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Could you ever name your child after your mother? Pamela, Teresa, Denise, Brenda, Carol, Barbara, Sandra etc?

187 replies

another20 · 06/10/2017 09:56

Found these links to most common girls names born in 1940/50s/60s imagine they would be or becoming grand-parents now could you ever name your child after your mother? Seems older names (our grandparents) get used....

www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/decades/names1940s.html
www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/decades/names1940s.html
www.ssa.gov/oact/babynames/decades/names1960s.html

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Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 06/10/2017 22:05

My family used to recycle the same names over and over again. Say they were Susan, Katherine and Mary (they weren't, but they were classic names of the same type):

One of my great-grandmothers was Susan
My grandmothers were both Mary
One great-aunt was Susan, one on each side was Katherine
My dad's sister was Mary
My mum's sister was [Another name] Mary
My mum's cousin was Mary
My mum was Susan Katherine
I'm Mary Susan
My daughter is Katherine Mary
My niece is Kate (i.e. on her birth certificate)

I rather like it. Meanwhile, another great-aunt was Euphemia (real name), Effie for short. My poor aunt got that as a middle name. A more distant cousin is called Phemie, which is the other shortened version of Euphemia. So glad I didn't get it.

My real name has been mentioned several times on this thread, without much enthusiasm. Grin I think it's irretrievably tainted, for a reason which has already been mentioned in connection with it.

Mrsknackered · 06/10/2017 21:58

I know a little Patsy after her grandmother, and I actually really like it.

My mum is Emma, so yes I probably would use it!

SuperBeagle · 06/10/2017 21:12

I've always liked the name Pamela. But I hate Pam, so would never consider using it.

My mum has a very unusual name, even by today's standards. I wouldn't use it because no one ever spells or pronounces her name correctly. But I probably wouldn't consider using many other names from the era (friends of hers include Deborah, Karen, Linda, Christine, Tammy, Jane).

Mintybuttons · 06/10/2017 20:58

My Mum was born in the 40's and is called Daphne. I didn't know anyone who was called that when I was young but it is coming back into fashion I think ..?
My own daughter is Tess which I still love - has a fairly awful middle name though after Mil who passed away - poor girl hates it.

LynetteScavo · 06/10/2017 20:49

I love Shirley...could definitely call my DD Shirley.

At as teenager I thought I would call my DC Shirley, Arnold & Howard.

My DM has a very popular baby name, but I could not use MILs name. Ever. Bloody awful and DM pronounces it with the emphasis on the wrong syllable.

WhenLoveAndCakeCollide · 06/10/2017 20:36

Posted before I was finished, so to add to above....

I'm often told my grandmothers' names stand out amongst typical grandma names of the time.

WhenLoveAndCakeCollide · 06/10/2017 20:34

My (late) mother was named Helen. I like the name, but I didn't like her (long story), so wouldn't name a child after my mother for that reason.

My grandmothers were Rosalind and Lucille, which I would consider using.

NotCornflakes · 06/10/2017 20:09

My name is in the Top 50 on that 1940s list linked upthread. I was born in the (very) late 70s. I've only ever met one other person around my age with my name, and she was as surprised as I was to find another one! Grin

EKLInTraining · 06/10/2017 19:58

I love Yolanda too!

Yika · 06/10/2017 19:25

I love some of those names: Veronica, Monica, Yolanda, Gail, karen. Jean and Joan are both definitely on the cusp of a big comeback.

tarheelbaby · 06/10/2017 19:16

I think it really all depends. I was brought up to value family names so would choose them above others and was not really interested in 'trendy' names. Both DDs have v. traditional names and my mother's sisters all did too (Margaret, Frances, Elizabeth). DF had one sister whose name is a multi-generational legacy and, fortunately, pretty classic, which I have imposed on DD1. It is my sister's name too.

OSETmum · 06/10/2017 19:05

My mum is Alexandra, which I think is a very big band for a little girl but I love Alex as a nickname. She goes by her middle name though, Louise, which I think is due a comeback.

As an aside, I saw a picture of a 4 year old Brian starting school the other day!

Glumglowworm · 06/10/2017 18:59

My grandmother is Irene which I think is due a comeback Reenie is a cute nn

Glumglowworm · 06/10/2017 18:57

My mother is Rosemary known as Rose

I wouldn't personally except maybe a middle name, but it wouldn't stand out among her peers

bridgetreilly · 06/10/2017 18:23

Elizabeth. I wouldn't, but I definitely could. I might be more likely to use my grandmothers' names: Winifred (aka Betty) and Cicely (aka Nancy).

Soci · 06/10/2017 18:22

I'm extremely unimaginative with names so if I had lots of kids, I would probably end up using all the relatives names. So far only have one DS and named him after my grandfather and greatgrandfather.... Had we had a girl, she would have been named after my grandmother and greatgrandmother.....

Soubriquet · 06/10/2017 18:15

My mum is Samantha

Which I do like but I hate Sam/Sammy.

So no, I wouldn't use it

EKLInTraining · 06/10/2017 18:08

My mother is Marie-Hélène & grandmother is Marie-Adrienne. I don't mind either but wouldn't use them for a DD. I'd consider Marie as a middle name though.

harrietm87 · 06/10/2017 17:52

I know a very well to do family where the wife is called Sharon but pronounces it Share-on - it's straight out of Hyacinth Bucket!

Strokethefurrywall · 06/10/2017 17:50

Yes, I would definitely have used my mum's name but she's called Lenore and I think it's beautiful.

My nana (maternal grandmother) was a Pamela. I would probably use it I think, better than Bertha which was one of my great aunt's names...

manicinsomniac · 06/10/2017 17:21

My mum's a 1950s Susan and hates it. She calls herself Sue. Whereas I rather like Susan and really don't like Sue.

I don't think I could name a child Susan but I could easily live with Susannah.

I actually think most of that generation of names are lovely when taken just as names. It's all the associations of middle age and overuse in those decades that make them seem unusable.

I'd far rather see a resurgence of Susans, Pamelas, Belindas (love this) and Jacquelines than Kellys, Kerrys and Kylies.

But I think the worst of a generation's names (though I appreciate this is subjective) will never really return. I mean, we now have an abundance of Esmes, Elsies, Rubys and Lilys but you rarely (ever?) hear of a little Dorcas, Ethel or Bertha. All 7 names are from the same generation but the first 4 (imo) were much prettier to start with so more likely to come back.

EssentialHummus · 06/10/2017 15:58

Sharon will start to look exotic/classy again "Oh, like the fruit!

GrinGrin I cannot see this happening, but let's see...

greendale17 · 06/10/2017 15:53

No no and no

JemimaLovesHamble · 06/10/2017 15:51

I like Doris and Brenda. Brenda gives me the association of rain on an umbrella, and Doris is like clean laundry in spring. I don't know about kids, but if I ever have guinea pigs...

ColdFeetAndHotCakes · 06/10/2017 15:32

I love the name Shirley and have it earmarked to use in the future. Possibly paired with Maeve as a middle name.

I also love the name Fanny, which was in the family, but obviously has less positive connotations now. Even Aunt Fanny has become a Franny in new editions of Famous Five books. Would have it as short for Frances probably but think it's likely to be vetoed by the other half.