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Negative comments make me regret daughter’s name.

220 replies

evelynsmummy44 · 21/03/2019 11:43

I know people are going to say not to worry but it’s something that I think about regularly. My daughter is three and her name is Evelyn. She has never, ever been called Evie (not even once) and her name was picked for sentimental reasons. When we named her I had never been on a site like this and having never met another little Evelyn I didn’t know it was popular (still haven’t met another one in our area!) however I get really sad that it is pretty much always called boring or horrible on this site. I very rarely see anything positive about it and it makes me regret not calling her Eliza. I’m not sure how to learn to love my daughter’s name again (maybe just come off this site? But I love looking at it for inspiration for baby number two) anyone been/felt similar about their child’s name?

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Elizasmother · 21/03/2019 13:10

See according to this thread I should hate my dd name! I don’t, I still love it and she’s 15. Though she does get fed up of people pronouncing it Eleeeeeza. Evelyn is lovely too, one of dds best friends name.

frustratedindivorce · 21/03/2019 13:10

It's my favourite name and I've always thought if I had a daughter I'd call her Evelyn. Don't listen to people! They've probably given their kids names that you think are awful anyway!

Yabbers · 21/03/2019 13:09

Lovely name. I’d Keep it.

florentina1 · 21/03/2019 13:09

Everyone hated the name I chose for my daughter so I gave it to her as a second name. She now uses it as her first name as she loves it.

ataleoftwothenthreethenfour · 21/03/2019 13:09

And frankly, if people do hate the name, then what does it matter to you? It doesn't, it really doesn't.

downcasteyes · 21/03/2019 13:08

Evelyn, Evelina, Evie are all lovely.

Nameisthegame · 21/03/2019 13:07

Lovely name 😊 I posted mine and dd name under a name change and we were slated by one user 😂 heartbreaking

ataleoftwothenthreethenfour · 21/03/2019 13:07

I'm not going to say don't worry, I'm going to say get a grip.

I think you should be worried, but not about the name, but about your reaction. It's extreme. Do you always worry so much about what people you have never met and probably never will meet, think?
Perhaps mumsnet is not the place for you if you are going to take it so much to heart. You need to separate online from real life a little better and give yourself a good talking to.

pumpastrotter · 21/03/2019 13:02

Just to add about people irl - 95% of people I tell the names to absolutely love them and say how much it's suits them, and both are usually shortened. I've only ever met one person with DD's name (by chance we were chatting in a queue) and she was absolutely delighted to hear we had the name as she usually felt people were negative about it, it was nice to see her so excited about it and I hope DD gets that positivity.

Skyejuly · 21/03/2019 13:02

Not everyone will like the name you pick. It doesn't matter really.

Itswinternow · 21/03/2019 12:58

I think Evelyn is nicer than Eliza OP.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 21/03/2019 12:57

Please don't regret it! It's a beautiful name, and IMO so much nicer than Evie, or all the twee Ellie-Maes etc. out there.

wheretheydwell · 21/03/2019 12:56

I like it. Let go of this current fad against popular names, and be happy with this choice. HOnestly, you can't let strangers on a website dictate how you feel about this.

Orangecookie · 21/03/2019 12:55

You get the lowest common denominator if you ask a huge group for names.

Evelyn is beautiful.

madcatladyforever · 21/03/2019 12:55

I adore the name. Better than some I can think of.

HexagonalBattenburg · 21/03/2019 12:53

There are two of them in my 7 year old's year group - I think it's making an understated comeback.

MorningsEleven · 21/03/2019 12:53

I’ve never to this day met anyone as morally strong and kind as her so to me the name means something special

That's an Evelyn- core of steel, heart of gold

pumpastrotter · 21/03/2019 12:52

I love the name. I know one Evelyn (Eve) my age and a couple of Eve/Evelyn's around DC's ages - it would've been a contender for DS if he was a girl. It's a very pretty name but I don't like it shortened to Evie.

DC have very traditional/old names, people even think DS's is foreign (it's VERY typically english??), I've seen both on here smeared and used as examples of 'try hard middle class' names, and people irl sometimes comment that they sound like pets, but they're names we all love that aren't complete nonsense and that is all that matters.

americandream · 21/03/2019 12:50

You seriously need to ignore some of what you read on here. Some people just talk tripe, honestly.

I saw someone come on and post 'what girls names do you hate?' (Nasty thread anyway,) and loads of posters came on with all these names that they hate, and many of them were classed as 'chavvy' by many posters on the thread. A few names were posted - old traditional Victorian names - and some posters said they were dull and boring, and the 'faux middle classes' who are trying to pretend they're not chavs have daughters with these names. (Names were Charlotte, Sophie, Emily, Victoria, and similar.)

A week later, someone posted a thread saying they're very sad because their sister has died, and her name was Sophie. Cue dozens of posts about how lovely the name is, and how much they love Victorian names.

People switch what they say, according to the situation, and what they think other people want to hear, and some people are sheep, and will jump on the name-bashing board. And I don't buy the bullshit that people come out with when they say 'there are many posters on here, so you will obviously have differing views.' That's a cop out. because this happens a LOT.

Evelyn IS a lovely name, and I can't believe that anyone would say they hate it!

amusedbush · 21/03/2019 12:50

keep away from that baby name site that's frequented by posters who wouldn't dare speak face to face the vitriol that they post.They're real 'Nest of Vipers'.

Maybe take a glance around before you insult the site you're posting on Grin

wineymummy · 21/03/2019 12:42

Don't worry - I've seen my DD's name blasted on here, but IRL I'm often complimented on it. I also regularly see negative comments on my own name (common historically but less so now). Meh. Evelyn is a beautiful name and I think it is nicer than Eliza (no offence to any Elizas or parents of Elizas out there!!)

NunoGoncalves · 21/03/2019 12:41

Evelyn was the 22nd most popular name last year, and has been rising fast over the last 5 years. So it's very popular, meaning most people like it!

Not that that should matter anyway. Stop paying so much attention to the opinions of strangers.

Hollowvictory · 21/03/2019 12:40

Eliza and Elsie are lovely but if you like Evelyn that's your preference, it's your baby!

Magicpaintbrush · 21/03/2019 12:39

I love the name Evelyn - if I went on to have another DD that name would be right at the top of my list.

Birdie6 · 21/03/2019 12:38

My DD has a name which I saw once on this site - literally every poster said they hated it. I love it and so does she - so what if a few people think badly of it. Your daughter's name is lovely - ignore the nasty comments, please.