Years ago, on discussing baby names, it transpired that a friend and I had the same baby name. We agreed that no one can claim a name and whoever got there first could use this name.
We were both pregnant at the same time, but her baby born a few months before ours, so she used the name and we went with something else for ours.
However, I'm now pregnant again and my husband and I still love the name and would still love to use it. If we don't use this name (which is still both our favourite name) the next one we can both agree on is about 20th on our list.
The friend is a really good friend but not best friend, we see each other maybe 10 times a year as part of a group but lots more texting and group WhatsApp.
So, would you be annoyed. Is this an ok thing to do?