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Husband cousin's named her twins like my children ?!

119 replies

Elsafairly · 28/08/2018 19:35

Hey everyone

Here's my dilemma, my husband's cousin who lives 10 minutes away and who see at least one a week ( She is his only family left) had two gorgeous babies , a boy and a girl she named Ayaan and Issa. The same name I chose for my daughter (5) and son (8 months) I am really sad about it, those names reflect my culture ( I am from Ethiopia, and DH is English). So I feel like two little blonde babies with those name is a bit odd, or at least she could have asked me some advices on culturally similar names. My husband is mad at me, and think I should be flattered. But I am struggling to do so. I have not told her anything, and I will not. But now we gonna have 4 cousins with the same names, who will spend a lot of time together... Do you think I am being unreasonable ?

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Gavlaaar · 28/08/2018 21:35

HmmHmm

UpLighter · 28/08/2018 21:33

Decide you want to have the same name as her and insist DH calls you by that name.
Careful though cause she may start to use your name too!

brizzledrizzle · 28/08/2018 21:32

Photo or it didn't happen. Weird.

Wdigin2this · 28/08/2018 21:31

That's weird, and I don't why your husband is mad at you, you have a right to be put out by this mad woman!

ADishBestEatenCold · 28/08/2018 21:29

"My husband thinks it's cute and shows how much she loves us, and wants our children to have a special bond forever."

Your husband is wrong ... it will further break down any bond between the two families ... not strengthen it.

"As many of you suggested it, I will not say anything"

I would say something, but maybe not what she might expect Grin. Try ...

"I cannot believe you have done this, it feels like you're some kind of stalker! So I've decided it would be better if we didn't see much of you for a while. Ten years should do it!"

... that might do the trick.

mostdays · 28/08/2018 21:29

Bonkers. She sounds really odd. Your DH isn't sounding fab either!

confusedmomm · 28/08/2018 21:27

Oh that would annoy me big time

QuoadUltra · 28/08/2018 21:27

Yeah, weird. What do the rest of the family think?

Betsy86 · 28/08/2018 21:26
Shock
Aprilshowersinaugust · 28/08/2018 21:24

When a colleague of my dm's became a dgm her dd called them mine and my dd's names and declared it a coincidence. I have never met anyone with my name. And my dd has a non regular spelling of hers.
Bizarre.

Didn't bother me because I neither see her or know her so very less peculiar than your situation.

VanessaShanessaJenkins · 28/08/2018 21:23

Sounds like she's either infatuated with either you or your husband Confused

strawberrypenguin · 28/08/2018 21:22

That's really weird and I'd be fuming too OP. Everyone who knows you both will think she's crazy though

whymewhyme · 28/08/2018 21:20

Jesus I'd be having it out with her, that's so weird!

NewUserNameTime · 28/08/2018 21:19

This is bizarre!

KreigersClones · 28/08/2018 21:17

What, she borrows YOUR shoes and clothes? 😮
She’s a bunny boiling bitch who’s got a thing for her own cousin, either she fully wants him, or she feels she owns him.
Absolute fucking weirdo

ForeverJung · 28/08/2018 21:15

She must be a total VACUUM
Who would do this?

Dollymixture22 · 28/08/2018 21:13

Doubly weird as she doesn’t like you!

You will have to acknowledge the names are familiar😊😁. If you don’t everyone else will, especially your children! WIll cause no end of confusion over the years, particularly if this combination of names is unusual in the area! At least your girls are noticeably older. Everyone will know you are the original!

lottiegarbanzo · 28/08/2018 21:11

Sounds like she really wants your husband, or thinks she owns him and is being deliberately odd to piss you off and try to create tension and distance between you and him.

He needs to wake up and work out what is going on here and that it is not normal or healthy.

brokenharbour · 28/08/2018 21:10

It's SO weird that I'd be worried about her. Just not rational behaviour.

ScattyCharly · 28/08/2018 21:09

Weird thing to do but I’d forget about it as it’s her that looks quite the stalking weirdo. Can you imagine people saying to her oh that’s a nice name, where does it come from? She says Ethiopia. They say oh are you or your h Ethiopian? And she says, no I just copied the names of my cousins kids as his wife is Ethiopian. Person receiving info Confused

avocuddl · 28/08/2018 21:09

So weird!!

You have to tell us what happens when you meet her! What a nutter

deepsea · 28/08/2018 21:03

I too would have to call her and tell her how uncomfortable you are, it is weird and strange and it will have a detrimental effect on your relationship for sure

mama17 · 28/08/2018 21:02

I think you should ask her about it's such a strange thing to do!

Whatsthisbear · 28/08/2018 21:02

Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery-maybe she loves the names and wanted to copy
BUT
She talks for hours and hours and if you get mad she says to your husband “she’s jealous of our special bond”- how special is their bond? Is she wishing your husband was hers? Your family was hers? - odd

Our family share a middle name with children taken from their grandfathers name.....would be odd if we all called them the same names

mama17 · 28/08/2018 21:01

That's so strange to pick the same names. Maybe if you pick one because u really like it is flattering but both! And cousins! So strange

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