I think I want to change DD's name...

I love the name Autumn.
children are called Summer and nobody questions it. Months - January, April, May June (and July in Annie) are regular names. We had a Red in class and nobody thought anything of it.

Choose it because you like it and it suits - not for amybody else.

I love the name Matilda, it's gorgeous!

Autumn is a quite a nice name but I think if you're going to go for a more unusual name you have to be prepared for people to question the pronunciation etc. Most people will just want to make sure they get it right.

She's being brought up to realise traditions like that are sexist - that's good

Can you imagine being so rude about a name your daughter had chosen for her daughter? Would keeping her name be a way of drawing a line in the sand about how your mum interferes - so that your daughter also learns from positive interactions within a family?

It is a beautiful name. If people react, it's probably because you look a little unsure due to how your mum is being so rude.

Are things otherwise OK? Sometimes on here wanting to change a name as been a tiny symptom of PND (not always, obviously).

Autumn is a much nicer name than violet x

Your mum has had her chance to name her children and this was your's Autumn is a Lovely name. Don't do it because of the digs she's making if anything you need to speak to her and tell her straight that comments like that especially to your daughter are unacceptable.

Don't change it. its a lovely name, and not that uncommon.

Is your mum normally this controlling, it sounds like she wants to choose your dds name!!!!

Please don't change it. Autumn is YOUR baby not your mothers. She has no say whatsoever in what you call your baby. Autumn is unusual but so lovely! Better than all the Ava's, Olivia's and Bella's that will no doubt be in her class.

I would sit your mother down and tell her just how upsetting it is that she keeps saying Autumn isn't a good name, that YOU love it and won't be changing it. Tell her to STFU.

Hope this thread has helped you in believing in your name choice a bit OP?

I am dismayed for you that your mum is being so unkind.
I would buy her a doll and say, "Here you go, now call it Matilda" because she is so obsessed.

Oh FGS, i'm angry on your behalf! Autumn is a beautiful and TOTALLY NORMAL name! I wanted it if we had a DD but DH said no. Your mum needs to pipe down. What a horrible person she is being.

The problem here is not your DDs name.

The problem is your mother's attitude.

Autumn is very pretty and perfectly acceptable as a name. If you still love it, don't change it.

I find it baffling your mum is going on about it 10 months later. So rude and mean of her, especially when she knows how much it upsets you. I think you need to really clamp down on your mum and tell her that if she can't keep her tongue in check, then she won't be seeing her granddaughter until she can. I also think you should show her this thread so she can see 1. How many people like the name Autumn and 2. That every single person so far thinks you mum's behaviour is unacceptable.

Her behaviour is making you overthink other people's reactions. I think people say "like the season" just to double check they've heard the right name - not because they think it's weird or horrible.

Stick up for yourself and your DD. Your mum had the chance to pick names with her own children. This is YOUR child and she needs to respect your decision.

And she can even say she's got a song with her name in! 'Forever Autumn' from war of the worlds!!

No different to the name Summer!? Also a season. I think Autumn is lovely and your mum is being bloody rude. My mum pulls this sort of shit too. One time she referred to my daughter as 'who's this ugly thing come to talk to me' I could've slapped her. I made it very clear her comments were out of order and so must you with your mum

Tell her straight! Otherwise this is the thin end of the wedge! Good luck

I wouldn't change her name, and I would make this very clear, to your bullying Mother. If anyone else says, Autumn like the season, just say, yes, just like the season, and smile.
If your Mother carries on bleating, say this is getting boring now, so you'll see her later, and leave. Do it every time, until she gets a grip.

Autumn is definitely a 'real' name, not that it has anything to do with anyone eise! It's lovely, and imo much better than the standard names where there are 5 in every class throughout throughout school.

My nearly 4 year old DD is Autumn.

When she was first born I also got comments from family but now it's just her name and it suits her. I also get a lot of positive comments from people now, it's a lot less uncommon now then it was a few years ago.

OP it's a beautiful name, if YOU want to change it then change it, but don't do it for other people's benefit

It's a beautiful name. I think people may have the reaction you're saying they do because you might not sound very confident when you're telling them. Like you're not sure yourself.
Your Mum is being cruel. Are you able to tell her to stop?
If you love the name you should definitely keep it and be confident with it.

*have dogs at you was Have A Go At You

Your mother is being horrible about this. You know, if you changed it to Violet I'm sure she'd still have dogs at you because you're daring to do what you want and not what she wants!
Autumn is lovely, many people's favourite time of year, and relevant to her because of her DoB.
Stick to your guns, and close your mother down when she starts up, each and every time.
No mum, you already got to name a baby.
No mum, her name's Autumn because I love it.
No mum, Matilda isn't a better name than Autumn, her name is lovely.
And on and on.
She'll get the message, and maybe learn that she can't push you around.

My DD's name is an unusual one, and we have had some funny comments- mainly isn't that a boy's name? It's not ! Never has been, is a perfectly valid name (and adored on MN) just not used all that often.
We ignore it- we love the name, that's why we chose it, and it suits our DD down to the ground.

Autumn is a beautiful name! It's very feminine and not too common. I can see why you picked it

It is not common, which is probably why people ask 'as in the season?' And they also may be asking so they know how you are spelling it i.e. Are you spelling it the same way as the season?

Honestly your mum is being very rude and you need to nip it in the bud - next time she comments call her on it.

Initially I thought that maybe your daughter was only a few days/weeks old (overlooked the Halloween bit!) and that your mother would come to her senses and accept the name - but she's 10 months old and it's very mean of your mother to still be going on about it.

Autumn sounds serene and elegant - and as many others have said it's not that unusual.

I wouldn't let your mother's behaviour continue - I think you need to say in a calm and firm manner that she must stop.

Please keep Autumn! Your dd is almost a year old and will probably know her name.

Autumn is a lovely name and not even that unusual - top 150 in UK and top 100 in USA.

You clearly love her name and you shouldn't feel bullied into changing it. The problem here isn't her name, it is your mother wanting to control it.

Autumn is not an unusual name and it is definitely a name, a very pretty one. Your mum is being extremely rude. I actually know 2 little Autumns and loads of Summers as well and no-one has ever questioned their names. Hasn't she heard of Autumn Phillips? Don't give into pressure from your mum. Your dd has a name and you clearly love it so don't change it. You need to speak to your mum. She shouldn't say things like that to your dd as she will feel rejected and start to dislike the name herself.

I've taught 2 Autumns, it really isn't that unusual. One we joked about a bit (good naturedly) because her best friend in the same class was Summer!

If I was introduced to an Autumn I wouldnt think it was odd at all.

I much prefer it to Matilda (and don't like Tilly at all). I think Autumn is an elegant, strong name. I also prefer it to Violet.

Btw, my DD has a top 10 name but I didn't feel like it was 'her' name at all until she was probably a few months old. I think sometimes names seem too big for babies and you just aren't used to saying it aloud until you introduce them to other people because you have no need to call them. You arent shouting it up the stairs or trying to get their attention like you would be when they're older! I would stick with it. Your mum does need a stern word though.