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Oscar or Toby

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Fivefootoffun · 28/07/2019 21:33

Ds due any day. We cannot agree on a name!

DH really likes Oscar or Toby but I’m just not 100%. I like Ben or Patrick but he’s definitely against both.

Any thoughts (good or bad) on Oscar or Toby? Middle name would be Oscar Patrick and Toby Harris.

Thanks a lot in advance!

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Pinkout · 30/07/2019 17:10

My friend’s brother is Tobias shortened to Toby, born in 2000 when it really wasn’t popular.

I prefer Oscar.

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Fivefootoffun · 30/07/2019 16:50

@reefedsail - thanks for the figures / that’s really good to know.

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reefedsail · 30/07/2019 15:59

I toyed with Toben when pg. Might be a compromise for you!!

Ended up with an Oscar. He's 9 and I know that it's theoretically popular, but there are only 3 on the whole of his 3-13 school, and the primary school of 420 kids I teach in has 5- so they are not crawling out from under every rock (in the West country anyway).

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Fivefootoffun · 30/07/2019 15:50

Thanks everyone - i never really know what someone means when they call a name wet on here but all noted anyway - much appreciated feed back - thank you!

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sheshootssheimplores · 30/07/2019 15:36

I always thought Toby was a wet name too 🤭 Now I have one I realise the personality dictates the name. He is the most feisty little thing I’ve ever met.

Hoursandminutes · 30/07/2019 15:34

Absolutely agree Toby is a very wet name and reminds me of a drippy posh boy. Its awful.
Oscar is much better!

Sophronia · 29/07/2019 13:06

Oscar Patrick. Toby is a very ‘wet’ name.

user1493494961 · 29/07/2019 09:14

Toby but prefer Tobias. I really like Patrick.

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Fivefootoffun · 29/07/2019 07:23

Thanks all. The search goes on!

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Frith2013 · 29/07/2019 00:18

Ben - too common
Patrick - Middle Aged plumber

Toby is fine.

bridgetreilly · 28/07/2019 23:27

I like Toby slightly better, but I like both.

If only people wouldn't give their dogs human names, no one would say something as stupid as that. Dogs can be called Spotty or Rover or Bouncer or whatever. They don't need to be called Oscar or Toby.

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Fivefootoffun · 28/07/2019 23:27

@broken1982 - that might help in my argument!

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broken1982 · 28/07/2019 23:15

I cannot give an opinion on this as I have two shitzus, Oscar and Toby Blush

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Fivefootoffun · 28/07/2019 22:48

Thanks all - lots of useful feedback!

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blahblahblabblahblah100 · 28/07/2019 22:43

My BIL is called Tobias, and NN Toby....to me he doesn't suit Toby (prob because everyone I hear it I think of the old lady neighbor shouting her dog 😂)
My boys middle name is Oscar as husband really wanted it, but I felt it was far too popular!
We didn't name our boy until he was five days old as couldn't agree!

fedup21 · 28/07/2019 22:36

I love all of your names!

Prob wouldn’t go for Ben as there are a few of them around in our friendship groups, but all the others are great.

sheshootssheimplores · 28/07/2019 22:33

I have a Toby but be warned it is POPULAR. I know lots of Mumsnet want a younique name so just to let you know my son will be going into Reception with at least two other Toby’s that I know of.

tashakg89 · 28/07/2019 22:29

I love the name toby! Wanted Toby twice but ended up with an archie and an Oscar ( I absolutely love there names too) everyone kept trying to put me off Toby I dont know why? if I have another they will be called Toby.

Clevs · 28/07/2019 22:10

@Fivefootoffun

I've never thought if it as a dogs name to be honest. I don't think I've ever met a dog called Toby😕 I have come across some dogs called Oscar though 😆

I don't dislike Oscar, in fact I quite like it but it never made our shortlist as we have a neighbour called Oscar. Plus I think it's become too popular over recent years.

Meltedicicle · 28/07/2019 22:07

My nephew is a Toby. I know SIL got the ‘that’s a dog’s name’ comment but I really like the name and it suits him (he’s 8 now). I love Oscar but it’s quite popular where we live whereas I’ve not come across another Toby.

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Fivefootoffun · 28/07/2019 21:55

@Clevs - thanks for that. I think I’m paranoid because when I mentioned it in work I got the usual ‘dogs name’ response but to be honest I get that with most boys names we like. Our neighbours dog is called Oscar as is my cousins! Can’t win!

Thanks again - much appreciated.

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Fivefootoffun · 28/07/2019 21:53

@sarararararah - thanks for that - it’s good to hear you’ve got lots of nice comments. Your right, we don’t neee to decide now at all - it’s just stressing me out! With our DD - DH was much more easily talked round 😂 he’s not budging this time!

Thanks a lot for feedback, much appreciated.

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Clevs · 28/07/2019 21:53

@Fivefootoffun

We didn't know what we were having and had two boys names and two girls names shortlisted. We have had nothing but positive reactions, but I'm not sure anyone would tell us to our face if they didn't like the name we'd chosen anyway? Several people have asked why we chose Toby and it was just a name that we both really liked. There are no family connections etc. that influenced our decision.

sarararararah · 28/07/2019 21:51

I have a Toby. He’s 8 now. I do like Oscar too. I get lots of nice comments about it and he likes it very much. It suits him! Do you have to decide now? Toby was one of several names we liked but when he was born it just seemed to suit him.

Cotswoldmama · 28/07/2019 21:48

Much prefer Oscar