Name nicking

We didn’t tell anyone the 2 names we had lined up for DC1, when DD was born we obviously shared the girls name. When asked what she would’ve been if she was a boy we just laughed and said you’ll find out if the next one is a boy.

We may not still like the boys name if we ever have one, but we wanted the option to be there. In all honesty I think we will have had DC2 by the time any of our siblings get around to having kids, so it shouldn’t be an issue really. I know DB and SIL name choices and they are not to my taste 😊

Way back when BIL used a name I'd always wanted for a ds should I have one. We'd never discussed it but even so it really felt like a case of 'of all the names in all the world...'

I used it for ds2's middle name but I'm still (entirely unreasonably) a bit bitter so I can understand your frustration, OP.

Object lesson in never letting on until baby is born I'm afraid.

Super frustrating. I would be upset if my brother chose to name his daughter one of the two names we've chosen, one in particular I'd be annoyed with, however it wouldn't change anything honestly. Two cousins with the same name is hardly an issue. A lot of families have two Michaels or Johns etc.

If you're going to have a girl name her whatever you want. So what if their cousin has the same name. It won't kill them

I also think it's a good idea to not discuss your names in your family. If they end up being used by someone else, too bad, but you can't claim a name. I don't think it's fair to do so as someone else might love it as much as you do and might have wanted to use it for years too. And they may have a child of that sex and you may not.

I think it has to be 'first come first served' basis when it comes to names in the family. Some in our family had very much the same taste in names - in fact the same boy and girl names were favourites of 2 couples. One couple ended up using both of them. The other couple were very disappointed, but agreed it was the only policy that works and came up with other names they love. And, bonus, they love the names of their niece and nephew. Good grace and generosity have prevailed

You bagsied a name but didn't use it as you had a DS. Your DB has bagsied it for his stbb DD. But your bagsie still stands even though you're not pregnant yet, or guaranteed a DD? Get a bloody grip.

Maybe they forgot that was the name you had picked out?

If not, I would also be annoyed! I wouldn't a me you for using it regardless.

It is annoying but there’s nothing you can do. I stupidly told my brother in law what OH and I would have named a girl in future and now we have a niece with that name! I keep name ideas to myself now.

I completely understand how you feel and Id definitely say something. The same has recently happened to me. I was pregnant earlier this year and would’ve had the same due date as my very close family member. I’ve always had a certain girls name and I told her the name when pregnant with my son 2 years ago, and again when I found out I was pregnant again. It’s an unusual name and not her type of choice. She said this time she liked this name and it was on her list. I sadly had a miscarriage and she is about to her a baby girl. She’s now announced the baby’s name (not the one I had chosen) and it’s completely different but she’s made three comments that I can ‘have’ my name as her OH hates it
I’m pregnant again. She doesn’t know I’m insane enough to have still used it regardless
I just wish people would be more original!
ZebraKid71 This has made my night!

There are millions of names to choose from, there must be One you can choose. I actually know of an One pronunciation ON EE (girl)

As a side note... My friend told us all her name for her baby if it was a girl when she was about 4 months pregnant. Her sister who was about 2 months ahead of her then said how lovely and unusual it was and how she was going to use it. My friend was furious and named her new cat the name and posted it all over Facebook so the sister didn't use it in the end as it was seen as the cats name. When my friends dd was born my friend used the name she loved and said she had posted the cat to gage opinion haha.

I'd be annoyed, but as youre not even pregnant and may never have a daughter i don't really think they've done anything wrong? What is the name? If it's the name of someone close to you and not them you could maybe raise it with them. I also think popularity is an important consideration.

Make it clear you’d still use it as you have wanted to for so long. They may then get the message and change their minds, if not then they can’t be annoyed if you do use it in the future!

Honestly, I'd probably be a bit peeved and mutter to myself about them not having imagination. But then I'd just shrug my shoulders and get over it and think of a different name for my hypothetical future daughter.

If they'd copied the name of my actual real child my levels of peevishness would be significantly higher.

My mum lifted my first and middle name verbatim from a friend at work and 27 years later can’t understand why her friend wasn’t best pleased!

Yeah I would warn them too and just say you would definitely use it if you have a girl one day! May put them off

Yes, I think that's fair enough! Warn them and you never know, it might put them off....

Unlucky but you don't own a name. They
have done nothing wrong and can call their baby whatever they like!

My cousins - brother and sister both used the same name for their DD's. Only about 6 years apart in age and live close to each other.

No one cares. They are totally different people/personalities.

Names are just names and are free for anyone to use. You can't have dibs on a name just in case one day you might have a girl.

A sibling used the name they knew full well that we had chosen for our baby (theirs was born about 4 months before). We haven't changed our name because of this and they were told that we absolutely wouldn't be doing so prior to registering their birth.

How do they even know what you chose as a girl's name?

They haven't stolen a name. You can still use it. I have the same name as my cousin, my brother does too. No one is confused.

Another reason not to announce any names until the baby has arrived.

I'd be furious but that's because all the names we like are lovely names but unheard of.. And I spent a lot of time finding them! I'd have to say something, I probably would just come out with "woah that was our name, what are you thinking?" 😂