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Double barreling surname?

29 replies

PoppingOneOutIn2020 · 15/08/2019 22:06

Me and DP arent married, its something I want eventually now! but hes very settled and he said he will get married one day but is fine as we are, which is absolutely fair enough, no rush! But I cant shake the feeling that he just isn't marriage type. Hes happy as we are and says that often, he used to say marriage was just a peocee of paper and didnt really see the point. So I think he only says he will one day because he knows it's something I want.

But im 18 weeks pregnant now and im thinking if we never get married I would ideally like some form of name connection to our child..

I grew up with divorced parents and I always felt a little dampened by the fact I didnt share a name with my mum also.

So I'm thinking of talking about double barreling her name, is this reasonable?
Can it be changed to just my name when/if we eventually do get married? Is it easy enough?

I just dont know what to do but it makes me feel abit sad and if I'm honest a little but sick ag the thought of never having the same name as my baby :(

Am I just being silly?

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BlueBilledBeatboxingBird · 15/08/2019 22:46

In your position I would seriously consider giving baby your name.

Cabezona · 15/08/2019 22:44

The old fashioned way from when people kept names because they meant something...

I also felt a little sick at not sharing a name with DC so I think that's perfectly understandable x

Cabezona · 15/08/2019 22:43

It's only my opinion but a man that hasn't given me his name doesn't get a child named after him. I'm double barrelled and so is DD. My parents were never married and we will never be but I want my name in there too. Generally one is picked for every day usage. We don't have the hyphen. Just two names after each other as surnames.

IsobelRae23 · 15/08/2019 22:28

Ds1 has dads name, and ds2, (different dad), has mine and dp’s name. I done it more because he didn’t like just his surname, and my surname is his grandmothers family name, so there was a link there. But oddly my surname, is the surname of my mums first husband, my brothers dad. She wanted me and dbro to have the same name. So I’ve always hated it with a passion! Because I don’t belong to that family. It also caused a lot of problems with my dads side of the family over it- understandably as far as I’m concerned.
So I say do it. I can’t see any negatives about it. If you get married to could both change your name to the same as your son? Just an idea.

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