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Do I go with the safe or contentious name?

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Rjd13 · 07/09/2018 19:19

A few weeks ago I posted about the name Tabitha. It’s my favourite but the response on MN was mixed and the reaction from my nearest and dearest even worse.

My OH and I had originally picked the name Ivy before we thought of Tabitha, but we’re worried that it’s too common and similar to your Ava’s and Evie’s etc

So my question is do I go with the name that is a bit more unusual but often disliked, or the one that is more liked but also more used? We love both but we are struggling to settle!

Tabitha Jane/Tabitha Rose

Ivy Elizabeth?

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squirrelnutkins1 · 07/09/2018 21:04

Love Tabitha. It sounds such a gentle sweet name. Ivy is a hard sounding name x

AuntGertrude · 07/09/2018 20:52

Tabitha Jane.
but definitely Tabitha

Bamaluz · 07/09/2018 20:39

I love Tabitha.

Ohyesiam · 07/09/2018 20:35

Tabitha, it’s GORGEOUS. I wish I’d called my daughter that.
She has a friend who is Tabitha, Tabby for short, she’s a glamorous sporty 14 year old and it really really suits her.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 07/09/2018 20:32

Don't like Tabitha, sounds like a simpering spoilt posh girl although I may be influenced by the ghastly TCB in Jilly Cooper.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 07/09/2018 20:26

I much prefer Tabitha.

chuckiecheese · 07/09/2018 20:24

Go with the name YOU like

You know in your gut which one that is- stick to it! Personally why let anonymous people determine your daughters name

n0ne · 07/09/2018 20:13

I like them equally, go with Tabitha if you like that one best.

Rhodes2015again · 07/09/2018 20:06

Love both but I’d go for tabitha.
I named my DD a name my family didn’t really like. Name her what you like. They’ll get use to it.

Zioanna · 07/09/2018 20:02

Tabitha is a gorgeous name, I’d definitely go with that one. Like PP, Ivy makes me think of Corrie.

Whyiseveryonesoangry · 07/09/2018 20:01

Really like Tabitha but you would have to like Tabby as a nickname as that will be what it gets shortened to.
For some reason, I don’t like Tabby, but do like Tally as a nickname, so personally I would go for Talitha.
I know a couple of baby Ivy’s but only one Tabitha who is over 30 now.

steppemum · 07/09/2018 19:59

I always think you should have a couple of names ready anyway, as the baby might arrive and you look at them and decide that one name or the other works better.

LynetteScavo · 07/09/2018 19:58

I know a few Tabitha's and only one Ivy.

I don't like one any more than the other.

smeerf · 07/09/2018 19:57

There are loads of baby Ivys in our area, I haven't met a Tabitha yet.

AuntieStella · 07/09/2018 19:56

I think Tabitha is a fantastic name.

I still think of Corrie when it comes to Ivy.

Sakura7 · 07/09/2018 19:56

Tabitha is a lovely name and it's clearly your favourite so I think you should go for it.

I don't like Ivy at all, it's a real granny name and not in a good way. Like Ethel or Agnes.

GingerCatBigBalls · 07/09/2018 19:55

Tabitha is unusual (and maybe a little posh?) but it's hardly crazy or made up. I personally love it.

knowledgeofnone · 07/09/2018 19:54

I have an Ivy so clearly love it, there are no other ones at her school and I only know of 1 other at a local school. I love the name Tabitha as well, I think there is a girl in Ivys school called Talitha which is a bit unusual but I like it as much as Tabitha.

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 07/09/2018 19:52

Oh, and definitely do Jane, not Rose, as the middle name.

TempsPerdu · 07/09/2018 19:51

Tabitha is beautiful. Much prefer it to Ivy, which is faddy and will date.

AnElderlyLadyOfMediumHeight · 07/09/2018 19:51

I'm not keen on Tabitha, but I prefer it to Ivy! Ivy will in the future be that name there was a spate of in the late 2010s.

Bosabosa · 07/09/2018 19:49

Love the name Tabitha and a uni friend called Tabitha (only one I know), is called Tabs

Tinywhale · 07/09/2018 19:49

I prefer Tabitha and it won’t date - Ivy definitely will.

maresedotes · 07/09/2018 19:48

Tabitha is a lovely name! Less keen on Ivy. Go for the name you love.

RavenWings · 07/09/2018 19:48

Really like Ivy.
Tabitha is horrible imo.

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