's an issue.

Girasole02 · 21/09/2019 10:30

I used to teach R Sole and Summer Holliday. They both had the piss mercilessly ripped out of them.

MissHenty · 21/09/2019 10:28

I personally wouldn’t worry at all about this

If a child is going to get teased then people will find something to tease them about sadly

A girl at my school had the surname Pratt and nothing was ever said. Another with surname Plonk. Nothing said

Yet this poor girl that was picked on was called the normal name of “Abi” and everyone kept calling her “Abi National Bank”. Another girl called Wendy kept getting teased “Wendy house”.

JuneSpoon · 21/09/2019 10:24

Does anyone even use the term "BJ" anymore?!

JuneSpoon · 21/09/2019 10:23

We had the same concern but they were the names we wanted in that exact order so we went for it. Nobody has mentioned it so far. Hopefully it won't be an issue but I don't think kids get teased for their names as much now as they might have in the past

BigusBumus · 21/09/2019 10:21

I don't think it would occur to many people. My husband has the first and middle initials of RC (Arsey) and only i have ever noticed and teased him about it. Grin If you love the names, just use them.

ariamontgomery · 21/09/2019 10:21

Yes! It is worth worrying about. Normally I say no to these things but I really think BJ is definitely a problem. Would definitely be picked up on and made fun of at school (and to be honest, possibly even after school!) Could you just change the middle name?

Mylittlepony374 · 21/09/2019 10:19

I went to school with a Bridget Jane. She got mercilessly teased. It was horrible. Her last name begin with an S which probably didn't help.
I'd avoid it.

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MakeLemonade · 21/09/2019 10:16

Was it their first/middle name or full initials @AverageMummy?

I’m just trying to work it if there is a real risk, as in, my eldest is at secondary school and nobody knows her middle names and wouldn’t unless she proactively told them - she doesn’t know any of her friends middle names/initials so trying to work out if that’s typical or not.

If we had any other options we could agree on I obviously would be trying to make something else work. My other option is just pick a name I don’t like very much.

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Lumene · 21/09/2019 10:08

I would avoid. If you’ve thought of it kids will too.

ChardonnaysDistantCousin · 21/09/2019 10:08

Oh no!

See how well it worked out for Boris Johnson.

AverageMummy · 21/09/2019 10:07

I know someone who was teased relentlessly for BJ. Why would you risk it? It’s hard enough being a child.

NewNameGuy · 21/09/2019 09:51

You're right to check but this is fine

Noroof · 21/09/2019 09:34

Years ago I taught a BJ...as in that was his name. He was built like a brick shit house with a bit of a temper and I can guarantee that no kids ever took the piss. I actually think they just accepted it as nothing unusual.