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Viola, Violet, Venetia, Valentina, Varina, Vianna...

Vera is so cool! It's one of my favourite baby names :)

Maybe some simple didn't want you to use it (so they could)?

Please don't let their opinions influence you. It isn't their baby.

Also, how dare they?! It's just not their business. (Well, unless you wanted to call your child bigmouth... I was hoping this thread was about a surname and not about someone to use this as a given name when I saw the title...)

Violet has always been a beautiful classic name as have other flowers such as Lily and Rose.

Vera has a very strong working class old lady association.

Meant to say once the baby has the name I’m sure your family will find it much more appealing than they did when it was just hypothetical

I wouldn’t give a stuff what my family said - However I wouldn’t name a child Vera anyway because it’s awful. Both sides of the family loved the names we chose and that was certainly a plus.

I could put money on Vera being the next coveted old lady name in a couple of years as Florence, Ivy, Violet etc have all become recently.

It’s a real gem of a name. Easy to spell and say and has a lovely meaning: truth or faith.

Once the baby has the name it’s suddenly much more appealing than it was when you’re just bandying ideas around hypothetically. I definitely wouldn’t be put off op

And Vera, like Barbara, is now super cool.

I'd text your mum and say 'I hadn't even considered Edna but I love it! Thanks! By the way, names go in and out of fashion so of course you're going to hate our choices - I'm afraid that's Grandparenting Lesson Number 1, sorry if that's a shock to you! Edna's definitely on the shortlist, see you soon x'

Your baby, your choice, seriously, call your daughter whatever you like.

I would just use the name you like. Its nothing to do with anyone else. They had their chance to name their own children, now its your turn.

I love Vera and know a gorgeous baby called it. Your family will get used to your choice. Look how quickly people got used to Elsie, Florence and Mabel when they used to be considered old lady names.

Violet is also cool

Vera is gorgeous. ViVi is a cute nickname. Go for it and in the mean time tell them you’re now considering Millicent and not shortenibgvit to Millie or Agatha but considering using Aggi as shortening.

They’ll be so concerned about those chooses they’ll forget their angst.

BTW nothing against those two options but they seem like the kind of babes OPs family would hate

Vera Duckworth and Ivy Tildsley spotthedot - two notorious battle axe's off Coronation street.

You called?

Honestly go with a name you love. It is your decision, my mil hated our ds name (first child) when we made the mistake of telling her out options before he was born. We stuck with our choice, she got used to it and says she loves the name now. If you tell people during the decision making process they think you want their opinion. So your dh did fuck up there!

Don’t know those women GreatDuck but when I google images of Vera I get Brenda Blethyn (tv show) and a few models.

I like the name.

Valia is a nice alternative, Greek.

This is what I picture when I hear the names Vera and Ivy.

Vera is beautiful! No one will still hate it in a few months when it's attached to a beautiful baby

Vera is awful. I'm with your mum I'm afraid.
Obviously you can choose the name you like and everyone will have to lump it but they won't probably ever like it, which is a shame.

Vera makes me think of Vera Lyn so has WWII connotations to me, and yes it does feel similar to Edna to me. However granny names have been popular for some time now so I suspect a Vera would probably fit in just fine with her own generation. The darker green names website is good for recent trends and Vera looks to be inside the top 1000 in the last few years (Edna much less so).

My mum was very unhappy about my dd's name, but I didn't tell her until after dd was born and the name registered (she is named after two grandmothers and my mum didn't like that). One tactic to recover from this is to think of some names that your family like even less and from now until the baby is born give those as your new top five. They will forget they didn't like Vera then and accept your actual choice (whatever it is) with relief

Vera is a gorgeous name!

We gave DC1 the name of our choice, the name we absolutely loved. We were dragged over hot coals for our choice of name. He's in Sixth Form now and I don't think anyone in the family remembers how ghastly their reactions were. All they know is that they love this boy and the name IS so him.

You'd be mad not to go with Vera. It's a great name. You love it. And your family will love her sooo much. Vera won't just be some random name. It will identify the little girl they will love and cherish. And that changes everything.

My MIL is really old fashioned and objected to every one of SIL’s new names and every one of our old names.

It’s just an age thing. They are old and stuck in their ways.

Nothing wrong with Vera. Your family were rude for even commenting and your OH a twit for saying anything. He’s going to have to learn to keep quiet about baby things or you’re going to get a lot of unwanted “advice”.

Good thing is they know now! Gives them time to get used to Vera.

Vera is lovely, tell them shove its your baby, your choice you'll regret it if you don't go with it over a bunch of stupid ignorant comments who don't realise very old-fashioned names are on trend right now Vera won't feel out of place with the Mabel's and Alfred's in of her era!