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Baby name anger

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Ballerina68 · 08/09/2018 17:16

This is potentially going to sound ridiculous but bear with me...
My favourite girls name for many years has been Felicity and my dh loved it too. When we had my son 3 years ago he would have been Felicity if he was a girl and so when we fell pregnant at the beginning of this year it was top of our girls list again. Then my friend had a baby girl and called her Felicity. I cried!! I quickly got over it though as she isn’t a close friend and at the end of the day it’s just a name... so it stayed on our list and I came to terms with it having been used by someone we knew. I started to prefer another name anyway as it seemed to suit my sons name more as a sibling duo. When we asked my son what we should name the baby if she’s a girl he chose the alternative name so that was final. When she was born I briefly considered Felicity again but used it as her middle name instead. That way it was still part of her name.
Now my close friend (who knew the whole story from it being my favourite name 3 years ago, to how upset I was about someone else using it and even that we nearly called our daughter it still) had her baby this morning and has called her Felicity.
I can’t help but feel a bit... betrayed and upset. I realise it’s just a name and she may have also liked it and just because I like a name shouldn’t stop her from using it. But I feel it’s a bit strange that she would still choose this name knowing how attached I am to it and how close we are as friends. It just feels too close. It’s made me question if I made the right choice by not using it for my daughter (although I would never change her name now and I do genuinely love her name).
To be honest I’m not sure what the point of this post is. I’m just feeling upset and to be honest still hormonal from childbirth.
Has anyone else ever felt this strongly about a name? Please tell me I’ll get over it eventually?

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strawberrypenguin · 08/09/2018 17:33

But you had a chance to use it and didn't. Sorry but your friend wasn't in the wrong here

margaurette · 08/09/2018 17:30

It's a nice name, and it's anyone's to use. 'Anger' seems an over reaction.

HyggeHeart · 08/09/2018 17:30

I think your hormones are making you more upset than you would normally be. I'm glad you love your daughters name, try and focus on that for now and the rest won't feel half so strange when your hormones have settled and you are getting proper sleep. Hugs op!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 08/09/2018 17:28

You could have used it but you chose not to. Don’t think you can be cross about it.

Sierra259 · 08/09/2018 17:28

Your friend probably only used the name because you had the opportunity to, but didn't.

I was devastated when BIL and SIL used the name I had mentioned in passing to SIL that we would use for a boy. I knew the old "you don't own a name" lecture, but it didn't make me any less upset for a while. It didn't help that we had been ttc for ages and were struggling. Now 2 years later, it honestly doesn't bother me in the slightest, though it has made me a bit more circumspect with how much I share with them! It's not rational to feel betrayed and upset, but emotions don't have to be rational. You will get over it in time, I promise.

Secretsquirrel101 · 08/09/2018 17:24

I’d understand if you’d yet to have a daughter and your friend knew how much felicity apparently meant to you but you had a little girl and didn’t use it?! You’re being daft.

Mrbatmun · 08/09/2018 17:24

I totally opened this thinking it was going to be asking people their opinions on the name 'Anger' for a baby!

SoyDora · 08/09/2018 17:22

But you didn’t use it? I’d understand your anger if you were pregnant and were planning to use it, but you had a DD and chose another name.

PuppyMonkey · 08/09/2018 17:20

I think as you didn’t actually choose it for your DD in the end, she’s probably thought “ooh, I’ll have that then.” I don’t think betrayal is quite the right word tbh.Grin

dinosaurkisses · 08/09/2018 17:19

So you decided not to use it as first name when you had your daughter, but you’re still upset that someone else did?

I think you’re being a bit unreasonable.