Email from friend about my baby's name

"How is she going to learn to spell it?"

"I don't know, she could use mnemonics, e.g. C U Next Tuesday"

What the hell kind of friend is that.
Your daughter's name is beautiful

Thinking you've spotted a dodgy connotation the parents might have missed is arguably the only reason I can think of to do this. And I can imagine someone pointing that out after careful thought, with nothing but good intentions. My friend very nearly had dodgy initials until an auntie thankfully pointed it out.

However your update makes me think this isn't the case here.

Sounds like inverted snobbery to me.

'How is she going to learn to spell it?" The same way the Mackenzie, Kayleigh and Kaycee learn to spell their names.

We ALL know people who have given their kids what we think are silly names. Thankfully most of us have the tact to keep our thoughts to ourselves.

I knew some people, last name HUNT, they called their baby boy Michael, I never said anything.

How rude, tell your “friend” to fuck off.

How will she learn to spell it? Erm the same way everyone else learns to spell their name?

DS went through nursery and school with an Ophelia (they're 12 now) and I've never thought anything of it tbh. It's not to my taste but there's definitely nothing wrong with it!

I also cannot figure out how Ophelia Cole sounds like anything untoward, even in my Glaswegian accent! 🤔

eh how is she goingto spell it? shelearns like we all have to

I doesn’t matter what anyone thinks if you like the name.

I know lots of people who’ve given their children names that I wouldn’t pick in a million years for various reasons, even one that I think is downright irresponsible, but it’s nothing to do with me so I just say “that’s a nice name” and smile. I’m sure some people hate my DDs name as it’s a bit unusual but no one’s ever said anything.

I can just about twist Ophelia Cole to sound vaguely rude in my North Eastern accent but I did know someone, years ago, called Michael Hunt, it was amusing for all of about 5 minutes then I never gave it a second thought.

Its lovely. She or he is being a twat. We know a lovely little Ophelia who gets called Fi (Fee) a lot.

Reply that it wont be a problem as you will just text her when its tea time

I love the name. Your friend was rude.

"Sorry- Ophelia is a lovely name, and she is a beautiful baby. But how are you going to stand at the back door and shout “Ophelia- it’s time to come in for your tea. How is she going to learn to spell it?"

Ah, so she just thinks you're being a bit fancy and hifaluting and for some reason thinks her opinion is worthy of being expressed to you.

She's a fanny.

Ophelia, quite straightforward and a well known literary name
Youll not struggle nor with the child or any teacher
ophelia will learn her name in the usual way,same as all kids do
If your mate struggles maybe it reflects upon her spelling & literacy

Ah, just seen update. In which case the only reply is a simple: “Shit off.”

"Ophelia does commit suicide "

A fictional character!

Not everyone who names a daughter Ophelia are thinking of her.

"But how are you going to stand at the back door and shout “Ophelia- it’s time to come in for your tea. How is she going to learn to spell it?""

Oh dear goodness!!

It's just not worth headspace!

Sorry- Ophelia is a lovely name, and she is a beautiful baby. But how are you going to stand at the back door and shout “Ophelia- it’s time to come in for your tea. How is she going to learn to spell it?

Wow. I'm not usually one of those mumsnetters that leaps to advise a confrontational approach, but that is so unbelievably rude and uncalled for.

(P) utting brackets in doesn’t prove anything.

Loads of accents don’t pronounce the C at the start of words? What, now?

Congratulations on new baby! Beautiful name
How very rude of your friend to be so blunt

oh feel you cole

yeah corse regularly?? your friend is a dick

i know someone called wayne king now thats unfortunate

I would be interested to see what the content of the email actually was but in short there are some things you just don't say and criticising your choice of name is one of those.

Gorgeous name,

When we told my family what we were calling DS1 (who completely and utterly fits his name, and it's really not particularly odd), my sister replied "you do know you're supposed to love him right?"

Now admittedly, we'd been winding them up for months with a ridiculous name, and only announced the real one once he was with us, and had a chance to try it on for a bit, but still... perhaps she should have engaged brain before commenting, because someone less obstinate/thick-skinned/sure of herself might have been offended!

Yes bullies are known for their attention to detail