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Family stealing names

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motherfiver · 11/01/2018 13:51

Is it not common etiquette to not name your child a name that a child in the close family already has?

Dp's sister is expecting in a few weeks, and has said DS's name is in their top 3 for a boy, but has assured me it will be spelled differently if they choose it.
I mean I don't own the name and I'm not bothered enough to make a fuss but I'm definitely hoping they don't use it and I will be quietly pissed of if they do.

Would you do this, or be annoyed if someone did it to you?

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Squ1ggle · 11/01/2018 15:15

greendale not really, it was a very popular name at the time and my aunties and uncles simply liked it, wanted to use it and their siblings were happy for them to do so. They also had other children with different names

MiniMummy576 · 11/01/2018 15:14

Maybe she's watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding too many times? Wink

But seriously, it's a bit odd.

frasier · 11/01/2018 15:07

I knew a family with two (married in) brother-in-laws with the same name. They got around it by calling one "Peter" and one "Pete". It was still confusing.

What is the age difference? You may get "Big Pete" and "Little Pete" if there is a reasonable gap. Not ideal imo.

greendale17 · 11/01/2018 15:07

the other 3 all had children with the same name, nobody was ever bothered

^How bizarre.

Squ1ggle · 11/01/2018 15:04

Meh, it wouldn't bother me. My mum is one of 5. Out of her 4 siblings one never had children and the other 3 all had children with the same name, nobody was ever bothered

Needmorehands · 11/01/2018 15:02

My DS and cousin have the same name as they are both named for mine and cousin's Grandad, but we may see him twice a year so no major confusion - even without the 30ish yr age gap! However, the same cousin has just had his first son and I love the name they have chosen but wouldn't consider choosing it for my bump

Joinourclub · 11/01/2018 14:54

I think it's odd. Don't be all repressed and resentful, be honest and tell them that you understand you don't own the name, but you'd be disappointed if they used it.

Oysterbabe · 11/01/2018 14:48

I think it'll be a bit odd and confusing for them that your in-laws will have 2 grandchildren with the same name. I wouldn't personally use a name a family member has.

MaitlandGirl · 11/01/2018 13:58

My mums eldest sister and youngest sister both called a daughter by the same name, there’s at least 25 years between my cousins but it’s still a pretty odd thing to do.

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