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Find baby name inspiration and advice on the Mumsnet Baby Names forum.

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Opinionated mum and sister.

35 replies

JUSTLOOKING20 · 11/04/2019 13:43

Have you come up against problems when suggesting baby names with your family?
My mum and sis are very opinionated /verbal when it comes to baby names
They like old fashioned, frankly frumpy and dull names and amazing. My partner and I like modern names or names they think are tasteless and common.
They are snobs but I'm finding it really difficult to let it go and choose a name we like.
What can I do?

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ReginaPhalange89 · 11/04/2019 14:06

Definitely just don't discuss names with them

My last pregnancy, my OH mentioned a name I loved to his family . They hated it ! I already had my heart set on it but just didn't say anything. It upset me a while later when they asked about names , I said we hadn't decided and they said "I hope it isn't xxx " and it was 🙈 I didn't let them put me off though , we just told them we hadn't decided , and announced it once she was here. I'm so glad I didn't change my mind on it. I'd have regretted giving her another name . You can't please everyone .

WeepingWillowWeepingWino · 11/04/2019 14:02

No, because I was never daft enough to discuss potential names with anyone except DH!

HelenUrth · 11/04/2019 14:00

When you think about your own name, who do you think should have mattered most in the choice of it

  • You
  • Your parents
  • Your grandparents and/or aunts and uncles

Name your baby for the right reasons, and let people know after baby has arrived, and tell them it is not open for discussion, the decision has been made.

By the sound of things you need to lay some boundaries now or your mum and sister will be deciding where is the best nursery or school that they think baby should attend.

Wolfiefan · 11/04/2019 13:53

Choosing a baby name without thinking of the person who actually has to live with it is really crap. I couldn’t care less what strangers or family care about the name compared to how my child will feel about it. Isn’t that what a parent should prioritise?

Lokidokiartichoki · 11/04/2019 13:51

But FFS don’t choose something youneeq that your poor kid has to live with

Fuck sake.

OP choose what the hell you like

DramaAlpaca · 11/04/2019 13:48

Haha, cross post there Grin

Wolfiefan · 11/04/2019 13:48

Don’t discuss it with them.
But FFS don’t choose something youneeq that your poor kid has to live with. Hmm

DramaAlpaca · 11/04/2019 13:47

Just don't discuss names with your family. At all. They are unlikely to say anything when you announce the name after the birth. Or you could have some fun with them & tell them you are going to call the baby some preposterous, outlandish name that they will really hate. Which will have the effect of making whatever you choose come as a relief to them.

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JUSTLOOKING20 · 11/04/2019 13:46
Grin
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Lokidokiartichoki · 11/04/2019 13:45

Keep your mouth shut about what name you’re choosing!

Tell them it’s going to be Gertrude or Wilbur and let them froth until you announce the real name.