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I hate the baby name he wants!!

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sl07 · 13/07/2019 07:24

Perhaps I am being unreasonable BUT my OH is insisting that we call our baby after his mother. Me and his mother didn't get along. He has since put this to his family and they are all jumping agreeing with him to call my daughter that name.

I know it's 50/50 choice but I hate the name, it's not current, it's not what I ever imagined, it reminds me off a women I don't like.

What can I do??? (I don't even want it as a middle name)

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LittleFairywren · 13/07/2019 07:42

Equal say doesn't mean riding roughshod over you and vice versa. Why not compromise on middle name?

SallyWD · 13/07/2019 07:40

Use it as a middle name. I used my mum's name as a middle name for DD. I wouldn't have forced DH to use it as a first name. We needed a name we both liked of course!

Lllot5 · 13/07/2019 07:39

Just don’t do it. You both have to agree on a name both of you can veto any name for any reason. He can’t force you to have it.
In fact if he’s DP not DH he doesn’t even have to go to register office.

Apolloanddaphne · 13/07/2019 07:39

I would agree to use it as a middle name and you choose a first name you both like.

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sl07 · 13/07/2019 07:37

Thanks for your comments... I said to him... if it's a boy, he can pick but if it's a girl, I will pick.

I know he's the father and gets equal say but c'mon, I've expressed that I don't like it but he just keeps saying "I get equal say".

How do I get out of this one???

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userabcname · 13/07/2019 07:30

I would compromise with a middle name I think? You can always add another name to break it up (e.g. my son has both my and DH's grandfathers' names as his two middle names). I definitely would veto it for a first name though of you don't like it! It's not just his baby!

RangerLady · 13/07/2019 07:27

You can't call a baby something you don't like. If it is super important to him you could use it as a middle name as there has to be some give and take. No one uses the middle name anyway. Dd2 has my granny's name as a middle name that dh doesn't really like but he knew it was important to me.

Dirtyjellycat · 13/07/2019 07:27

Say no. Agree together on another name. He can’t railroad you into this.

RoseReally · 13/07/2019 07:27

Wow I would be seriously pissed off, especially as he told his family about it. You can't call your baby a name you hate. Does he know how you feel about it? Did his mother pass recently?

Pineapplefish · 13/07/2019 07:26

There is no way you can call your DD a name you don't like. YANBU at all!

Alwaysgrey · 13/07/2019 07:26

Big fat no. She’s your baby too so you have an equal say.

LutherRalph1 · 13/07/2019 07:25

Say no, explain why
It needs to be something you agree on, u doubt he would just swallow it if the roles were reversed

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