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Reusing a name

53 replies

Username0000007 · 08/11/2017 13:27

Hello, I'd like some advice on this sensitive subject. We very sadly miscarried our ds at 18 weeks a few years back. I decided at the time of the mc to give him a name and we made an announcement on fb about the late mc.

We are now 34 weeks with another boy. We still love the name and my dh, children and I are happy to reuse it. Ever since the mc announcement we haven't used his name and I speak about him as our precious angel we lost. The name means a lot to me and I've looked at hundreds of boys names but nothing comes close.

I've only told one friend about this and her reaction was that there is no way on earth we can reuse the name, no no no no no no and that the baby needs his own name/it's weird to reuse. I was so taken a back by the reaction that I went home and cried. Now I am completely confused about what to do and am worried about what others will think.

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Thiswayorthatway · 08/11/2017 13:33

Congrats OP. Use the name if you both want, totally your decision.

Chaffinch4 · 08/11/2017 13:31

I think it's fine to use the name if you and your partner are happy.

RatRolyPoly · 08/11/2017 13:31

Of course you can reuse it, your friend is not the boss of the world, jeez! You're the people who could have the strongest feelings about it and if it works for you then it works - end of. I could come up with a million justifications that you could roll out to any sceptics you come across but you know what? You don't need to justify yourself to anyone. So I won't.