Isabella renamed Isabel by older aunt

What's wrong with Izzy? Of course the Aunt should use her real name, but you should call her the nickname she has chosen.

Ignore the aunt.

I would call your gdd Isabella. But not Bella since she doesn't like it.

She sounds like a lovely polite girl.
Why give her a different nickname to what she prefers? Seems odd and rude.
Just tell the aged relative "you do know it is Isabella, with an 'a'?". Though maybe "Isabel" is her imposed nickname.....

OP
Do you agree with all of us who are saying you're doing exactly the same thing as the Aunt, using a name your gd doesn't want to be known as?

Why did you start this thread then disappear?

Please call her Izzy.

And being assertive is no bad thing. Girls are taught too much to override their own feelings to be polite.

My dd is called Isabella too. The only person that calls her this is me. She has various names that family call her including, Izzy, Bella, bell, iz, and my mums tizzy toes. Doesn’t bother me at all. She’s 2 and when she’s older I fully expect her to express if she doesn’t want people to call her whichever and I expect the person to respect that.

My older dd is lilie. My mum called her lil pops from the day she was born. She 7 now and a while ago she said to my mum please call me lilie lil pops makes me sound like a baby. From that day she’s been lilie.

Asking people to call you the right name or however you choose to shorten it is not rude

How old is she? I agree with Sugar. Being polite is one thing but it would have been ok for you or her to point out her name isn’t Isabel.

1 - I'd have said got your gd to say - thank you but my name Isabella. It's not rude to tell someone they are calling you the wrong name.

2 - you are doing the same thing. She wants to be Izzy but you're choosing for her and insisting on Bella.

You don't say how old she is but my 6yo gets very upset if we use the full version on his name and has done for years. You should respect her wishes too, Izzy is a perfectly normal shortening.

If your daughter wants to be called Izzy, and you are aware of this, then you're as bad as the Aunt, how unfair.
Also teach her to be less accepting of anything she feels uncomfortable with, to be quietly confident, and to politely challenge unusual events.
Sitting there saying nothing to please everyone, will get her nowhere in life.
Very odd thread.

Did she purposefully buy the placemat with the wrong name or did she simply want to buy her a gift and that was the closest spelling. My DD has an unusual spelling and if she wants personalised items has to get an alternative spellings no it's not the end of the world.
Children will get called all sorts of things throughout their lives, different shortenings and nicknames once they are at school I really don't see the problem. There are about eight different spellings for Isabella/ Isabel and if you are going to get hung up on it it's going to be a long battle everytime someone spells it wrong in birthday cards etc as she gets to school.

So you're annoyed that the relative calls her something that is not her name while calling her something that is not her name and she would rather be called something that is not her name either?

Am I missing something here, you admit yourself you call her by a name which is not her favourite?

As no child likes to be called the wrong name! Do you think I am being too sensitive?

Does it actually bother your gd? I have one of those names that can be spelled in various ways and there's a similar name which used to be more common decades ago. Older people used to quite often call me by the similar name when I was growing up. Didn't bother me in the slightest!!! Not one teeny bit. And I'm quite a touchy person!

So yes, I do think you are being too sensitive. Just lose the table mat and don't give it another thought.

This is weird.

Stop with the 'hints' and say it like a grown-up: "Her name is not Isabel, it's Isabella."

Although popular it is a pretty name but we tend to call her Bella although we know she wants to be called Izzy (which we had tried to avoid!)

Why have you tried to avoid Izzy?

As no child likes to be called the wrong name!

... But you doing Bella/Izzy is... fine?

Just don't use the placemat.

Did you visit the gift shop with the aunt? Did you not tell her it had the wrong name on it? Why are you using the wrong shortening instead of the one your (grand) daughter prefers? Sorry for all the questions but it all sounds a bit odd.

Well I think you're being unfair to criticise your relative for using the wrong name, especially as you've said yourself your gd wants to be known as Izzy but you call her Bella.