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How late is too late to add an extra middle name, or do I just accept things as they are?

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Yoozanaim · 19/04/2019 21:19

Just that, really!

I felt really lucky that we had no first name naming issues - DH loved the names I put forward for our children, and let me have my first choice for both. I had my heart set on two middle names for each of them, but he is from a custom of no middle names, so felt one middle name was enough of a stretch. He chose one each from my choice of two, and I didn't push the second extra name as I felt very lucky he'd agreed to both my first name choice and one of my favourites for the one middle.

His brother's wife just had a baby and they are chatting, and he and SIL can't agree on a name, and DH says "so lucky we didn't have this drama" - and I said, "well, you didn't let me have the second middle names" - and he said, "oh, I didn't really mind - you could have."

I know this sounds daft but I feel really gutted. :(
Shall I give my head a wobble, or can I add a second middle name after all? Will it look stupid on their official documents? Are there any repercussions I need to consider?

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Bumblebeesmum · 19/04/2019 21:57

They’d always have to do formally known as and go down deed poll route - if they don’t want it for themselves I don’t think it’s right either as they have their own identity you’d just be doing it for you - is it possible you’re having emotions about not having another baby to name?

ZebraKid71 · 19/04/2019 21:51

Id just let it go, if they aren't bothered you're just doing it for you not for them..

Shylo · 19/04/2019 21:42

For me I’d think the ballache for them in always having to declare that their names were changed by deed poll just so I could add a middle name would be enough to make me think better of it

Honestly, you got the names you wanted I’d just let it go .... if they want to add a name when they are old enough to decide then that’s their choice

RuthW · 19/04/2019 21:38

I've just added a middle name myself. I'm 50.

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Yoozanaim · 19/04/2019 21:26

They'd both be happy enough to, but aren't especially bothered.
I only talk in abstract terms to them of another name, as I don't want them to get too keen only for me to think it's a stupid idea as it makes their paperwork a pain the neck in the future.
DD is young enough to choose something ridiculous like Rainbow Cupcake. Grin Or she'd choose something rubbish from one of her TV shows. So not my choice.

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Namechangedcositstime · 19/04/2019 21:24

Do they want to add a new name?
Do they like your choice?
What name would they choose?

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Yoozanaim · 19/04/2019 21:22

Well, I'd rather hear how old people think is too old, rather than say! Grin They are old enough to discuss it with.

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LittleBearPad · 19/04/2019 21:20

How old are they

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