Email from friend about my baby's name

Absolutely beautiful name and I bet it matches an absolutely beautiful baby girl 💖 Don't let her get you down, enjoy your early days and just ignore her. I'm calling my new arrival Gabriel and have had many raised eyebrows and my DM downright has said she really doesn't like it but it's just made me want to call it him even more. Enjoy you're new baby OP

Ophelia is truly lovely name. I must admit I am a bit confused by this post, and the responses. Is this real or is someone trying to be silly? Also, no one typically says anyone’s name in full on mumsnet.

Only joking I just laughed out loud at that and woke up my DH!

Your DD can do anything with a name like that!
“Love your new handbag”
“Thanks, it’s an Ophelia Cole”
“Who’s playing leading lady in that new film?l
“Ophelia Cole”
“Which dr did you see?”
“Dr Cole”
I could go on but you get the point.
It’s stylish, classy and adaptable, especially with Elizabeth in the middle.
You chose well, and anyone who wants to be derisive about names we choose for our kids should keep their big gobs shut!
Unless you call your kids things like Dragon Flower or Dandelion, then you deserve everything you get!😉

She'll learn how to spell it the same way everyone else does. My names a handful and I couldn't even pronounce it for years. Would she have said the same if you'd called her Elizabeth? Which for a kid is just as hard to say and spell and just as cumbersome to yell (albeit with more established shortened versions).

Your friend is a dick. I don't like my friends daughters name. It's weird, has weird spelling and doesn't flow well. I've said nothing about it because it's none of my business.

As far as teenagers are concerned I think if kids want to take the piss or pick on someone they'll find a way. Kids took the piss out of my (very unremarkable) surname when I was at school. Yes, at a stretch it could be twisted when said out loud, but otherwise it's fine and I wouldn't change it if you love it.

Lovely name, if people want to have a go about it, then it’s their issues.
Everyone knows about Mike Hunt,it’s his brother Issac I’m more worried about.

Do whatever makes you happy!!! All 3 of mine have quirky names which I love and each get strange reactions.. Who cares what others think!!

I am angry on your behalf. Any friend who thinks it is appropriate to send an email regarding your daughters name when she is only days old would be out of my life. It is a lovely name, and even if people think otherwise, your daughter is here and it is her name and they need to respect that, and respect that it is your choice.

I always laugh at the 'not to my taste' brigade.

Why ? The OPs specifically post, to find out if it is liked by lots of people or not, and people are replying.

OP I am going to upset this poster and say I personally^ don't like the name - it is "not to my taste", as you asked us. However, we all get chance to name our own dc, and it would be pretty confusing to have a whole cohort with the same 2 or 3 names.
What I do think everyone is in agreement with though, is the fact that your friend has been incredibly rude. Whatever she thinks of the name she should keep to herself, and comment on something else if she can't bring herself to lie.

It's a lovely name. Your 'friend' is not a friend. Dignified silence is probably the best option here.

Our daughter was going to be an Ophelia Elizabeth!!! She's a Rebecca Elizabeth instead. But of course, I fully support your name, OP, obviously.

Aren't friends the weirdest? I had this exact same thing happen to me when I told my friend what we planned on calling DC3 (our youngest is a boy). Anyway, I get this email sent at like 3am from my friend who couldn't sleep, had insomnia as she was so troubled by the name we were going to call our son. It was a total trip. Get a life!!
Your friend probably wanted that name!
It's gorgeous. Stick with it!

I love it, it's elegant. Why does she feel she's important enough to let you know her opinion?? Is she always like this?

I wasn't saying in my earlier post that it's not a lovely name or that I'd pronounce it "oh feel ya 'ole" but unfortunately you can be guaranteed one smart alec will coin the phrase and it will stick for a time.

•'How is she going to learn to spell it?" The same way the Mackenzie, Kayleigh and Kaycee learn to spell their names. Ophelia is hardly in the same name bracket as Mackenzie, Kayleigh, and Kaycee. I was christened Ophelia in 1968, and they are very* different names.

I think your friend thinks it's a made up fad name.
It's not it's a classic name, which they are obviously unaware of and a little ignorant. Tell them she will learn to spell it by reading Shakespeare as an educated person.

How will she learn to spell it?!

The same way everyone learns to spell their name. Ophelia isn’t even particularly long. Fewer letters to learn than Elizabeth.

Your “friend” is an idiot and you should tell them that you find their unsolicited “advice” rude and presumptuous.

I tried to convince my brother not to call his son the name he had made up for him, but he did and I love him/it now. My brother and I are very close though so he didn't seem to take offence at me raising a few issues with it. I think maybe it's different with family - I like to think I had a say ! (I know I don't!!!!)

The name Ophelia isn't to my personal taste (the Hamlet thing - I dislike Juliet, Delilah, lots of the names we get from Greek & Roman mythology, etc. for similar reasons), but it's a perfectly fine name, and Ophelia Elizabeth Cole doesn't remotely approach being horrible. I trust you'll manage to yell for her to come inside from playing just fine, OP! And it might be more unusual, but I don't see why Ophelia would be any harder for a child to learn to spell than names like Michelle or Christopher that nobody blinks twice at.

Mostly I'm appalled that your friend would think it's okay to insult the name you just chose for your newborn baby!

Hmm, I’m really not trying to stick up for the friend but in your OP you say that she said it was a TERRIBLE name but in her email to you she actually starts it with saying it’s a LOVELY name. 😂😂😂

I think she was still being very rude to comment on it being tricky to spel and a bit of a mouthful to call out but it’s not quite as bad as your OP suggested

...unless you’ve missed out the worst bits of the friends email.

Oh she just doesn't like slightly unusual names. Don't worry about it

Bloody cheek! It's a lovely name and even if it wasn't who does she think she is making a rude comment. At 5 days in you're probably a bit fragile but I'd be inclined to tell her to fuck right off!

Oh well, straightforward inverted snobbery then. Silly old friend.

Wow. That she feels it is her place to make such a comment at such a time! Some people have...I would say nerve but it's too kind.

Forget her! And congrats on Ophelia!