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I regret my son's name...

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AlaskaTheKitten · 07/12/2016 01:36

He will be 1 in February and I still regret it but I don't know what to do! It's his first and middle name but I don't know why. I have a name that I prefer and did want from the start but I still don't know why I cannot get over this regret... :(

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SlottedSpoon · 07/12/2016 03:58

I don't think changing your son's name is going to ease the pain of being dumped by his father in the least. However, if you still can't get comfortable with the name then by all means change it and do it as soon as possible. The longer you leave it the harder it will be to get everyone else on board over it.

But don't expect that changing his name will miraculously cure how you feel about your situation. It won't.

RueDeDay · 07/12/2016 03:40

In your circumstances, I would change the name. Elliot Quinn is lovely.

user1477282676 · 07/12/2016 03:37

CHange it! Nothing to do with anyone but yourself. If people ask why, just say "I never chose that name and now I'm choosing"

ChopsticksandChilliCrab · 07/12/2016 03:28

Definitely change it, and the sooner the better.

previously1474907171 · 07/12/2016 03:26

Change it, have a fresh start.

Out2pasture · 07/12/2016 03:07

change it, why relive painful times.

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AlaskaTheKitten · 07/12/2016 02:59

His dad promised me that he would stick by us and be a good father to him so I obviously compromised on things which included the name. The thing is he then fucked off just after I had registered him but thought the name would grow on me as it was now his name. His name is Noah Jayden and I don't think it's a bad name I just feel like it will always bug me as it will remind me of how he promised to be his dad and isn't here being a good one! I would go for Elliot Quinn and I still love it and wished I had used it...

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Pluto30 · 07/12/2016 02:52

What's his name?

What don you not love about it?

What is the name you prefer, why do you prefer it, and why didn't you choose it initially?

I can try to give you some more advice if I know the answers to these questions, or I can at least reassure you about your name choice, or decision to change it. Smile

Pallisers · 07/12/2016 02:52

Is it really the name or are you finding things difficult generally?

Sometimes I think having a hard time in the first year (and my god it can be hard) can manifest itself in other things.

The first year can be hard. If you are having a great time and it is just the name, then maybe think about changing it. But if you are stressed, maybe the name is a symptom and not the real issue.

Or is it you felt railroaded into the name and your choice wasn't considered? (that would piss me off big time).

CelestialLight · 07/12/2016 02:52

I changed my dc's name at 10 months, to the one I originally wanted and ex-p wouldn't let me have. I'm still so, so glad I did. It really wasn't a big deal, I just told everyone one day, and that was that.

CaptainCabinets · 07/12/2016 02:46

What is it...?