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Would you judge me if I changed my baby's name? 3mo

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gladtown · 04/11/2018 16:00

Hi,

Having a difficult time with DD's name. Registered it and regretted it.

Honestly I was really depressed in pregnancy and didn't give a toss about names. I know that sounds horrible. I am so bloody ashamed and embarrassed looking back. I just wanted it registered and done. I am in a much better frame of mind now and I am absolutely gutted that I didn't choose my favourite name for her.

She is 3 months now. Husband thinks we should change it as he's gone off the name as well.

And no, sorry I am not posting the names. I read a thread like this where the mum had volunteered the names and the entire thread turned into "Oh but I like X name better than Y" and vice versa. I just want to gauge the reaction of doing something like this.

Husband's told his mum and dad, sister and brother. Mum and dad didn't bat an eye. Sister laughed and said "you are having a hard time with names aren't you", said it will be a funny story and said it is going to be difficult for her to adjust. Brother sat on the phone in silence and said "I don't get it but it's your business". I told my mum and dad and they said no big deal. Aunt says "I get it, it's not weird"

I want you to be totally honest with me, what would your reaction be if I was an acquaintance, friend, or family member and I told you I had made a mistake and was changing DD's name? This seems a bit uncommon and I am feeling quite a bit daft about it, but I really want people to give me their true reactions.

And be honest, do you think DD is going to care about this when she gets older?

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silverliningsa · 04/11/2018 16:25

Yes definitely change it or it will keep bothering you. Just do it!

AtticaRose · 04/11/2018 16:22

I wouldn't think anything of it whatsoever. If anything, these boards have shown me how common it is!

If you both agree, just go for it. Baby won't remember, and will always have a good story.

NicoAndTheNiners · 04/11/2018 16:18

Change it. It will make no difference to a 12 week old. You’ll regret not changing it if you’ve already got to the stage where you dislike her current name.

What would I think if I knew you? I’d be a bit suprised as I don’t know anyone who has done this before but I’d soon forget about it. In all honesty I would not be that interested (sorry).

sabrinathethirtysomethingwitch · 04/11/2018 16:15

Just change it and then move on and forget about it. Enjoy your baby

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gladtown · 04/11/2018 16:14

Thanks everyone. I guess I am just feeling a bit "oh shit" as it's November now and she was born in July. I have let it go on far too long. Honestly I had been calling her the other name since a week and a half after I got her home and we just "went public" with it to everyone else about 2 weeks ago. so it has been a while.

I was so horrified about it that I just sat in silence thinking "what the fuck, what the fuck, what the fuck, oh no what do I do" for the past couple of months.

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strawberrypenguin · 04/11/2018 16:11

If both you and DH want to change it then go ahead. People won't remember after a while but you'll always have to live with it. And no I wouldn't judge

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gladtown · 04/11/2018 16:11

JeSuisPrest lmao! Yes I completely know what you mean. I had registered DD and when people asked me her name I had to think for a moment. I wasn't incredibly sleep deprived, but I disliked her name so much and had no connection to it that I was like errrrmmmm....shit what is it now?

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Myshinynewname · 04/11/2018 16:09

I’d do it and I wouldn’t have much of an opinion either way if a friend told me they had done it.

SallyWD · 04/11/2018 16:09

Do it. There's no problem at all.

JeSuisPrest · 04/11/2018 16:08

Honestly, I wouldn't give it a second thought if I knew you. She'll never remember her original name. To be honest when DD was tiny I was so sleep deprived there were a couple of times I couldn't actually remember her name and made something up.

When she was about 12 weeks an acquaintance saw me pushing her in the pram in the street and we chatted. He asked what she was called and I had a complete brain freeze and blurted out "Isabel". DD is not called Isabel Confused. He's never asked why I call her something different now Grin

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gladtown · 04/11/2018 16:08

Nottalotta was there?? No I had just signed up for the site to post this actually. Makes me feel a bit better then that someone else has been in my shoes!

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mumisalliam · 04/11/2018 16:06

Change it
I knew someone who announced the birth of her little boy with the name she had called her bump during the pregnancy
Then a few weeks later she posted a picture calling him a different name as she admitted the first one just didn't feel right
Cool
I didn't bat an eyelid tbh and honestly thought good for her!

Change it! It literally does not matter what anyone else thinks at all
And she's so young so she won't have a clue!

missmouse101 · 04/11/2018 16:05

Totally fine, do it asap.

DramaAlpaca · 04/11/2018 16:03

Just do it.

SayNoToCarrots · 04/11/2018 16:03

Don't stick with a shit name for the rest of the kid's life just because you're afraid of looking stupid.

Littlelambpeep · 04/11/2018 16:02

She is only 12 weeks old. Change it- no one will really remember it but if you keep it you will be annoyed forever about it

Sparrowlegs248 · 04/11/2018 16:02

Have you posted before OP? If not there was an almost identical post a week or so ago. The general consensus was to just change it.