Partner won't even discuss my No. 1 choice

On names both partners should get as many vetos as they like.

@ThisIsANormalLife, well, it's not exactly the Queen's English, I suppose

It's definitely a boys name, but it's a terrible boys name. I mean, really, it's a bit of a joke name. I know it doesn't reflect well on me to say that, but back in the real world, it is.

If my DH suggested it, I'd be roaring with laughter, knowing full well he was joking, and trying to one up me on my previous suggestion of, say, Lysander or Ignatius.

I think that baby names are something both parents need to agree on, and I also think that "I don't like this name" is a good enough reason for either parent to veto a name.

And FWIW, DH and I started having idle chats about baby names years before TTC DC1.

nooka yes I obviously am aware of the euphemism. I met a little girl called Cherry when I did work experience at a primary school and this association, and prostitution, was the furthest thing from mu mind! I think it sounds fresh and natural and not dissimilar to Cherie or Cheryl, so more like a 'real' name than say, Apple.
Anyway, we're not having it!!

I know it's a boy's name, but I think it would be nice as a girl's name too

Nice for you maybe, but it's such a selfish thing to do to a child IME. Yes, there are loads of names that have 'changed sex' with time but that's not much consolation to the poor sods whose parents were early adopters of the sex change. First they get 14 years of teasing at school, then they have to spend the rest of their lives having the same conversation with everybody they meet, "Yes, it's unusual, isn't it? My parents wanted to be different'.

Attention-seeking by the parents and the kid pays the price.

I wouldn't use the name op, but maybe he could've phrased his objection a little kinder.

I will echo others and caution against assuming getting pregnant and having a baby to name is an absolute given. Many of us who previously assumed the same now know it is far from a given. Obviously, it is likely to happen without problem for you and I hope it does, but it would be wise to maintain an element of hope rather than expectation.

Flogging, it has been years since I heard someone say something is "previous". Dh thinks I'm making up words when I say it, so thank you

It happens. I love Iris and kind of always thought it would be the name of my child if I had a girl. He doesn't like it at all. Sucks but - that's life!

I also have to give up on Pippa because his surname has lots of Ps in and it would sound stupid. It's compromise...

Peregrine is rather risible as a boys name (it's e sort of name that posh people don't really choose, but which people think they like do, so it's a stereotype and an inaccurate one to boot)

It wouldn't occur to me to use such a boys name for a girl.

So I agree with your DH (and indeed think he's put it quite mildly). But as PP put it, it doesn't matter one jot how many of us like it or hate it. He hates it. And that's the end of the discussion.

Both times we were choosing names we had a rule that if one of us said no, that would be the end of it. We agreed not to say it lightly without thinking and it worked. DP said no straight away to my favourite name that I'd sort of always assumed would be the name of my first child but it's fair enough. Both times we ended up with names we both like with no arguments

You can't force your DP into a name he hates, just as he couldn't force you into a name you hate. You both have to agree.

I don't see what there is to discuss. He doesn't like it, thinks the name is stupid (blunt, but I don't see it as rude in the way others do). Do you just want to hear all that over again?

Or were you hoping to browbeat persuade him to call his DC a name he despises?

He doesn't have to have a good reason for disliking it - he just doesn't.

Both parents have an absolute veto on baby names. No reasons required.

I have given unusual names to my DC but I agree with your DH, Peregrine is not a name I'd use.

The issue with Cherry is that 'popping your cherry' is a euphemism for losing your virginity.

I don't think that there is anything particularly wrong with saying that you think a name is stupid/silly/ridiculous etc when it is for a completely hypothetical baby.

Likeacrow I love the name Cherry too. It sounds so happy. Where did this prostitute thing come from?! Peregrine on the other hand ...sorry OP...is truly yuk especially for a girl

I agree with him tbh

TheEdgeofSeventeen apology accepted.

Then again I like Tobias and Cornelius for boys and Violet/ Ava for girls so who am I to have a say :')

likeacrow - sorry but your husband was right to veto cherry - Its a prostitute name :/ do you want kids yelling 'cherry lost her cherry' at your kid in HS ?
OP I think its interesting and kind of like it but like others have pointed out - Perrie from Little Mix ( ew) and isn't there that new film out last year ? ' Miss Peregrine's home for Peculiar Children' .... not sure you want to imply an association with being peculiar.

Why would you want him to discuss it? I feel that baby names are a matter personal taste, like music, not really something you can talk someone into liking or disliking.

If my husband disliked a name I'd lose enthusiasm for it because I want my baby to have a name his father likes... Just move on - think how happy you'll be to have one you both like!

How about Perita (a Hebrew name) or Perdita, with Peri as nickname?

It's fine if you're extremely rich, and posh. Otherwise, no. And definitely not a girls' name.

Meh, unfortunately/fortunately, you both get to say... You're fucking joking right?.... Until you agree on a name.

I wanted Ripley, dh just went pfffffft, and that was that. I was disappointed, but we ended up with a name we both like.

What a very sensible DH you have OP