I think I want to change DD's name...

My dd is called Autumn and I am constantly complimented on her name, and have been since she was born. My dd loves her name and she is now 8yrs old and still loves it. This isn't about your daughters name but about the insipid relationship you have with your mother, she would not approve of any name. She is controlling you with criticism and you would do well up distance yourself

I like it OP. It's unusual and feminine.
Please tell your mother to shut up talking about DD's name like that immediately. It's not fair on you or DD.

Hopefully then you'll gain more confidence surrounding your DD's name.

What would she have you change it to? Has she suggested anything? I used to work with a girl called October because that was when she was born (she had a sister called April for the same reason) .... if you like Autumn, then keep it. If you don't, then change it. But make it your decision, not hers.

I had a similar wobble. Only solution is OWN it, say it loud and proud and use it in conversation rather than saying she or baby.

Autumn is a lovely not unusual name.

Your mum is unpleasant and should be ashamed.

It's her name! You chose it for her! Don't change it now because your mum is being a twat. If she marries a Mr Winter she can go by her own surname and not take his (reminder to all that we are in the 21st century). I'm not usually a fan of 'new' names but actually I think Autumn is quite a sophisticated and pretty name - also I taught one who was a thoroughly nice kid, but that's by the by - and more importantly your daughter is nearly 10 months old and definitely knows her name! Tell your mother that her name is Autumn, she (your mum) got to choose your name and now it's your turn to name your own child and you would appreciate no further comment.

If Summer and Winter are acceptable as names then why not Autumn? Do you need to have a word with your mum about how this undermines you?

Very cute name ,very popular and understood in the states !

don't change it it's a lovely name. I think your mum is joking with you to be honest.

I'd change it to 'Fuckoffmotherandmindyourownbusoness

Autumn is a lovely name

My DM hates my DD's full name (she goes by a shortening 90% of the time, her choice) but I couldn't give less shits if I tried. I adore her name, DH does too and most importantly, DD does. Your mum is being a bitch. Most people aren't negative about others' name choices.

Autumn is lovely. I quite wanted to use it but DH would never have agreed!

If your mum doesn't like it then that is her problem. Would she refuse to use the name of a work colleague, doctor, hairdresser or whoever whose name she didn't like in the same way she's refusing to use your daughters? Even if she's a baby she deserves that your mum respects what she's actually called.

As long as you love it and feel like it suits your DD, go for it! Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I personally think it's a very cool name!

It's a lovely name, don't change it if you don't want to!
Your mum is being incredibly rude

whenever I say her name, I normally get a look and a "Autumn? Like the season?"

But lots of people have that with all sorts of names - people will only ask once as then they know they've heard it right and know what to call your DD. It sounds like your mother's nastiness has made you paranoid and ashamed of the name you chose, and that you're reading too much negativity into other people's reactions.

I think it's a lovely name - there was an older girl in my music school when I was a kid called Autumn and she was very nice and popular, so it has positive connotations for me.

And if it makes you feel any better, my mother always objected to my younger DD's name - she went through years of calling my DD by the name she preferred, and even sometimes does it now still (DD is 13..).

It's not her choice, OP, it's yours - change it if you want to, but not just for your DM.

Your mum is poisoning the name for you and you need to decide whether you want to tell her to shut up and reclaim the name again or go for another name, or preferably both. I think what she's done is awful.

It's a beautiful name! My friends baby is called Winter and I think it's lovely. Please stick with it! When babies are little it's quite often hard to associate their names with the tiny little human you are seeing. She will grow into her name (and ignore your bloody mother-or tell her you are finding her comments hurtful!-that or start making fun of her name🙈)

It's an unusual name, but I like it. Your mum's probably not come across it before (although I think its becoming popular too!)

When we told my dad my son's name he laughed as he thought it was from a TV show like Game of Thrones. (It's definitely not, it's just a name he hadn't come across)

I think Autumn is a beautiful name, it is also my favourite season. Your Mum is making you paranoid, she is rude and ignorant. Tell her you don't want to hear another word about YOUR daughter's name. TBH, she sounds like she would be needling you over something, even if you changed your daughter's name to a name she picked!

And I guarantee other people aren't giving more than a few seconds' thought to your child's name. Not meaning to be harsh, I just mean don't get preoccupied with what other people may or may not be thinking. I (and you, most importantly!) like Autumn, but no name is going to meet with everyone's approval. As long as it's not embarrassing (check) or offensive (check), you're good.

Your mum probably thinks she can get away with having a 'joke' about it because you're close. Have you had a serious conversation with her about how this is hurting your feelings? If she knew the affect it was having she may think twice? You name your baby for you, no one else. It's one of the few privileges we get as a parent! Don't let anyone give you doubts.

I think your mum has made you feel like that tbh
I had it a bit with my dad but to a lesser extent. The name i chose felt really out there (but it's not, like Autumn isn't) and i felt like everyone thought it was bizarre because of how my Dad reacted. But when i started saying it would more confidence i realise people just didn't hear what i said / we're just saying it back to me without any sort of angle. Basically i was just projecting. I love the name again now.

You need to tell your mum to stop making the comments. Autumn is not an uncommon name!

I don't like the name, but I also don't think you should change it based on your mother's rudeness and the opinions of internet strangers!

If you feel uncomfortable introducing her as Autumn and you want to change it to give you/her an easier life, then fine. But if it's the name you love and you want to stick with it, that's also fine. I think there might be a deadline to change it before they are one?

Autumn is a beautiful name. Don't change her name, change your mum instead!

I like it, my friends niece is called Autumn. It's very pretty. It's also my favourite season so I may be biased. So what if she does (miraculously) marry someone with the surname Winter? It's hardly a big deal is it!
If you like it, keep it. Tell your mum how you feel when she makes those comments, I bet she'll feel mortified that she has made you doubt the name you gave her.