Help a new mummy out !!!

Love your choice of names. I think it’s a good idea to give the baby your surname too. I would steer clear of the names ending in a Y as if you do change his name in future all his names would end in the same sound.

I really like Max. And Leo. And if you want to refer to yourself as mummy then ignore the daft comments on here and go ahead.

Other ideas:
Marcus
Anton
Miles
Giles
Ethan
Alexander (nn Sacha, Sandy, Xander, Lex, Alex, Xand. Lots of choice for abbreviations)

My godson is Max (Maxwell) he's gorgeous! Maybe I'm biased but the name is a really good boys name.

As for 'mummy' my friend calls me his godmummy... which is lovely as I'll not have a child of my own now so won't be a 'proper' mummy.

I've personally prefer mum but my friend is very posh so still says mummy at age 35 bless her.

As for the other names I like Flynn & Finley

I think it's because very few adults call their mother mummy. It's a very infantilised way of speaking. For example you seldom see a thread on here saying shall I go no contact with my mummy, or what will I buy my mummy for her birthday, or should I let my mummy move in with us.

As such, in adult conversation, most people refer to themselves as mum, mother, parent. Seldom do they refer to themselves as mummy when no kids are present and it's adult conversation.

I think the idea is that our children call us "Mummy" but we don't call or refer to ourselves as Mummy when we're talking to other adults. For example DS (aged 2) calls me Mummy and DH also refers to me as Mummy when he is talking to DS. But in any other context and especially when talking to adults I say "I'm a mum" or "I'm DS's mum".

Completely irrelevant to the choice of name though!

Did someone really just comment that the OP shouldn’t call herself mummy but instead use mother or mum?! 😂 are they serious?! I don’t know anyone with a child under 4 who isn’t a mummy!

Ps. Max is a lovely name!

It’s totally understandable that your bf wants his surname represented too but you’re being entirely sensible and wise to keep your surname in there too.

If anyone tries to tell you or pressure you into ditching yours as it’s ‘traditional ’ for babies to have their dads name, remind them that it isn’t.

Baby’s always have their mothers surname, it’s just traditionally those mothers were either married to the father first and had changed / double barrelled there surname.

OR they were shunned for being unmarried mothers and their children were obviously “illegitimate” due to their name.

As I said previously as soon as the baby is born the hospital will write his tags / notes as Baby Griffiths because that will be his name to match yours for identification purposes.

Speak to your boyfriend and say you’re happy to add one of his surnames on so which one does he prefer?
Or do what my cousin did when pregnant at 17 and use his surname as a middle name, in her case the dads surname was Kelly and they had a girl so it worked well for a middle name.
Unfortunately they didn’t stay together but both are still good parents.

Max Barclay Griffiths sounds great IMO

I don’t think your list is unusual at all, I know no baby Maxs and LOADS of Finleys and Leos. If you want an unusual name you need a new list. Love the name Max though and congratulations!

Crowe not Crowd 🙄

I'd go with Max. Lovely name. Although I'd call him Maximus but that's because I have a crush on Russell Crowd.

And for the petty comment about me calling myself a mummy . I am a mummy so what exactly is your problem??

On MN there are a lot of people who hate terms like 'mummy' and 'hun'. Unfortunately if you use terms like that on here a few people will usually pick up on it and have a go.

I think max is a really nice name. Maximilian is a bit more unusual so you could go with that with the nickname max.

Wouldn’t necessarily fit your brief, but have you considered having Griffiths as Max’s middle name?

Incidentally, I realise we don’t ‘choose’ our surnames, but your boyfriend’s is a bit of a mouthful isn’t it?! Are they his parents’ names together? They really could have done him a favour and given him one or t’other! 😂

Congratulations, mummy.

@Abbiegriffiths I think you're being really smart and showing some wisdom by giving your LO your surname. You are right that who knows what the future holds and so much changes so quickly when you are young. Absolutely give your DS your surname and it can be changed later if necessary. If you want, you could give one of your BF's surnames as a middle name. I do really like the name Max. Barclay or Evely would be quite an unusual middle name. Of course, you might choose to have two midddle names. Funnily enough, the more unusual names for children these days are ones you'll probably find boring - John, Alistair, David, Richard, Arron, etc. Congratulations on being a mummy!

@Bluntness100 I'm guessing this is one our recent transfers from the "other" place.

I find Max quite a meh name, and, if this bothers you, it’s everywhere.

I like Cody, Leo and Flynn from your list.

Love Max- and adore Maxwell! I think the Names ending in 'Ly' wont work- Finley Barclay- Everly sounds like a name Sacha Baron Cohen would create for an over-exaggerated toff character.

Pleased others commented on the completely pointless & patronising comment above

Max or Maxim Griffiths
Max Maxim Barclay-Evely

Both sound great. I only know of one Max so while it’s not unusual, I don’t think it’s super popular everywhere and I always think it’s a name that sounds like a cool kids name at any age.

Doesn’t sound like your engaged or actually planning to marry (maybe hoping to) so you’re absolutely right for baby to keep your surname (it’s the name he’ll have at birth as the hospital will put baby griffiths).

But the suggestion of Griffiths-Evely is a good one or you could call him Max middle name - Barclay surname - Griffiths.

Oh and one final thing @Bluntness100 Who are you, the name police? OP from one mummy to another, ignore that comment

Max Griffiths-Evely is nice.
Rufus Griffiths-Evely
Luca Griffiths-Evely
Jude Griffiths-Evely

"I don’t understand why you are giving him your surname with the idea of changing it later. Why not give him the surname he will eventually have."

I agree about not changing it but I think he should have and keep his mother's surname

@Bluntness100 what a pointless comment.

I don’t understand why you are giving him your surname with the idea of changing it later. Why not give him the surname he will eventually have. My DD has OH’s surname which is different to mine and we have no problems.

My friends little boy is Max and he is the only one I know. It's such a lovely name and I think it is unusual nowadays.

Griffly :D

Love Maxwell! Max is a cute, cheeky chappy name too. It’s my favourite from all the names you’ve put forward-sorry OP!