I think I want to change DD's name...

Autumn is lovely.

Tell your mother to go ahead and have another baby and call her Matilda.

Seriously, stop taking your mum so seriously and start taking the piss out of her. If you are close like you say, she'll be fine with it. Next time she goes on about the name say "mum, it isn't too late, you can squeeze another baby out and call her whatever you want but this one is called Autumn" or "god mum I"m beginning to worry about you and Autumn's name - please tell me you aren't dementing yet".

YOu are a mum now. Your mum is a grandmother. You need - and I mean this kindly - to be an adult and not give a fuck about what your mum thinks about a name.

You have a mother problem, not a name problem. Autumn is lovely, your mother is not!

It's lovely. Change it if you want to but I wouldn't. I would just roll my eyes every time your mum says anything and say to your daughter "oh dear Autumn, Nanny's still going on about your lovely name, it is boring isn't it?"

Nothing wrong with Matilda or Violet.....but Autumn is about 50 times prettier.

Your mum named her children, she's had her chance. If she likes Matilda so much she can get a pet and call it Tilly. Autumn is a beautiful name and you chose it for your daughter. Don't let her spoil it for you.

I think it's a beautiful name. Don't change it although violet is also pretty. From the sounds of it your mother will make mean comments whatever the name.
I think I would say 'mum her name is autumn it won't be changing as dh and I chose it and love it. If you can't stop making mean and inappropriate comments about our choice and accept our little girls name maybe you had better not see her quite so often'

I think that autumn is lovely. Worst case scenario she can move to America.

You'll get comments from rude gits no matter what the name is, OP.

The first thing my grandmother said when I told her my DD's name was Emilia was, "Horrible. Sounds like mealy-mouthed".

All you can do is choose a name that you and your partner like. There's nothing wrong with the name Autumn. It's a known name, spelt correctly, not trendy enough to date etc. So don't worry about what your mother is saying, although, echoing others' thoughts, she doesn't sound like a particularly nice person.

You could always tell your mum to keep her opinions to herself?
It's a really beautiful name.

Your mum will find fault with any name that's not Matilda so changing dd's name to Violet won't help. You will only be swapping comments like "may as well been called season" for "may as well been called violin" or similar ridiculous comments.
The issue you have is not with the name Autumn, which is lovely, it's with your mum. How you resolve that I don't know, but certainly not by changing dd's name.

PS - Autumn is a beautiful name.

I'm just really close to my mum, so she probably feels like she can say it.

I'm really close to my daughters, but I would never think that I should choose the names of my grandchildren, and I could never hurt them by saying such nasty things about their choices. Some of the names (I've got quite a few grandchildren) I've liked more than others, but I would never ever say anything, and, anyway, over time, a child's name becomes part of them.

Out of interest, OP, do you like the name your mother chose for you - or did your grandmother choose it?

Your mum is totally out of order - how rude.

Why aren't you called Matilda? She had her chance! Tell her to wind her neck in.

Autumn is lovely, and not "out there" in thr slightest.

I'm a monster re names. Honestly, I'm so strict and cruel. But I think 'Autumn' is lovely.

A very old song.

Autumn is a lovely name

Your mum needs to be told to pipe down. Why do you put up with that shit from her?

Autumn is a really beautiful name. Please don't change it certainly not to Violet

If you still love the name keep it. Try not to worry about other people's opinions. They'll get used to it!

I wouldn't change it. My son is younger and definitely knows his name, and responds to it. I think it'd be unfair to change it now.

Autumn is a lovely name.

I think it's a beautiful name
We had our son an his name is Kaycee, we both love it and the spelling too but have had people say it's a girls name, I've never wanted to change it though and it really suits him, he is nearly 8 now, if you like it and it's not an obviously silly name then keep it.

I have to admit I find it odd that you would consider changing a ten month old's named based on someone else's opinion. And people saying she's too young to know, a) how do you know, surely she looks round if her name is said and b) what about later on in life, wouldn't you find it strange to find out you had a lovely name and it got changed to something else?

I think no matter what the name is something will come from it. I personally love it.

People laughed at my daughters name when I was pregnant and tried very hard for me to change my mind. The more some family members teased me the more I stuck to my guns. Her name is 'Eloise' which is not common at all where I am from. People laughed and asked if I had made it up, some made snarky comments and some people still to this day refuse to use the name and call her Ella instead😂! I don't care though because I have had some lovely comments on her name as a whole 'Eloise Elizabeth' and I still love it😍!

Autumn and Violet are equally beautiful. I think Autumn Violet or Violet Autumn sound great. Go for how you feel. If you really want to change do it asap.

Your mum sounds highly manipulative, Can you try having a good few weeks break to see if life is easier with minimal contact?

"imagine if she ends up marrying someone with the last name Winter."

Aaaaaaaaahh!

The OP has given the obvious answer. I just couldn't help myself, sorry. It must be Stepford Wives Night Out on MN tonight.

It's s gorgeous name. I also really like Summer as a girls name. They are really pretty names. Please ignore your mother OP.

How dare your mum say that to your daughter! Yes she is too young to understand now but what will she say to her when she can understand. My mother would not be seeing my daughter until she could keep a civil tongue in her head!

I know a poet and a toddler both called Autumn. They both seem very happy with the name.