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Dante. Is it too mean in these circumstances?

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QuickGetTheEggplants · 17/05/2018 02:22

DS is due in 3 weeks, and we have the first name sorted but we're still deciding on the middle name. We thought we were set, but then my DH suggested Dante "because he's put us through 9 circles of Hell".

I counted, and that's literally true. From being a rainbow baby after a late loss, to various scares and misdiagnoses, to having high risk cord complications and an increased risk of stillbirth, there are actually 9 different incidents that have caused us a lot of anxiety during pregnancy.

To be fair, we have both always liked the idea of Dante as a middle name anyway, but I'm not sure if the extra meaning it carries now makes it more perfect, or too negative.

If he ever asks us how we chose it we wouldn't say, "because you put us through Hell", obviously, because this poor little foetus hasn't actually done anything wrong, we'd probably just say we liked it. Even so I'm not sure if Dante is fitting or mean?

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Charley50 · 17/05/2018 04:15

No. Negative. Not funny.

RedDwarves · 17/05/2018 03:58

Nope, very negative, even if you don't tell him why you named him that. The fact that you wouldn't tell him should be telling enough that it's a poor choice.

PastaOfMuppets · 17/05/2018 03:53

Why would you make your child go through life feeling like such a source of stress, rather than a source of happiness? He'll wonder if you even wanted him

Sophronia · 17/05/2018 03:52

Too negative.

LoveProsecco · 17/05/2018 03:28

I think it's very negative.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 17/05/2018 03:25

Also I hate that kind of teasing towards children. My parents relentlessly told me I was the bane of their existence etc as a 'joke' but that stuff really hurts a lot of kids.

buttercup54321 · 17/05/2018 03:22

Actually what about Daniel? Its a good strong name and similar as it will be Dan for short. You can still remember your private joke within the name but nobody else need know and he wont get teased or have negative feelings from it.

OhWifey · 17/05/2018 03:20

Shameful idea

buttercup54321 · 17/05/2018 03:17

Very negative and silly. choose a nice name that will be something to live up too.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 17/05/2018 03:08

For me, it’s a very negative way to start out a baby’s life.

coffeeandrainbows · 17/05/2018 03:01

I like it too, it’s a good story and very unique. And you can always start calling him John Dante Dante Dante as he grows up and does more naughty things Wink

HirplesWithHaggis · 17/05/2018 02:49

I love it! You could tell the story on his wedding day. :)

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