My husband won’t let me use a name that is v important to me

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Namedrama · 09/12/2018 09:27

I’ve name changed for this for obvious reasons.

Nina Simone who was my father’s favourite singer. When my father was dying I would play him Nina Simone tracks and we’d listen together and we had some lovely last moment sharing our love of her music. I told him that if I had a daughter I would remember my dad by using the name Nina.

My DH dislikes the name. He won’t even entertain it. I’m heart broken, it’s not just a name I love, it’s a connection to my dad. The baby will have DH’s last name and a middle name that is traditional in his family - is it too much to ask for a first name that humour my dead father?

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ChaosMoon · 09/12/2018 09:37

I agree. If he hates it then fair enough not to use it for a first name. But if he vetoes it as a middle name, he shouldn't get to use his family middle name either.

Sexnotgender · 09/12/2018 09:36

If he gets the family tradition middle name then you should get to choose the first name. Or you need to rethink the whole name and have Nina as a middle name.

Bunnybigears · 09/12/2018 09:34

To be fair if he really doesnt like the name it would be unfair to insist his daughter is called by that name. I would use it as a middle name and find a first name you both like. But then ive never understood naming a child to honour/remember other people as they are a brand new person in their own right not a memorial bench.

Hoppinggreen · 09/12/2018 09:29

Give him the choice that it’s the first name or middle name
If he can have a middle name that’s important to his family you should be able to have a name that’s important to yours

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