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I don't like my baby's name

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ellytil · 11/11/2018 00:59

I didn't like any boys names while pregnant and went through list upon list and settled on a name that I liked but didn't love. It was the boys name that I liked the most. He's now 4 weeks old and I'm really going off the name, I don't think that I like it at all anymore and doesn't feel that it suits him. I'm not with his father anymore. I'm just going to have to deal with it, aren't I?

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FartnissEverbeans · 13/11/2018 02:56

Ezra Jasper is an awesome name, I absolutely love it! But I can understand that sometimes names just don’t ‘fit’ for whatever reason.

How would his dad react if you changed the name?

GingerbreadBlob · 11/11/2018 23:40

Edward Thomas Hardy. If Tom can do it, so can Jasper. I love jasper.

Didyeeaye · 11/11/2018 23:29

I think Ezra Jasper is lovely but if you prefer Jasper its totally acceptable to call him that rather than his first name. It's totally up to you x

FairyFantastic · 11/11/2018 22:54

Ezra Jasper is a wonderful name OP!

I had the same issue, in fact there's a fair few threads I put on here about it.

Liked the first name, was on the list, but never expected it to be chosen as her first name. Then set strict rules so I'd love her middle names. Ended up compromising and now go through phases of struggling with those.

Honestly, the way I cope is:
Babies are potatoes. They look like potatoes. The flap their arms for a while. I call my baby 'Baby' or 'Bebe' or 'Baba' and have referred to her as such since birth. It's only within the past few months I've started calling her her name, and it's just automatic, I don't register. When I dwell on it, I start questioning if she suits it. She has other nicknames already, and I have sat down and thought about all the reasons we couldn't pick other names on our list.

And when people say your baby name is lovely, BELIEVE THEM. I think Ezra Jasper is a brilliant name, you could refer to him as both names. You'll find a way OP. If you want to change it, go for it, but it is a great name.

Good luck!

treegone · 11/11/2018 22:46

What about shortening it..Ezzy is cool?!

moredoll · 11/11/2018 21:51

Just call him by his middle name. Plenty of people do this, eg:

James Paul McCartney
William Bradley Pitt
Laura Jeanne Reese Witherspoon
Walter Bruce Willis
Joseph Rudyard Kipling
Thomas Sean Connery

MikeUniformMike · 11/11/2018 17:26

I'm not keen on Ezra, and it has become very popular very quickly, so will date. I like Jasper. If you have not registered him yet, swap the names around, or choose a new first name. If you have registered him you can change his name on the BC.

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ellytil · 11/11/2018 17:08

It's definitely not an extension of my dislike of his father. I just don't really like the name all that much and he doesn't feel like an Ezra.

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shaggedthruahedgebackwards · 11/11/2018 16:43

IMHO Ezra is far nice than Jasper but it's obviously purely subjective

Do you think that your dislike of the name is really an extension of your dislike of your DS's Dad? (especially if he helped chose the name)

Idontwanttogo · 11/11/2018 16:41

I changed ds name to his middle name when he was 3 months old he's 17 now as he prefers his middle name. Ezra is a great name though.

Moonflower12 · 11/11/2018 16:38

Just use Jasper. I've lots of friends and was at school with lots of people who are known by their middle name.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 11/11/2018 14:57

You don't have to stick to a name you don't love. Jasper is so much nicer than Ezra imo.

MrsFoxPlus4 · 11/11/2018 14:54

I genuinely didn’t even remember Scott’s name was actually William Scott Surname until their wedding lol

MrsFoxPlus4 · 11/11/2018 14:52

I have cousins who go by their middle name. Even at school they were known as that.

TatianaLarina · 11/11/2018 12:48

Love Jasper. Don’t Ezra. Do it.

You risked your health to give birth to him so you get the last say. Plus you’re not even with the dad any more.

Fifthtimelucky · 11/11/2018 10:37

If you really like Jasper, just call him by his middle name.

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ellytil · 11/11/2018 10:20

His middle name is Jasper. I really like Jasper but his father doesn't. I think I'm just going to have to stick with Ezra and hopefully learn to love it

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Ricekrispie22 · 11/11/2018 10:17

Does he have a middle name?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 11/11/2018 10:12

Elijah?

stellarfox · 11/11/2018 09:47

There is no reason why you can’t change it especially as it’s so early on. Some people change the name quite a lot later. There are quite a few threads on this on Reddit if you want to read any. I do like the name though but if you’re unhappy with it then go for it and change it! Did you come up with the name or your ex partner?

babydreamer1 · 11/11/2018 08:25

I take it you've registered him and put the father on the birth certificate so you'd need his permission to change it? Ezra is nice though, I also like Edris.

MrsFoxPlus4 · 11/11/2018 07:04

I think Ezra is lovely. I wouldn’t go making any decisions if you can’t decide on another name but it is doable.

costacoffeecup · 11/11/2018 05:59

Change it, not because I'm not keen on Ezra but because you're not!

earlybyrd · 11/11/2018 05:37

Ezra is beautiful but more to the point - is the father in the birth certificate? Does he get a say?

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ellytil · 11/11/2018 05:17

His name is Ezra. I don't have another name in mind in particular but every name that I hear I now prefer Ezra. My main issue is that I'm not with his father and we aren't on the greatest of terms.

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