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I regret my son's name...

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AlaskaTheKitten · 07/12/2016 01:36

He will be 1 in February and I still regret it but I don't know what to do! It's his first and middle name but I don't know why. I have a name that I prefer and did want from the start but I still don't know why I cannot get over this regret... :(

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FizzyGreenWater · 08/09/2020 08:46

lol Elliott Quinn is hopefully adusted to his new name by now then

FizzyGreenWater · 08/09/2020 08:45

CHANGE IT.

And I'd absolutely do it without even thinking of getting the permission of the so-called 'dad'

DoTheMaccaroni · 08/09/2020 08:29

❌❌❌ THREAD IS 4 YEARS OLD ❌❌❌

poppydaisys · 08/09/2020 06:56

Change it!

Elliott Quinn is a lovely name. Quinn Elliott also flows very well.

But yes, definitely change now it if you regret it!

FluffyEggsontoast · 08/09/2020 06:56

Change it

Astronica · 08/09/2020 04:56

I would change it. Do it now before his birthday.

Newgirl20 · 08/09/2020 01:33

My name was changed twice during the first two months and my last name changed once, I wouldnt worry we don't remember, do it sooner rather than later if its what you want, if not just live with it and accept a name is just a noise we label someone

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1horatio · 13/12/2016 08:08

I personally would probably (idk, your situation sounds very difficult so I don't actually know what I'd do!) maybe only change the first or the middle name!

I don't know why. But changing both... I think it could come to bite you in the ass. Sorry.

1horatio · 13/12/2016 08:06

I think you should change it. A name that makes you relieve painful memories... that's just not good.

Or maybe change the middle name at least. Noah Quinn would sound great. Or Noah Elliott.

But I really do like the name Elliott, so I may be a bit biased here, admittedly. But Elliott Quinn really is an awesome name!! I also like Elliott Noah, btw.

sycamore54321 · 13/12/2016 07:54

Please don't OP. It makes your son become a pawn in relationship difficulties between his parents and he should never be in that position. Surely it also means every time you use the new name, you will be reminded of the battle with your ex. Instead of it just being his name, that was chosen in a moment of happiness after his birth.

thisagain · 13/12/2016 07:17

Change it. It. May seem like a big thing now, but in the future it will just be a memory. I actually love the name Noah but Elliot is also great!

shinynewusername · 13/12/2016 07:11

Always regret not giving mine middle names. And that was 10 yrs ago so change it while you can

You can just add one - my DParents did for me when they realised I was upset to be the only sibling without one. I was 6 or 7 at the time. Your legal name is whatever you are called by family, friends etc - it doesn't have to be on your birth certificate. My middle name is on my passport and all official documents apart from my birth certificate.

enqueue · 13/12/2016 07:09

Change it Smile
Elliott Quinn is great. And people close enough to you to ask about the change will likely pat you on the back for being strong enough.

DollyPlastic · 13/12/2016 07:07

I much prefer Elliot. Change it and don't look back Brew

MrsElls · 13/12/2016 07:02

No advice really but I think Elliott Quinn is a great name!

FriendofBill · 09/12/2016 06:23

Change it ASAP.

JinCa · 09/12/2016 06:17

Change it. He is your son.

NavyandWhite · 07/12/2016 14:05

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Middleoftheroad · 07/12/2016 10:07

Do it. Always regret not giving mine middle names. And that was 10 yrs ago so change it while you can.

When I decided I wanted to, they were 14 months old and it was too late. Envy

Gruffalosfriend · 07/12/2016 09:57

In your circumstances, I would definately change it!

Elliot Quinn is a lovely name! (I also like Quinn Elliot). Good Luck!

SlottedSpoon · 07/12/2016 04:36

in view of what goddess has said, are you likely to get given a really hard time by your ex if you attempt to do this? Will he object and make it difficult? Is there an element of vengeance on your part to annoy him and provoke a reaction to punish him for leaving you?

Because if it creates a shit load of conflict it might just make you feel even worse worse. If that is likely then you could just call him Elliott and leave his BC as it is? Lots of people are known their whole lives by names that are not in their BC. Although it causes some confusion issues, it might be easier than opening up a can of worms with your ex.

On the other hand, if he is unlikely to make things awkward and is happy to cooperate then go ahead.

Pluto30 · 07/12/2016 04:16

Aw, sorry, OP. Flowers

I say change it. As someone else said, consider it a fresh start.

Elliot Quinn is a lovely name.

HeadDreamer · 07/12/2016 04:11

Echo that you can add an admendment to his first names in the birth certificate since he is not one yet. It is very easy to do. Just go back to where he was register and they can sort it.

goddessofsmallthings · 07/12/2016 03:58

You have a year from the date of registration of the birth to change your ds's forename(s) - see 'Changing A Forename' here: www.ukdp.co.uk/name-change-birth-certificate-england-and-wales/

However, if your ds's father is named on his birth certificate you may need his consent or a Specific Issues Order from the Family Courts to effect the change.

As this is likely to bug you more as time goes by I suggest you contact the Registry Office where you registered your ds's birth today and ask for guidance to initiate the process.

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