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Unisex name help

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Kellyturnbull · 13/08/2017 11:00

we've named our baby girl Finley but struggling with a middle name that we both love
My favourite is Grace however my partner is not as in love as me
Looking for any other ideas..
Big sister is Millie Rose so can't have Rose

I know not everyone is a fan of unisex names but we really love them and had Bobbi, Charley, Noa, Parker and spencer on our list before falling in love with Finley

Thanks :)

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Kellyturnbull · 15/08/2017 00:02

Oh Finley Iris is lovely
What do you think of Finley Ivy? Is it too matchy with sounds or does it flow?

Genuinely don't get biscuitmillionaires comment of casebook? Maybe lack of sleep but I'm just not getting it

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Kellyturnbull · 14/08/2017 23:53

Thanks everyone, my favourites so far
Finley Grace (my heart is still here)
Finley Mae
Finley Jade
Finley Belle
Finley Rae
I don't find Grace boring though, I think it's a beautiful, feminine, timeless name. Also it's my mums middle name, same as Rose is my granny's middle name but I will run the others past my hubby 🙈
Can I also add for the comments of its all boy that if you look up the rankings for the name Finley in America it's much higher for girls than boys, ranked #163 for girls and #302 for boys. My family over in Canada also said its more common for girls than boys.. yes I know we are not in Canada or America but I imagine the name will gain with girls here too.
Also Lisa Marie Presley (Elvis's daughter) named one of her twin girls Finley so Elvis's granddaughter is a Finley girl 💁! Not why I have picked the name just to add in haha
I love her name ☺️💗

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Kr1stina · 14/08/2017 23:41

How right you are , no dogs Grin

biscuitmillionaire · 14/08/2017 23:38

What about Casebook as a middle name? Especially good if she goes into medicine.

nodogsinthebedroom · 14/08/2017 23:33

Kr1stina clearly wasn't a fan of Home and Away Smile

Finley Iris is lovely, OP.

thisisafreename · 14/08/2017 23:11

Please do not choose Grace. It so very common and boring.

thisisafreename · 14/08/2017 23:09

Finley Augusta
Finley Moore
Finley Brontë
Finley Eliot
Finley Jane
Finley Nina
Finley Summer
Finley Winter
Finley Jameson
Finley Rosario
Finley Tabitha

Kr1stina · 14/08/2017 22:56

I have name that is used for boys and girls but with different spellings , like Frances / Francis . I hated it as a child / teenager and don't particularly like it now.

I still get a lot of emails and letters addressed to Mr Francis Smith, especially at work. It's particularly annoying when I have met the writer and I think they should have spotted that I am a woman. My name may be ambiguous but my voice and appearance are not.

Clearly the default human / person in my job is male.

Your child will spend her whole life with people saying

" oh I thought Findlay was a boys name "

" no my mum found it in a book of unique names, she changed the spelling and that makes it a girls name"

" I see " Hmm

Please choose a name that is commonly used for both sexes and with the normal spelling e.g. Cameron, Kim

Would you call your son a girls name with a different spelling to make it male? What about Emmilleee or Ameeelia - are these boys names because they have an unconventional spelling ?

Taking a boys name and changing the spelling doesn't make it female.

It also sounds like you really wanted a boy and are disappointed with a girl.

Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 14/08/2017 22:45

I think Finley Grace is a beautiful name.

Threeandabit · 14/08/2017 22:40

Finley Tallulah
Finley Cecelia
Finley Miranda
Finley Elfreda
Finley Clarissa
Finley Sabrina
Finley Tabitha
Finley Rochelle
Finley Lucinda
Finley Ursula
Finley Shirley

Threeandabit · 14/08/2017 22:19

Finley Coral
Finley Katrice
Finley Catherine
Finley Nicoletta
Finley Eugenie
Finley Kristin
Finley Iris
Finley Corinne
Finley Isabel
Finley Mabel
Finley Donatella - Means "beautiful gift"

notevernotnevernotnohow · 14/08/2017 21:34

Please don't "fiddle with spellings to make it sound more girly".

Fin-Leigh is atrocious, the others are no better.

As for MammieBears list, half of those are not even names!

LittleLights · 14/08/2017 19:47

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MammieBear · 14/08/2017 19:22

It is, silly phone!!

MammieBear · 14/08/2017 19:21

Hi Brutusmcdogface,
Yes really is is a name one Nameberry.com.Grin

BrutusMcDogface · 14/08/2017 19:07

Mammie- Bae? Really?!

Threeandabit · 14/08/2017 19:01

Finley is lovely.

Finley Marie
Finley Peggy
(I have just finished reading a novel, with a character called Peggy Turnbull)
Finley Danielle / Daniella
Finley Joy
Finley Sienna
Finley Stephanie
Finley Naomi
Finley Ruby
Finley Trudy
Finley Cherish

MammieBear · 14/08/2017 16:03

Some more short names I can think of that seem to suit your style,

hope they help :

Bae
Bree
Cat
Day
Eve
Fern
Gai
Hope
Ida
Jesse
Jove

Love
Maeve
Nova
Opal

Stella

Violet

MammieBear · 14/08/2017 15:41

Pearl is the name that first came to my mind. Smile

chamenanged30 · 14/08/2017 15:14

Can I add my two cents. Have you considered that she might want a girly choice? Both shortenings are still largely male too: Finn and Lee (yes Leigh is female but not terribly familiar in this generation).

Orangebird69 · 14/08/2017 12:48

Finley Noa is nice.

BrutusMcDogface · 14/08/2017 12:46

I love Cameron for a girl!

CharleyAnn · 14/08/2017 12:00

Oh, and tell your niece she has an ace name! Wink xx

CharleyAnn · 14/08/2017 11:58

Hey Kelly! 🙋

She has a beautiful name! I'm Charley Ann.. Smile

If all your friends and family are on board then go for it! There's so many middle names for your girl and she might like the unisex trend to her name. Own it like I do - I couldn't imagine myself having any other name!

I must admit I went through a phase of not liking my name because I wanted something girly but I'll probably get that out of me when I have children of my own (only come on here to hear all the beautiful names!)

I'd had a lot of comments growing up of 'Isn't that a boys name?' and people always assuming before they see me that I'm a boy. Also, a lot of 'Is it short for Charlotte?' A nasty comment or two whilst being in my 20s from people who are a lot older than me but I tend to ignore them.

I know a boy who has the same spelling as me as well as girls and also the same for the ie spelling (boys and girls).

I was the only girl in my class of my name (not a single boy Charlie either) so I loved being unique :)

Congratulations on your pregnancy and finding such a beautiful name too! Look forward to seeing what you choose for a middle name! Flowers xxx

Amee1992x · 14/08/2017 11:47

Finley id lovely! Also like Bobbi. We are expecting a girl Spencer ❤️

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