Why do you keep spelling my son's name Elliott!?

To be fair, the Elliot(t)s I know both spell their name Elliott.

I often get Elisabeth instead of Elizabeth. Doesn't bother me, even though I've never met anyone with the Elisabeth spelling and assumed it wouldn't be common here.

Argh I get that too, Chocolatecake.

For example, I write:

Dear X,

Blahblahblah.

Best wishes,

Lizzie

The reply:

Dear Lizzy.

IT'S RIGHT THERE BEFORE YOUR EYES! -IE! NOT -Y!

Some people are just not very good at spelling. It's not worth getting upset about.

The shortening of my name can be spelt in many ways.
I send an email, sign off with my name spelt my way, get a reply addressed to a different spelling! Drives me nuts!!

It can be autocorrect. I messaged a friend called Katerina and my phone corrected it to Katrina, it's mortifying because I do know her name!

In real life it just can be very hard to remember, although that's not an excuse when it is written in front of you. People I know with names I find very hard to remember how to spell are Vicki (is it Vicky), Milly (Millie?), Callum (Calum?), Ally (Ali?) and Nikki (Nicky?). Some of those are members of my family and every Christmas I have to trawl Facebook to try to work out how they spell their name.

Tell you what tho, if you spell their name wrong, they will pick up on it.
Lady with a several legitimate spellings kept getting my name (with a couple of legitimate spellings) wrong. I'd ignored it. I'd mentioned it. No change. Got her name once, all hell broke loose - but she rarely got my name wrong again.

Loads of people spell my son's name wrong (they typically use the traditional spelling) even if the correct spelling is right in front of them - it's really annoying

I'm 47. People still spell my name wrong - including people I've worked with for 12 years and FIL & his wife. They even spell it wrong when replying to emails that have my full name in the email address and the signature.

Bethany is lovely - that and Bethan were options for us. Elsbeth is definitely a name in its own right though. There is Elspet without the final h too!

Oh that's interesting CFB as I wanted to call dd Elsbeth but was told it wasn't even a name and she would be called Elspeth forever. So she is a Beth(any).

If there is more than one spelling I try to use the preferred spelling of the OP, but being a Bear of Small Brain I often forget which spelling was used when I've read the thread and I'm about to compose a reply. I'm also too lazy to scroll back up to check. I figure the OP will not be too bothered as they don't know me and my opinion or choice of spelling really doesn't matter in this context.

It doesn't bother me much when discussing potential and undecided names here, but in real life my daughter has her name spelled incorrectly a lot (she is Elspeth and people keep writing Elsbeth on cards and invitations, grrrr) which annoys me as I think it is very rude to not use the spelling we use.

For the same reason people make it to adulthood without being able to spell their/they're/there correctly despite it being there in front of them for several decades I'd imagine!

Auto-correct.

Mine won't let me spell Phyllis with one L, despite knowing a Phyllis with one L.