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Thoughts on having a really rare name?

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reeny19 · 30/11/2018 13:59

So I’ve recently found out I’m pregnant and we’ve had to seriously start deciding on names.

I’m torn between traditional, timeless ‘normal’ names but there are two very rare names that I love (one for a boy, one for a girl). I was expecting DH to veto my unusual names but he hasn’t and wants to use them!

What are your thoughts on rare names? Do you have one yourself? did you love/hate it or experience any problems with it? Did you name your own child something rare and how did you get on? What did your family think? Do you know of any children with rare names? Is it quite normal nowadays for children to have unusual names?

My issue with unusual names is that it’s does mean that the child will lose a degree of anonymity. I can also foresee my family disliking the names, people being confused when they hear it, struggling with spelling, remembering it, pronounciation etc.

Help please! Grin

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NinjaGoSaysNo · 30/11/2018 15:55

Ok so I'm totally showing my ignorance here but how do you pronounce Ariadne? In my head it's Arry Add Nee Blush

Idontneedrescuing · 30/11/2018 15:52

Love Ariadne! It was on our list but we had s boy.

I think it’s fone to pronounce and spell - known enough just uncommon. Go for it!

My name is rare for girls in UK (and spelt differently) but a common US 80s girls name and I always liked not having to qualify with a surname and being the only one

Cosmoa · 30/11/2018 15:52

My daughter has a very rare name. Only 5 born last year for instance and it was the first time the name had been recorded. (names only get recorded/relased on the ons data when there are more than 2 born a year).

So far we have had a wonderful response. It's not a 'yoonique' name and has a similar sound to lots of more common names so it works really well. People always think it's quite refreshing and point out that it's unusual but (as one lady said) "not like sky, or blue or purple 😂"

Winterwonderland12 · 30/11/2018 15:41

Sorry births (stupid autocorrect)

Winterwonderland12 · 30/11/2018 15:40

Ariadne is very rare with 28 registered births last year.

That's not that rare! My ds was one of 13 things n his year.

Ariadne is beautiful!

reeny19 · 30/11/2018 15:34

Hmm, I’m so torn now. Some of you guys have swayed me towards using a rare name, others have highlighted to me just how important it is to have anonymity and a name that is understood by the general population.

I don’t think I’m anymore decided than I was earlier, expect another thread from me later with a shortlist!

I don’t think I could use Ariadne, even though it is my fav girls name. I think I could use Olan.

At least I’ve got a few months to think about it..... but DH certainly cannot be trusted to help me decide, the amount of shite names he’s suggested....!

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Nesssie · 30/11/2018 15:34

Personally I think Ariadne will be tough for her, as its not obvious how to pronounce or spell. Olan is ok, as it is pretty self explanatory how to say/spell. Plus if he did have to spell it out, o-l-a-n is much quicker and easier than a-r-i-a-d-n-e.

NinjaGoSaysNo · 30/11/2018 15:27

I have a really common name, it was in the Top 20 for all the 80s and 90s and appears on name lists here still! I avoided giving my children top 50 names but they do have top 100 ones because those were what we liked (& one of those is now top 20, oh well!).

I think unusual is nice as long as it's actually a name. I know a few kids with very unusual names (think along the lines of, I dunno, Cloud or Mushroom, or Whimsy) and it just seems like the parents think that they and their children are more special/unique/better than everyone else (obviously everyone loves their own kids the most, but you know what I mean).

BertrandRussell · 30/11/2018 15:27

An I the only person old enough to be thinking "Lovely to vada your jolly old eek!"?

Probably.......

starkid · 30/11/2018 15:22

*have, I haven't changed it!

IRememberSoIDo · 30/11/2018 15:22

Slightly different but I have an Irish name with Irish spellings and it's a nightmare having to spell it or repeat it any time I'm anywhere abroad. When I lived abroad it drove me nuts and I didn't give my children Irish names because of this. I like rarer but heard of names of that makes sense. My eldest has a name everyone has heard but there aren't loads of them around.

