Negative comments make me regret daughter’s name.

When we decided our daughters name we didn’t hear many Evelyn’s but haven’t been told it’s boring at all. I still love the name and we shorten it to Evee to make it different

I just saw it popped up on the Mirror too!

Bugger off you lazy ‘journalists’, haven’t you got any actual news stories to follow?

I like Evelyn a lot (both pronounciations) and also like eve and Evie. Classic. Strong. Pretty. Also know one whose nn is Ellen.

Also I think that being upset about what the internet thinks is somewhat indicative of a larger personality issue where your need to please and fit in can often cloud your judgment and choices.

I say this as someone that suffers from the same problem, so I am in no way judging you. I am 38 years old and I have to constantly remind myself that others opinions don't matter and if I like it then that's all that matters.

It's quite hard for us chronic pleasers to be happy because we worry so much about fitting in that we often don't do what we genuinely like and if we do, we worry so much that it ruins it anyways.

I'd love to have some great advice for you, but I don't. I think the first step is probably to focus on what makes you happy and to try very hard not to care what everyone else thinks.

Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one.

I saw this thread because it got picked up by The Mirror and I just wanted to say that Evelyn is a lovely name! My DS also has a "boring name " by MN standards and I don't care at all. I couldn't imagine him being anything else. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It genuinely does not matter.

Evelyn is a pretty name!

ALL names will be either boring, trashy, pretentious, try hard, weird, faddy, dated..... there is not a name that every single person on here would like.

I take boring as the downside any day! I love unusual or even weird names on other people’s kids but it just wasn’t very me. My son’s name is James which has been in the top 10 for 500 years (!!!!) I don’t think you’ll get a name more worthy of ‘boring’ - but I love it - he loves is & I couldn’t care less! (He’s really proud of that fact).

Evelyn is lovely - I don’t think it’s even anywhere near popular enough to be deemed boring although that’s not really the point of my comment - even if it were, it’s a lovely name - why worry if lots of other parents also think it’s a lovely name?

Also in 1911 one name could be given to over 10k kids - nowadays everyone is striving for uniqueness so to make it to the top of the charts it only takes a few thousand. My son is almost 7 & has the most popular name of all time, yet of the 3 classes in his year he’s the only James, same for his out of school clubs!

Lol. Daughter no 1 was born in 1995. I bought a baby name book. I was the first of my friends to have a baby and knew no one else with children or any other mums.
Yep. Blind picked the most popular girls name. There was still only 2 others by the time she got to secondary in her year of 180.

I LOVE the name Evelyn. I badly wanted it for our DDs but DH wasn't keen (our surname is E and he thought it sounded too alliterative). It's a beautiful name I think, really elegant.

The name we did choose for DD1 (which I also love) is often said to be far too popular on here, but I've only met one other little girl with it in 6 years.

On your question though, I have sometimes wondered if we gave DS the right name (for the opposite reason, it's a bit unusual). It's his now, though - he's become it, and he's lovely so it's lovely, and he'll define it in his own way.

Love the name Evelyn, it's so classic and pretty. I think people say no to it here because Evie is so overused (but still lovely).

I would try not to let it bother you at all! (Fwiw I think Evelyn is a beautiful name and I was too scared to use it for the comments about it being too old womanly so I 100 percent get where you are coming from). I know it's easier said than done but they really do just 'become' their name and it really doesn't matter what other people think. According to a thread running at the moment my daughters name is 'truly the pits' and 'downmarket' (Georgia btw) and honestly it did bother me to read it but everyone IRL loves her name and it suits her down to a tee! It's too easy to get wrapped up in peoples opinion online :) you love the name and it means something to you!

