Two middle names?

I don't really think it matters. I have a hyphenated name therefore no middle name (judge if you will). Both my brother and sister have a first and a middle name. It's never bothered me that I'm the odd one out technically.

I've got two middle names and my brother had one. Never bothered either of us.

My oldest has two middle names. I couldn't decide between two so gave him both in case I didn't have another son and couldn't use it. My other 4 sons all have one middle name and are very amused about why my eldest has two.

I don’t think it matters.

My DBro has 2 middle names, I and my sister don't. I have never even given it even a passing thought.

What is the reality? Are you doing it to favour him over your DD? No? then if it should ever come up, just tell him the real reason he has two middle names and she doesn't. We are all different in so many ways.

I have one middle name. My two siblings born after me don't have a middle name. I doubt they care now, but as children, they both expressed annoyance that I got a middle name and they did not.
The reason they did not get middle names is because
a) I got my maternal grandmother's name - the only relative my parents wanted to honour, and both my siblings are boys so no relative to honour and
b) we had a long surname and after me, they felt a first name, middle name and a long surname was such a pallaver, why bother.

But bottom line, yes, my brothers DID care that they did not get middle names when I did.

My dd only has 1 middle name but DS has 2. This is because DP want his Dad's name as a middle name (he died before I met DP) but it didn't really flow with the first name so we gave him another one to 'bump' the name off. Dd is 11 and not bothered at all.

My view is that there will always be something siblings feel is unfair! Whether it's names, or being born too near Christmas, or whatever!

Funnily l, it's my Dd with the family names that is 'jealous' of her sister's cool place name.

There will always be something...

My brother has two middle names, my sister and I have one. Never caused an issue! When I got older I realised it's sort of family tradition on one side but equally if it was only our immediate family that would have been fine too.

Overthinking- don't worry, the child won't reading anything into the number of middle names they have! Dd1 has two- both our grandmothers, and Dd2 has just one- the name of a place very special to us. So both have special names for special reasons...

I have one middle name. Brother has two middle names. I haven't disowned my parents. My brother and I are not mortal enemies.

You're overthinking OP. Congratulations on the baby x

And more simply, as a child, I wondered why I wasn’t important enough to have a tradition.

I didn't consider that.

I'll take it back: don't do it, OP. Or give your DD the name if your... favourite grandmother (if she's still little)?

My sister and I (both female, so no sexism aspect...) Both had traditional first names. And my mother "simply" chucked in a second middle name when my dSis was born... (It was apparently rather spontaneous...)

It didn't feel weird or unfair to me, tbh.

Maybe because my first name is much longer than my sister's? ;)

My sister has too middle names. I don't.

It has never bothered me.

You could simply ask your DD whether she wants a second middle name. (If she's old enough...)

Or just give her a 2nd middle name (if she's still really little...)

I wouldnt worry about it tbh. I also have 2 middle names and all my brothers have 1.

I know I'm projecting, but I thought as a child that my sibling was the preferred one because he has two middle names & I have one. No matter that his is a hideous old family name. I was scrupulously fair with my own DC, as was my sibling.

Can you hyphenate the middle names? John-Paul for example. Not something I would usually suggest but might be a way around it?

My brother has 2 middle names, because it’s traditional in my dad’s family. My sisters and I have 1 each. I have always felt that it shows, not exactly favouritism, but a nod to the sort of institutionalised sexism families should try not to display. And more simply, as a child, I wondered why I wasn’t important enough to have a tradition. I wouldn’t do it to my kids.

I can’t believe that I gave details about myself and my Db and forgot my own dc! Just underlines how little it matters.

Ds1 has one middle name. He has lots of syllables on each name and it seemed a mouthful.

Ds3 has two middle names. He has a really short first name so I wanted to compensate with a few initials 😀

Ds3 has two middle names. DH wanted one, I wanted another so we gave him both.

The dses just don’t realise.. I would bet my life they would never have considered it, they are now late teens.

It is not an issue OP.

Life - yep, I'm probably overthinking it!

@daisypond my brothers honestly don't care, just asked one of them out of interest - he's never even noticed.

My aunt doesn't have a middle name, my mum does. There's no reason, just what grandma wanted at the time. It's not affected their relationship. If anything, my aunt likes the middle name more than my mum does!

My DH has two middle names, as does his brother, and his sisters only have one. The boys have a name that is passed down the male line in their family. I don't think he's ever thought about it, but to me it has always smacked of how the boys were favoured over the girls in their family - boys all went to private school, the girls didn't, etc, is one example. I'm probably overthinking it!

That's how ours ended up, a bit of a last minute decision to give a name that meant something to FIL to DS as well as the middle name we'd decided on (we decided pretty much in the registry office!) DD knows why and how it happened and isn't the least bit bothered (her middle name is a family one on my side)