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Name regret

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Loubell21 · 30/09/2018 20:34

Hi all I'm consodering changing my 7 month old babies name. My husband refuses to and I'm suffering badly over it. I feel if let my baby down. Anyone else going through this?

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kettleonplease · 07/10/2018 04:58

I honestly think you should change it. Who cares what anyone else thinks!

TheMythicalChicken · 07/10/2018 04:21

Just change it via Deed Poll. It’s about 25 quid. You’ll feel so much change better after you’ve done it. Maybe have a small party to celebrate her new name?

MrsFoxPlus4 · 07/10/2018 04:06

People will get used to it, change the name.

flumpybear · 07/10/2018 03:18

What do you want to change it to? Just thinking if it's lulu and you change to Louise that's not a big change, but a larger change would be a little more tricky

moredoll · 07/10/2018 02:16

It's much easier to change the name before the baby is 12 months old, presumably to take account of name regret.

DollyDayScream · 06/10/2018 23:51

My husband named dd2 and I bitterly regret going along with it. It's a very safe, but dull, run often mill name that I just don't love. I can't change it now, but if so could back - I would definitely call her something else.

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 23:34

Also what was people's reactions like? And was it tramatic or easier than you thought

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 23:32

Love your name facelikeapairoftits by the way. You are correct. I'm going to add another name and just tell people this one suited her better. Some quite strong reactions on this that I shouldn't! Oh if life was that easy

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withsexypantsandasausagedog · 06/10/2018 23:06

Change it if you feel that bad!

FaceLikeAPairOfTits · 06/10/2018 23:03

You need to prioritise making yourself feel better. Do you have a name you prefer? Rip off the plaster, face the embarrassment and change it.

(Easy for me to say, I made DP tell everyone Blush)

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 22:55

I just wish I could rewind time back to when we announced it

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 22:53

I can't believe I'm in this mess. I am very angry at myself butnitnis ruining my time with my daughter. Instead of enjoying her I'm crying all the time filled with remorse. I genuinely hate it. That is a gd suggestion to gradually change it with nicknames. I'm not sure of people's reactions and in a way I am scared of it myself

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FaceLikeAPairOfTits · 06/10/2018 22:48

Does she have a middle name that you prefer? Any good nicknames?

I changed DD’s name and felt so much better immediately.

notimaginingit · 06/10/2018 22:44

In time he will forget the embarrassment he felt at admitting a mistake and changing her name.
Whereas it sounds you will not grow out of this feeling of regret.

Above I was trying to say: first Chantal, then for few months transitional name ofChantalia, then eventually Talia

So if her name is now for example Tracy, transitional name if Trasana, then Anna.

notimaginingit · 06/10/2018 22:40

Am on phone and have had wine hence the dog’s breakfast that was my last post.
Is there any chance you do it gradually, was what I was trying to say Smile

notimaginingit · 06/10/2018 22:38

Is there any way you could do it gradually?
Say from Chantal beginnto recer to her as Chantalia, then drop the first part and call herTalia

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 22:32

Meant to add my husband is.more embarassed about changing name. Said other than that he doesn't care

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Loubell21 · 06/10/2018 22:30

I never really liked it. I had a horrific pregnancy and birth. I just went for it every time I say the name i feel great sadness that it doesn't suit her. If been to drs I haven't got pnd so it is name regret

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lululloveslemons · 03/10/2018 07:22

Apollo - no I'm not the OP just have a similar name. Lulu isn't the name I regret (just my nickname!)

physicskate · 02/10/2018 22:24

I was never called my awful first name (which my dad made up). When kids at school found out about it. I was teased no end. I was always called by a non of my middle name and legally changed it to that when I married.

My parents both regret what they named me and called me by my middle name almost exclusively from 9 days old...

bridgetreilly · 02/10/2018 17:50

There is no perfect name out there (just as there are no perfect mothers!) Whatever your daughter is called, you have not let her down. She will be fine.

ApolloandDaphne · 02/10/2018 17:49

Have you name changed OP? Is Lulu the name?

twiglet · 02/10/2018 17:47

I think it depends on what the name is to if its acceptable to change it. If its completely out there and you think it might hinder them then maybe examine further with your OH.

SemperIdem · 02/10/2018 17:42

What is the name? I think it is unreasonable to change a child’s name, really.

VickiK1 · 02/10/2018 09:36

Lulu - everyone thinks I'm crazy , I don't have PND the name just doesn't feel right !

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