Oh my gosh, I posted my last reply and then went to work. Checked now and SO many replies.
Thank you everyone for your comments (good and bad) and feedback.
Honestly, I knew some people wouldn't like it, that's fine. I don't like a LOT of baby names I hear, even very popular ones. My main intention from my post was to actually hear what people think and react to the name. I wanted to see if anyone said anything I hadn't thought of - like an association with a bad character or something.
I don't want to ask people 'in real life' because I have no intention of revealing this baby's name until birth. We didn't reveal Stans name until birth either. People will just accept the name eventually once they are told what it is.
For people saying Stanley is working class and Araminta middle class. I think in the UK thats the case. However I live in Australia now and I don't think there are those same associations here. Hardly anyone here has even heard of Stanley and I get a lot of "is that an old English name?"...they just don't see it the same as British do, nor is it at all popular here. I am thinking to Aussies Araminta will get a similar reaction.
It's interesting that some people think Araminta Elsie goes, and some think it doesn't. I think it depends on accent and stuff like that. I'm going to think it over a bit. Elsie is non-negotiable. It's my husbands nanas name and she passed away a few years ago. We decided then our future daughter would have that middle name. I don't like it enough as a first name, to me it's a nickname name and too girly. So we will either go with Araminta Elsie or pick another first name.
Araminta does sound fine with our surname. I have a double barrelled surname and both names start with R, so that's why I wanted to avoid R or W names or names with a strong R sound, however I don't think Araminta has that strong R sound.
So thanks everyone for your replies. To me Araminta doesn't sound frilly or too girly. I actually think it sounds quite strong and bold. It does sound a bit posh, but as I said it's not got that association in Australia.
I have thought of Arabella...I know that's more mainstream and less marmite. However it is more of a mouthful to me, and I just don't like it as much.
I love that the name is also a nod to Harriet Tubman (whose birth name was Araminta) and also there's a series of books called Araminta Spook, which I think would be cool to have as a kid.
Hmm, anyway, I'm not 100% but I'm pretty sure this is the name I'll use. The good and bad comments have helped me cement my thoughts on this name. So thank you Mums, I think it's great to have this community to discuss things like this and have a place to go to for advice.