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Picked an unusual-ish name and now regret it, should I change her name?

271 replies

AshleighT85 · 04/07/2018 00:58

Hi, really struggling here, so don't be too harsh. Tried talking to my mum about it and got "you had 9 months to name her, then a further few weeks" Confused I know that. I did spend ages and ages going through names, but there wasn't any that I absolutely fell in love with, the name I ended up going with cane to me from watching a horror TV series, which I'd never admit! Blush it's not unusual, unusual, but you don't hear it much now. It's in the 300ths for names, so it is known... I haven't had 1 positive response "oh" is my most common response, followed by "it doesn't matter what she's called, she's beautiful" to try and cover up the fact they hate it. I just seem to be regretting it a lot, the more and more I look at her, the less I like it and the more I start to think I can't have you with that name, etc.

It would be changed to Olivia.

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Peachbubble · 04/07/2018 06:44

I really like Audrey, much more than Olivia. I'd keep her name as Audrey, she'll 'grow' into it, and you'll find a nn to suit if that's what you want.

strawberrypenguin · 04/07/2018 06:41

Audrey is a lovely name. Elegant and classic.

BellMcEnd · 04/07/2018 06:39

I know 2 teenage Audreys. It’s a fabulous name and far nicer (imo) that Olivia. It was in our list but we had boys.

HappyPumpkin81 · 04/07/2018 06:38

I love the name Audrey and think you should keep it. I had a wobble. Over me daughter's name when she was about 3-4 months old and wasn't sure it suited her but she is 8 months today and is growing into it.

Also when my friend told me she was naming her baby 'Iris' my reaction was a barely lukewarm 'that's nice' while inside I was thinking 'why would you give your beautiful little baby an old granny name.' Now Iris is 4, she is a fantastic fierce little girl and her name suits her beautifully and my initial thoughts were so wrong.

Bingpot · 04/07/2018 06:38

Audrey is a gorgeous name OP! Way more interesting than Olivia which is also lovely but prefer Audrey

TheCosmicOwl · 04/07/2018 06:35

Audrey is a lovely name and a million times better than Olivia (which is also nice, but so popular it's a little dull now).

pilotswife · 04/07/2018 06:25

Audrey is divine - every second girl is Olivia in Australia

Oysterbabe · 04/07/2018 06:24

Audrey is a gorgeous name, don't change it. Especially not to Olivia which is beyond dull.

BlueLegume · 04/07/2018 06:23

Also there are just far far too many Olivia’s. It’s a name that grates in me now although I once quite liked it.

BlueLegume · 04/07/2018 06:22

Please don’t change her name, Audrey is beautiful plus I only know one Audrey and she is one of the loveliest people I know, almost as though because she was named after Audrey Hepburn she has cultivated her elegance.

DevilsDoorbell · 04/07/2018 06:19

Love Audrey

shakeyourcaboose · 04/07/2018 06:18

Love Audrey! Keep it!!

Charolais · 04/07/2018 06:18

Audrey is a lovely name.

MargotMoon · 04/07/2018 06:17

I love Audrey!! Please don't change it Smile

BlueBell50 · 04/07/2018 06:16

Sorry, meant to say it all needs to be done at the register office, don’t just write it in yourself. Smile There is a charge of £40

Fflamingo · 04/07/2018 06:16

I have a d. U. L. L name - all my life this dull not even pretty name. Stick with the unusual one .

ellesbellesxxx · 04/07/2018 06:15

I love it.. I find it elegant and chic!

KERALA1 · 04/07/2018 06:15

Audrey is great. Olivia is this generation's Sarah all charm drained away through over use.

flaggerblasted · 04/07/2018 06:13

My niece is called Audrey and she's so cool! It suits her to a tee. There's one Audrey is our local school too. Please don't change it - it's a great name, very classy and I'm sure it'll have a surge of popularity soon ... and you were one of the first there!

BlueBell50 · 04/07/2018 06:12

If you do choose to change her name then it is simple to do within a year of registering her birth. If she is going to be baptised get a form from the register office and get the minister to complete it showing her new name or fill in a form at the register office yourself. The name at the top of the birth certificate will stay the same but the space at the bottom will show her new name and that will be used by the passport office etc . It is easy but it needs to be done within the first year.

I quite like Audrey though .

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/07/2018 06:11

I love Audrey. It was crossed off my list of names for dd because I wanted a name that sounds similar in French and English as dh is French. Audrey sounds very heavy in French. I would keep Audrey if I were you. Olivia is prolific right now. I also picked a more unusual name and probably in the top 300 too. There are 3 Olivia’s in dds year at school. She’s 10.

shouldwestayorshouldwego · 04/07/2018 06:09

Could it be partly a class thing? Reverse snobbery? I think of Audrey being slightly more aspirational and middle class than Olivia. It may sound more unusual if those around you are used to a different set of names. I agree maybe adopt a family nickname Rey/ Dree/ Dee (am presuming it is family and 'friends') but use her full name with new friends. Most children prefer a slightly more unusual name than being the second or third child in the class with the same name. I thought one of mine had a fairly classical but unusual name (she hasn't met many people with the name) then started primary school and there was a whole rainbow of unusual names.

Maybe watch some Audrey Hepburn films too and see whether you like it more or less, as many people will make that connection and it gives a good opening line with new people who will bring Audrey Hepburn into the conversation. Even if you don't like it more as a result people will use that as a lead in to a discussion. There aren't many people with my dd's name so people often say 'Oh, after to which dd looks at them scornfully and starts explaining the origins of the name and her parents just liked it. We get the 'named after' comments less with the dc with more popular names as no one celebrity springs to mind.

gingerfoxcub · 04/07/2018 06:07

I love Audrey and think it's so much lovelier than Olivia which is a dime a dozen. Don't change it unless you really hate it because of all the hassle with paperwork.

I used an even more old fashioned unusual (400ths) name for my daughter but I call her by a babyish nickname. I have had the full range of reactions from negative to positive which I expected and couldn't care less about.

DameSylvieKrin · 04/07/2018 06:04

Audrey is a beautiful name, and it hits the sweet spot of well known but infrequently used (although I think it’s due a revival). Everyone will have their own personal view on whether Audrey or Olivia is nicer, but objectively, as Audrey is a perfectly normal name, changing it to Olivia won’t offer your daughter any advantages. And what if you then get negative reactions because of how common the name is, will you change it again?
At 4 months I didn’t feel that my daughter suited her name. It wasn’t that she suited any other name more, it’s just that she seemed to little to need an actual name and we mostly called her various terms of endearment. Suddenly around 6 months that changed, and now it’s totally her name; I can’t imagine her being called anything else. So I would definitely give it a few months before you decide.

Rednaxela · 04/07/2018 05:51

Call her Rey while she's little.

Rey from Star Wars! Grin

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