I wouldn't worry about the opinion of strangers, I wouldn't even take notice of the opinion of friends and family. Dd4's name is seen as a stripper name on here (Scarlett) which I just don't get 🤷🏻‍♀️
A while back I started a thread on here asking opinions on my boy list. I named my son the least favourite name from that list (intentionally) because I didn't want to go with the "favourite" from people that just don't matter to me. And I figured well if it's not a well liked name then it won't be popular 👍🏼

Evelyn is a beautiful name. It's on my girl list 😁

It's a name. Thought you were going to say some ridiculous thing like Mauve, or Kumquat or something. Perfectly nice name.

All my kids have names in the top 5 which are frequently slated on here. Don't really care, I like them and that's what matters. FWIW Evelyn is a beautiful name.

Conversely I didn't like my daughters name for many years, I think I had prenatal depression. The pregnancy wasn't really discussed, certainly not names. I was tired my dh was so worried about money. He said how about Daisy or Ellie, I liked one of these at the time, immediately regretted it and was embarrassed calling her it in public, my other 2 have names I really love. But I've come to realise it's fine some other people like it some don't. She has a middle name she can use if she wants in the future. Once she was born dh and I fell in love and all our worries fell away she's been a real blessing to our family. I wish I hadn't always had niggles about her name and come to terms with it sooner.

I teach a 5 year old Evelyn. She's a really lovely girl from a lovely family and it's a lovely name!

I've seen both my name and DDs names trashed on here on some threads. Other threads they have been complimented. I don't think there's a single name in the world that everyone would think is nice.

@tiredandpregnant that's terrible. I had a lot of that rudeness too. The ONLY correct response to hearing someone's name choice is "how lovely. It suits her/him". NO OTHER RESPONSE IS REQUIRED

Both my dcs have names which are generally slated on here - one is 'always a naughty child's name and the other has a name which will apparently prevent him from getting a good, professional career as an adult. Except that, when we chose their names, they were both very uncommon and 99% of people we told loved their names. The one with the 'chavvy' name has a very successful career in a professional role, is well respected by colleagues and clients alike. My 'naughty boy, also has a very good career, is probably the kindest, most gentle person I know and is teaching his own child to be the same. He is also well liked and respected at work and among his friends. Never even got so much as one detention during his entire tine at school. Names are about the person they belong to, not the people around them. There are names I'm not keen on, but that says more about me than the name.

FWIW, I have a lovely friend Evelyn and it's also the name of a much loved, now gone, member of the family from my Nan's generation. Lovely name which I associate with lovely people.

I love it.
I know one Evelyn and she is adorable.
Ignore the negative comments.

My DD is due next month and it's the name we have chosen for her.... coincidentally our second choice was Eliza!

Anyway we've had some truly terrible reactions and some 'call her ... instead' which I find so rude. Or 'I personally prefer ...'

I've started to change the subject or just ignore. But it is horrible. Especially when it's your mum and sisters doing the criticising!

Op my dd is called Lily and that is a much hated name on here these days!!
Evelyn is a beautiful, classic name. I only know 1 and she is a sweetheart!

My daughter is called Evelyn (but we call her Effie) she has also never been called Evie. Yes, it’s more popular than I would like too but it’s a beautiful name with a variety of good nicknames, will look good on a CV and will grow with her. Try not to dwell on the opinions on MN-there are VERY few names that are universally liked here

I like Evelyn. I had an issue with my daughters name. It's quite old fashioned and I use the full name and not a common shortened version. Her dad basically wouldn't allow her middle name to be her first name (which I wanted) and I also wanted the true version of that too. For example her name is (isn't!) Dorothy Jess and I wanted to use Dorothy and Jessica but Jessica first. He just wouldn't allow it. We split up not long after she was born and it was took a long time to even admit my issue. The best thing I done was confuse in friends and once I'd admitted it (I felt terrible guilt) I felt loads better. My friends were extremely supportive and told me all their family who get called totally different names etc. Evelyn is a classic name and it's lovely. I like Evie too but ikwym about shortening it, I prefer full names so I'd stick with it as it is and ignore any negative comments or try to scroll past threads you think will upset you 💐

It's a gorgeous timeless name OP