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Tristan and Tristram

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17caterpillars1mouse · 23/02/2018 16:09

What are your thoughts. I like both but think i prefer Tristram. My mum thinks it's awful though, it is really that bad? Do you know any Tristram's or Tristan's?

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FartnissEverbeans · 12/04/2019 14:55

The variant Tristram is in Malory’s Morte d’Arthur

That’s the one 👍🏻

NutMeghan · 12/04/2019 08:25

Tristan

And for Brad Pitt in Legends of the fall. An amazing name for this reason.

Bumblebeesmum · 11/04/2019 21:49

I really hate both but I can’t say Tristram very well

ThanksItHasPockets · 11/04/2019 10:17

It’s usually Tristan in the Isolde / Iseult stories. The variant Tristram is in Malory’s Morte d’Arthur and the Matthew Arnold poem.

FartnissEverbeans · 11/04/2019 10:08

My first association with Tristram is the knight from Tristram and Isolde.

I don’t think it’s completely unusable but it is super (SUPER) posh and a bit... pretentious (sorry, I’m not trying to be mean, I promise!). If I met a Tristram I’d probably go home to my husband that night and be like “I met a guy called TRISTRAM today! Can you believe that was his actual name?” And I say that as someone who loves weird names - my DS has a really unusual one.

Tristan, though, is lovely. A bit posh, he’s, but just a nice name.

ThanksItHasPockets · 11/04/2019 09:33

AA Gill used to use ‘Tristram’ to refer derisively to the type of men who commissioned and made TV programmes, so it always makes me think of him. That’s a fairly niche connotation, however.

I love Tristan.

PlatypusLeague · 11/04/2019 08:08

I really like Tristan. Tristram makes me think of rams.

Smellslikemiddleagespirit · 10/04/2019 23:31

I know a 10 year old Tristyn, he’s a lovely boy.

Tristram is truly awful. The only way I can say it is if I treat it as two separate words Tris Tram.

IckyTummy · 10/04/2019 22:23

Tristram as in Shandy? Awful book. Would make you look pretentious as parents.

Tristan isn't one that I'd choose, but at least it's easy to pronounce!

Tristram · 10/04/2019 21:45

Its a great name, although do your research on Tristram vs Tristan.
Tristram is the medieval variant and predates Tristan.

On a plus i can usually keep my username as my actual name :-)

www.behindthename.com/name/tristram

MikeUniformMike · 24/02/2018 13:49

Tristram is much better than Tristan. Tristan is a sad name.
Tristram Hunt.

PinkAvocado · 24/02/2018 12:13

I know a couple of Tristrans and I like it. Tristram is pretty awful when I say it-it comes out as an utter mess.

PaperdollCartoon · 24/02/2018 12:13

Strikethrough fail

PaperdollCartoon · 24/02/2018 12:11

Tristram Hunt is lovely.

But I prefer Tristan. I have a pretty —posh— well-spoken voice, the kind that’s meant to sound fine with names like Tristram, and I still find it really hard to say, doesn’t flow well. Tristan wouldn’t be my first choice but it’s nice and underused, won’t be 7 of them in his class.

SmiledWithTheRisingSun · 24/02/2018 12:05

Not keen sorry OP.

How about:
Titus
Theodore (THEO)
Tobias (Toby)

gingergenius · 24/02/2018 12:03

You could always ditch both and go for Vulcan? I hear that name's very much up and coming? Grin

shetookshelter · 24/02/2018 11:53

I kind of hate them both. But Tristan is better than Tristram I suppose.

Upsidedownandinsideout · 24/02/2018 11:43

My friends DH is called Tristram, we also all thought he was called Tristan but had a speech impediment. It looks nice but sounds tricky and he'd forever be correcting people (or being nice and letting it slide for ages like friend's DH!)

CatsForgotPassword · 24/02/2018 11:40

Tristan is fine. I have a family member with this name. I can’t say Tristram

Backingvocals · 24/02/2018 09:25

Oh thank god. I thought this was for twins ShockGrin

C0untDucku1a · 24/02/2018 09:22

Is Tristmegistus in the running?

starkid · 24/02/2018 09:20

Love Tristan, but Tristram is just a struggle and also looks a bit messy

ThankYouGillian · 23/02/2018 23:24

I prefer Tristan. How about Christian? Similar sound.....

dingdongdigeridoo · 23/02/2018 23:02

Tristan is very posh in my mind. It’s like Tarquin or Rupert. Not bad, just posh.

bridgetreilly · 23/02/2018 22:59

I like Tristan better, not least because, as others have said, Tristram is quite hard to say.