VforVloodyHell · 30/11/2018 15:22

Ive just looked and it says it’s a German name which means famous ruler (I wonder if the Star Wars writers were influenced by that when naming darth Vader)

My mum watched my girl when she was pregnant with me and it was the little girls name in that and she fell in love with it.

starkid · 30/11/2018 15:20

I had a very uncommon name (at least in the UK) and really like it. It's a 'proper' name. I actually get upset when I hear of other people with my name! It feels like my name only haha

I could never get the tacky pens/magnets etc. with my name on like you see on stands in shops, but I didn't care too much about it. My parents did get me personalised things ordered in though every now and then.

You'd have to talk about online anonymity though, as I used to stupidly but my full name on forums etc as a teen and I'm pretty sure there weren't any other people with my full name...

HappyPunky · 30/11/2018 15:19

I've only met one person with my name. It's a standard name just unusual in this country.

DD has a name in the top 100 with the normal spelling and we meet some with her name but there are unlikely to be six in her class. She has a standard but unusual in this country middle name just in case.

I could never get personalised things with my name on unless they were ordered specially.

bourbonbiccy · 30/11/2018 15:19

I love a rare name, my name is not an unknown name by any stretch but there was not another in my whole school and I liked that.
You could name them common names and they not like them. I would go rare all day long if you like it.
And I like the name.

Disfordarkchocolate · 30/11/2018 15:18

They are both really lovely. Ariadne reminds me of Hurcule Poirot, lots of people will have heard of it. I think both are easy to spell too.

reeny19 · 30/11/2018 15:18

Ploppy - (love the username Grin So can I ask why you didn’t go for Ariadne in the end? Or is it still a possibility for you?

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Racecardriver · 30/11/2018 15:16

I had a very rare name. I’ve never met anyone else with the same name. It’s never been a problem. It’s a normal name but just not really used that often long or Ethel or Harper or something

Caprisunorange · 30/11/2018 15:13

My D.C. go to nursery with a vada, her parents are Sri Lankan

Ploppymoodypants · 30/11/2018 15:13

Oh we had Ariadne of our ‘list’.
I know one as well. It’s not that rare. And its lovely.

And Olan is easy to say and spell. And similar to Arlo of which there are lots.

They are great names.

I was just looking at my phone contact list and I have the following:
Big Sarah
Little Sarah
Happy sarah
Crazy sarah
Sarah oz (lives in Australia)
Work sarah
Sarah (xyz ‘s mum)

That’s Sarah’s! I have a similar number of Beckys too. And don’t start me on the Paul and Daves 😁

reeny19 · 30/11/2018 15:05

Vada is a nice name, it’s growing on me! I wouldn’t use it, but I do like it. What’s the origin?

Right I’ll come clean and tell you guys. Only because I’ll prob make another thread at some point on here with a shortlist.
Boy: Olan
Girl: Ariadne

Olan doesn’t seem to register anywhere online in UK lists.
Ariadne is very rare with 28 registered births last year. Of note - that is more Ariadnes registered last year than Nigels or Tracys.
I think people will struggle a lot more with Ariadne, and my friends hate it. ....but I just love it!

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BillyAndTheSillies · 30/11/2018 14:51

DS has a rare name but it's recognisable and most people have heard of who he is named after so it's not a problem.
He likes it, he suits it and we've never had a negative reaction to it.
There were 52 people in the U.K. given his name in the year he was born and the number hasn't increased since then.
It's definitely a name as opposed to a word which is probably part of the reason everyone seems OK with it.
My own name is top 100, and I've honestly only met maybe 10 other people with my name. Mainly because the male version is much more popular.

drivemissdaisy · 30/11/2018 14:50

You have to tell us the names!

Strokethefurrywall · 30/11/2018 14:49

DS2 has a pretty rare name, I don't even think it registered on UK births last year or if it did there were about 3 of them!

It's not that it's particularly out there, it's a very common Irish surname which is his first name (not Riley/Reilly) but not that often used as a first name.

He gets nothing but compliments and loves his nickname Sully.

Rare names don't necessarily have to be quirky or weird.

PS I love Vada, it's a gorgeous name!!

Snowwontbelong · 30/11/2018 14:47

I am 47 and only met 2 with my name. Dc's friends think it's odd!! Dh never uses it so not sure if he likes it or not!!
A few of my dc are the only ones of their name in school, one dd has only met another 1 of her - a shop assistant who she she asked if she could approach for a chat-the lovely girl was so nice to her!!
Nice to be different ime!!

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