Shortened versions of long name on bc

I changed my name informally when I was 7 and by deed poll in mid twenties between degrees. It has never been a problem. It was one of my given names but no one in my life now other than immediate family would know any different. All ID in new name. No one at interview has ever commented. I just bring deed poll along with certificates.

We have two with full names and one with 'nickname' it is a mainstream nickname, will be no more unusual than the myriad of names in the playgrounds at the moment. She loves her name but hates all the long versions. It also means that in registers she always is called by her name rather than a name on her bc which she is never known by. If any of them wanted to change their names then they could.

Oh and the "they can change the name later" thing - it is hard once you've started getting qualifications to change your name without it causing issues later on, other than surname.

I do think too many people pick a name for a baby, not a name that will suit an adult wherever life takes them.

Personally I think "ee" / "ie" /"y" ending names sound cute but childish, which is fine around family and when a child, but don't give any sort of air of authority. Perhaps in another generation it'll be different, but it's still the case now that it's hard for young woman to be taken seriously in a number of industries and saddling them with a "cute little girl" name doesn't help.

(Usually when someone mentions issues surrounding young woman trying to get into primarily male work places, another MNer will come along and say "didn't stop me, but then I was judged on my 1st from oxford not my name", failing to consider that many woman won't have qualifications vastly above the other male candidates, and the "average" person is more likely to be judged on stuff like this).

My DD has a nickname at home that ends in "ee" sound, but at preschool she's known by her proper name, mainly because there are so many "Millie/Molly/Ellie" girls it gets a bit confusing.

I have a Josie who isn't a Josephine and a Danny..... Who is just a Danny

Funnyfarmer Sure, you can change your name, but if people persist in calling you by your given name it's futile.

Anyway I am still waiting for OP to explain the "bigger set of issues" she apparently thinks I have. Possibly this is the "more important stuff" that Ginliness thinks I should be getting "worked up about".

My kids have full names as registered names and it actually causes headaches for me currently as I have an Edward who only identifies with the diminutive name he has been known by since birth. I'm constantly telling doctors (and the school) that he wants the. To use the name he identifies with rather than his long name - as parents I don't think you can win, I gave the option but so far (and they are on,y young) they would prefer the nick name

If a child or anyone really dosent want the shorten version and feels deprived of a full name. There's always deed poll.

My name can't be shortened or nickname used, it is as it is. When I was a child I always wanted a longer name such as Catherine so I had choices - Cat, Caz, Kate, Katie, Kitty. Just gives more options. My children - one has longer name but he has always been shortened to nickname, second has a short name that can't be altered, third we shortened the name but put longer version on BC but it is never used. However gives option in future for DC.

@29Palms don't scroll down too much on this forum, there's a post called "just Dottie?"

@29Palms isn't there more important stuff to get worked up about than this?

You'd hate me, my son has a diminutive for his "proper" name. Fortunately for us he loves it, and so do most people he meets.

I have a few friends with shortened names. The shorter versions have become that popular they themselves didn't realise it was a shored name.
2 of them are sisters. If they both was use to use full version of there names. They would have the same name

My dd has a shortend name. She's named after her aunt who has the full name but she shortens differently.
The shorted name we have her is just as popular as the full name.
My db still insists on calling her by the full version though. He hates shortened names. He thinks there chavy.

What do you mean, "a bigger set of issues"?

Most people I know with short names get them lengthened or shortened.
Rose - Rosie, Sarah - Sez or Sas, Ann - Annie, Ian - E (WTF), Neil - Nellie, Georgie, Marky, Ste, etc

As long as it makes people think, and realise giving a name shouldn't be all about them.

Gosh 29 mebs you need a little therapy to help you deal with your angst.

What a lot of dramatic language being used.

They are what they are, short names.

My objection is to shortened names like Beth and Kate, where parents are deliberately withholding the full name and depriving their child of options that they should have had.

29 but what about names like Claire or Sarah? George or Paul?

Proper names. Full length. No shortening options.

I think it's still better to have a longer 'official' name on the BC, its fine when they're all young and cute to use their nicknames but it can affect them later in life I'd hate to think someone's CV would get thrown in the rubbish because they didn't like their name or think it sounds somewhat common (it happens more often than it should) my own DP has a 'nickname' as his name but weirdly when he puts the longer length version of his name as his first name on his CV he had a lot more luck finding work - I wonder why?!

Snobbery is exactly what it is. How is it any worse to call your kid Tom and 'rob' them of the opportunity to be called Thomas than to just called them a name that can't be shortened anyway, like Oscar.

What the fuck has "snobbery" got to do with it?
It's about being generous enough to give your child some options.

Oscar is often shortened to Ossie or Oz, so your example doesn't work.

I know plenty of people who can't stand their full names

They have a choice, though.
I can't stand the abbreviated name I was given, but I don't have a choice.