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Due within a few weeks of both SILs....name etiquette?

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littlerobyn · 13/01/2018 20:19

I'm the last one, so could be the last to give birth. We are all finding out the sex very soon so it might make all this easier then once we know. However with dc1, I really loved being set on a name before birth, we had a back up favourite for the opposite sex just in case the scans were wrong! Smile
However I'm really worried that I'll be the last to give birth and one of them will choose the name I have picked. We haven't discussed names but I know from previous conversations years ago we may have similar tastes.

Would it be batshit in this instance to still use the name we'd picked?

I'm worried I'll loose the plot if I have to let go of the name hours before giving birth and pick another when it's taken us about 2 years to agree on a boy/girl name, so it's not like we have a few we like!!!
We all have different surnames if that makes a difference?

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Kintan · 14/01/2018 08:51

Personally I don’t think there is any point sharing names. Even if they have picked the same as you there is no guarantee they will agree to change their choice,and if they have their baby first they’ll probably feel more entitled to use it on a first come first served basis. Alternatively if f they haven’t chosen the same name you might be giving them that idea!

UnitedKungdom · 14/01/2018 08:46

Just share the name you are going to use with them. I don't know what the big 'reveal' is with names, nobody gives a shit really when they hear the name. And in this case it's in your interest to tell them now.

Swearwolf · 14/01/2018 08:39

Why not just talk to them? Chances are they've thought about this too. Just ask them if they've got a name sorted and if they want to share just in case it's the same, as you've decided on X. How popular a name is it, is there a good chance they would happen to pick the same? It's probably more likely for Oliver than Barnabas, for example.

NapQueen · 14/01/2018 08:32

I would probably say "shall we share our chosen names? Just incase we all want George eg"

Oysterbabe · 14/01/2018 08:31

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Oysterbabe · 14/01/2018 08:30

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DryHeave · 13/01/2018 21:10

5 in our family gave birth in 5 consecutive months to 5 boys. I was last. I was determined to use our name even if someone else used it as we’d been using it between ourselves throughout the pregnancy (but not told anyone else at all).

No one spoke about the chances of using the same name and in the end each baby had a different name anyway. You’d probably be surprised at how unlikely it is to choose the same name.

Zillcat · 13/01/2018 21:04

I personally would share with them. I am due twins in two weeks. I was devastated this week when DP's cousin gave birth and named her son the same name we had chosen for one of ours.
We had chosen Oliver; I shouldn't have been so shocked due to its popularity and was probably BU to expect the name not to be used by someone close!
We have now 'settled' on another name as we are very close with them so it would have been ridiculously confusing.

CharlotteC77 · 13/01/2018 20:35

If you've already picked a name and are totally set on it, then drop it into conversation with them now so they can rule it out - easy. Or mention it the next time you text, e.g. 'How are you feeling? Any names yet? We've decided we really love X for a girl and Y for a boy - what do you think?'

It'll spoil the surprise but will stop you worrying!

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littlerobyn · 13/01/2018 20:35

Grin I'm definitely over thinking this aren't I!!

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IsabellaTruffle · 13/01/2018 20:31

I think you are over thinking it a little? Unless you all have the same sex child and all go for top 5 names, the possibility of you picking the same of all the thousands of names is quite slim?

If you are that worried then "pick" your name and ask SILs if they had that name in mind.

NotAgainYoda · 13/01/2018 20:30

I wouldn't use the same name, even though technically there's nothing to say you can't

PopadomPointer · 13/01/2018 20:30

Honestly, I think you might be overthinking things Smile

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