Husband cousin's named her twins like my children ?!

Ha cross posted and read that she married someone with same name as your husband and talks about their "special bond". Barf. She sounds bloody weird! Bit too single white female for me.

I really wouldn't put anything on FB - though tempting! You don't need to prove a point. As posts here substantiate, noone in their right mind would think this anything other than bizarre...
... Except your husband

I’d be asking her if she wanted it to look like she had babies with your DH

That's bonkers!

I'd say something on FB too but then I'm rather direct and would rather talk about something than silently seethe and be passive aggressive. Given you see them once a week I think you will find it hard if you don't say anything.

It's such a barking thing to do. I know no one owns a name but for it to be names from an inlaw's own culture, and your kids will be hanging out together regularly I just don't get why you would.

I have friends and relatives who have pipped me to the post in terms of choosing names I love, and even in that scenario I'd not use the same name (and I'm talking very normal English names that there will be more than one of, I'd just rather my kids were not one of 2 with the same name in their small social circle of friends and family).

Another here that thinks it's really a strange thing. Goady really.

And dh doesn't mind and doesn't support you when you get mad because she's always at yours?

Does your dh respect you and your opinions op? It sounds a strange dynamic.

I wonder if she has a 'thing' for your dh. Legally cousins can marry. But there are still issues with genetics if they have children.

It's just a bit too close for comfort that her dh shares her cousin's name, now her kids do. Have you noticed anything else she has copied about your lifestyle?

That is beyond weird. I'd be so cross that I wouldn't want to mix with her.

Now that's not on, and I'd be mad at dh for not saying anything. I'd ask her direct on Facebook why she's named them the same as yours.

Weird on so many levels- the copying and the use of Ethiopian names with no connection.
I used to teach a Nigerian girl whose name was beautiful and I loved it but when it came to naming my daughter it felt wrong as I have no Nigerian background- so I didn't use it.
I would be hugely annoyed and also lose all respect for her- also strange your husband isn't pissed off.

Wow. I’m just....well, wow. I’m speechless. I’m so sorry OP, this is such a HIDEOUS disrespect. And your husband sounds like a complete ass over it all.

She sounds like a jealous, creepy weirdo. I’d be keeping my babies WELL off limits...

That is bizarre

Why do people do this?

Bad enough to pick the same as someone else but to pick something from another culture you're not involved in is just weird

this is too weird.. does she really lack such a simple imagination

It is a bit odd, but I have to say those are absolutely beautiful names, so I can see why she might be tempted!

She maybe thinks it is a compliment.
It is weird though.No good can come now of mentioning it- sounds lijke a done deal.

btw I hope you have, for the purposes of this thread, changed names as otherwise it is a gross infringment of your cousin's family's privacy

I'd have to comment on the Facebook post, something like 'how iconic, they're your nices and nephews names!!" With a smiley on the end.. so you don't look like you're being a twat for your DH although you very much should be

Just so everyone knew how much of a loon she is.

That is very weird OP.

Her husband has the same name as your husband, and now she's used your children's names as well?
I think she's weird, and so is your husband's reaction.

Her husband and my husband already have the same name, so maybe I should change my name to hers to people will believe we've the same people :')

Apparently you can change your child's name within the first year if the new name is in regular use within the first 12 months of them being registered or if the name was conferred at baptism: www.ukdp.co.uk/name-change-birth-certificate-england-and-wales/

If I were you I'd see her in person about it and ask her what her intentions were. I know that people "don't own a name" but realistically speaking you're going to know these children for the rest of their lives, and their names will be a constant reminder of their mother's crassness.

I think now is your chance to have your say and directly ask her to choose new names.

I don't believe you'd be unreasonable in doing so, considering the names she chose are identical to the names of your own children and bear no real meaning to her since they come from your culture, not hers.

I'd want to know why, frankly, but it could be as some sort of tribute/respect to you. No-one would say anything if it was Michael and Sarah.