I think I want to change DD's name...

Autumn is lovely. It's not that unusual either so I'm not sure why people are looking at you oddly. There's loads of actual weird names around these days.

Next time your mum starts, look her dead in the eye and tell her to shut her fucking mouth.

Then smile and forget it. Autumn is lovely. Just out of interest, what would you change it to?

I like Autumn! I also know of a Summer, Winter and Wynter. I imagine that your DD will go to nursery and school with other children who have names that people may raise an eyebrow to but by the time they are adults it will not matter because it will be the norm. If you like it, keep it.

Your mum sounds really unkind.

Autumn is lovely.

Enjoy your dd and do things YOUR way. Your mum's had her turn. Your dd is yours.

Another one who thinks its lovely. Just make the baby talk and say "No Grandma (or whichever name she DOESN'T want to be called) I love the name MY MOMMY picked"

Yep was going to say the same. That's bizarre OP. Come and see us at the stately home

The fuck? Your DM has had your children's names picked out for years? Fuck that. You might need to pop over to the stately homes thread!

I wanted to call my Dd Autumn, my exdh wouldn't agree so I didn't . I know an Autumn who's in her 30's is a professional and has no issues with her name.

Go for it, stuff everyone else it's a beautiful name. I wish I had.

Wow! Your mum is totally out of order and out of touch with the names people are naming their kids in the 2000's.

Autumn is a perfectly normal name, it may not be in the top ten but I can assure you that your dd would be Tilly and then the initial of her surname or even a number once she's at school if you listen to your mother. Popular names are great and there is a reason why they are popular but find the thread about the woman in her 30's or 40's who wanted to change her name because there were so many Sarah's about.

If you love the name Autumn then don't change your dd's name but if you, not your mother, you don't like the name then change it. Just make sure you're not doing it to please your mum, from what you've written she's not a very nice mum or grandma.

My DM wasn't 100% keen on my dd's name when I first told her but as she's a lovely lady I only know that information because I know my mum well and I read her facial expression. She has never commented on disliking it and 3 years later I'm convinced that she loves it just as much as us because she loves her GD and after this time my dd's name has become part of her iyswim.

OP, it's such a pretty name! Your mother is being incredibly rude, she's had the pleasure giving her child a name she loved so now it's your turn and she should stop interfering.

Why would you bother even spending time with someone who insults your child's name like that? Your 'D'M sounds vile.

Your mum is being a complete bitch. That's really horrible of her.

Autumn is a beautiful name. Tell your mum
If she doesn't like it she doesn't have to see her. That will stop it

She is incredibly rude.

I would take a stand and tell her that she's upsetting you so much that until she can learn to keep her trap shut you won't be seeing her-and she won't be seeing Autumn either. If she wants a relationship with you both she had better get over it.

OP, tell her if she doesn't stop it, she's not welcome. And it sounds like she chose your daughter's name years ago! Stand up to her!

I think you should search for the 'stately homes' thread and post a really accurate list of things your mum does to undermine you and see what response you get,.... because honestly, it sounds like it is your mum and her frankly appalling behaviour that is the problem, not your daughters name which is an unusual but not unheard of, pretty name.

Jeez, she sounds fucking horrible, OP!

Is she like this about other stuff? Seems pretty weird that you could have a good relationship in general but she's being so deliberately and knowingly hurtful and undermining about this.

Matilda is not a better name than Autumn, it's a different one.

I'm sorry but I think you need to find your own voice as a mum and stick up for your daughter, and your choice of name. Otherwise I have a feeling your mum is going to be deciding and controlling a lot more than just her name in years to come.

Perhaps show her this thread, then she can see how many people think she's in the wrong.

My DN (teenager) has the same name. I'm sure BIL & SIL will have had some similar comments to you but they love it and so does DN (as do we). Her little sister has an unusual name and the two go together perfectly

Agree with PPs - if you love the name and think it suits your DD stick with it. If you're not sure you could change it.

When I told my aunt DS1's full name she complained it was a bit of a mouthful. It has exactly the same number of syllables as hers... some families are just annoying like that 😕

OP, ask your mum who chose your name for you, was it her or her mother? If it was her, she's had her chance, so she can drop it now.

Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan's baby daughter is called Autumn so it's pretty likely the name will gain in popularity now, if you're worried about it being unusual. I think it's a lovely name though.

I love the name Autumn. It's a very pretty name.

Autumn is a lovely name. Beautiful and strong.

I like it. Your mother should be grateful you didn't call her Hally, short for Halloween.