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AverageMummy · 14/06/2019 23:36

Mary - really torn on this name. Thoughts?

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Banhaha · 15/06/2019 17:56

Mary is a lovely name. I think simpler classical names are going to stand out a lot more in this age group as people are going for unique or old fashioned but long so lots of people are choosing the same names and overlooking the simpler ones

MikeUniformMike · 15/06/2019 17:52

Please don't hyphenate it.
Mary is lovely. Mary Rose is a ship.

Howtotrainyourhamster · 15/06/2019 14:20

I think it’s really sweet and unusual for a little girl now, nicer than Maria and Marie (which I find a bit harsh) but fits in well with similar sounding names like Maisie. I would class it in the same category as Anna, timeless and pretty.

minniemoll · 15/06/2019 13:34

I'm not keen on it as a single name, but it does go quite well as a hyphenated name, eg Mary-Jane, Mary-Lou, Mary-Rose, Mary-Kate.

MikeUniformMike · 15/06/2019 13:02

I thought you were going to use Torn as a name. Mary is lovely, would have used it for DC1 but family's regional accent would have said it as Merry.

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AverageMummy · 15/06/2019 10:17

Hmm thank you everyone. I think I may use it as a middle name as I do like simple classics but I’m not keen on the religious connotations.

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TatianaLarina · 15/06/2019 09:15

Slang for fanny. And a bit meh.

Like Mari though. Marisol, Marissa.

motortroll · 15/06/2019 08:39

I would prefer Maria, Mabel, Maggie, maybe because Mary is my mums middle name and she is 70!

Martha is also used more now but I'm not sure I like it!

I would use Mary as a middle name. I just didn't as I had others I preferred or went better with the first name.

Lavenderblues · 15/06/2019 08:21

Religious but a nice name.

Clownfish123 · 15/06/2019 08:21

I think the name itself is actually lovely but I do still associate it with older women and it feels very religious. I know so many Irish Catholic Mary's over 50!
In this country though I think it is definitely usable on a little one. It would actually feel quite fresh.

Fulltimemummy85 · 15/06/2019 08:20

Really dislike it I knew a teenage Mary, it always seemed strange saying her name

jackstini · 15/06/2019 07:46

What about Mari if you are worried about Catholic association?

I think that's really pretty and a bit more modern

gumbucket · 15/06/2019 07:27

I associate it very strongly with Catholicism. Which could be a pro or con depending on your religious beliefs I suppose!

GMtoBe · 15/06/2019 07:12

It's my Grandma's name and it's on my list for potential next daughter. I think it's classic and lovely.

IggyAce · 15/06/2019 07:05

Mary was my dh GM name she was a lovely lady who gave bear hugs. So I think of it was a lovely name and it’s due a come back.

Disfordarkchocolate · 15/06/2019 06:59

I love it but I had a Joseph already.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/06/2019 06:57

Sounds drab to me too.

Wifeandstepmum · 15/06/2019 06:45

Lovely name

Astronica · 15/06/2019 06:40

I think it feels fresh and lovely now as it's rarely used these days. I also see it like the classic names of Anna and Jane. It would not seem religious to me if siblings had names like Anna and Jane. I know of one young Mary and her sisters are Lucy and Tessa - doesn't seem religious.

hexagon01 · 15/06/2019 05:45

I think it’s sweet, but a little bit boring (which is not necessarily a problem). My daughter is Meredith, her dad calls her Merry quite often and I always mis-hear it as Mary!

RealButterOnly · 15/06/2019 04:43

I really like it and I don't feel the religious connotations are overwhelming.
I would group it more with the classic simple names like Anna and Jane.

AudacityOfHope · 15/06/2019 04:36

It's a bit drab and middle-aged. In fact not even middle-aged, the only Mary's I know are in their early 60s.

elp30 · 15/06/2019 04:34

My mother was Maria but everyone called her Mary.

Personally, I prefer Maria but I think they're both nice.

FagashJackie · 15/06/2019 04:30

I really like it.

FenellaMaxwell · 15/06/2019 04:28

The thing is, Noah doesn’t have religious connotations anymore because of its popularity, whereas Mary not being popular, religion is the first thing you think.

Honestly, I hear the name Mary and I think slightly dour, middle aged woman in a two set. Sorry!

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