Really upset - Mum and MIL are having a go at us.

Are you or DH named after any grandparents? If by any chance you aren't, you can just tell them to stop being hypocritical.

Amazed that two grown women can be so childish. Any way you can swap it now for something entirely different, that represents neither of them?

Brace yourself OP, if they are going to be like this over a name, they are going to go batshit over Christmas 'turns' etc!

BTW I think the name you have chosen is beautiful.

Juliana is beautiful, what you did was thoughtful and yes, normal people would have been pleased with it, you'd have to be narky and a half to find fault with what you've done, not to mention self centred. You are under no obligation to use family names at all if you don't want to.

If you love Juliana stick with it and ignore them, if you only chose it for them, then I would seriously consider something else you like better. Or do you have a middle name you could share with your daughter? We didn't use family names, but dd has my middle name as hers, I did not want to get in to family politics after months of people randomly squeezing 'family' names into conversation with me. There was going to be no pleasing anyone so I pleased myself.

They are behaving childishly and totally inconsiderately of you as a new mother, apart from anything else. Whatever you choose I would tell them and say that the conversation is now over and can they please concentrate on getting to know their granddaughter and supporting her mother.

Congratulations btw

They both have had their chance to name their children. Name your DD what you like. I can promise you that this will soon pass. Do not let their childish behaviour spoil this precious moment in your life. Just tell them that is the name you and your DH/DP have chosen and you do not want further discussion. Be firm.

I think Julianna is lovely and very thoughtful of you, but seeing as your dad is the only one with a bit of gumption, I would change her middle name to the nearest female equivalent of his name...

I would have loved to have my mum's name in one of my daughters' names but it would have caused an unholy row if we had! We just avoided altogether.

You would think they would be so happy for you after your long wait, silly women!! Congratulations, enjoy your little girl, and name her whatever YOU want, don't worry about pleasing anyone else x

Congratulations on your baby girl!

Have you registered the birth yet? If not I suggest you pick a completely different middle name, and tell your mum and MIL to fuck off. Your idea of blending the names was lovely and they are being ungrateful bitches. So fuck them.

They are being very rude and should not have commented. Technically they are right you have chosen a name inspired by their names rather than called after them. But they should not comment regardless of whether they are disappointed.

Also like wiggle, I'd try to accommodate if say, my DH really wanted to use his mum's name as a middle name, but the actual GMs having a go at you for not honouring them is sad and classless.

Not your problem! Your solution was a good one.

Oh, they can fuck off.

Tell them you're actually calling her Fungus the Bogeyman.

Congrats on your baby and her beautiful middle name!

Tbh and I'm usually quite give and take with regards mum's and mils I think they're behaving atrociously. It's a beautiful name in its own right and it being a mixture of your daughters grannys names is lovely. The most they should be concerning themselves with is the safe arrival of a much loved baby and how you're doing, not playing who can be the biggest eejit over names.

Congratulations , am sure the baby is gorgeous, take care and take no notice of them.

Change her middle name to your name and tell them to lump it...

"Since you have shown so much disrespect for our choice of name and a lack of appreciation for honouring both of you together, we have now decided to change her middle name altogether to a name that me and DH/DP have chosen instead."

Congratulations Freddy ! 🌺
Your DM and your MIL, have had their time to choose baby names, this precious little one, you have waited so long for, is yours to choose.
I think Juliana, is a fabulous choice, and a lovely name.
I wouldn't give this anymore head space, the sooner you let it drop, the quicker they will get on with it.
Failing that, tell them that you have taken on board their concerns, and have decided to give her a different second name entirely, Elizabeth, after the Queen. 😂
Do not allow them to put a damper on this beautiful time, in your life.

Tell them to get fucked. There is no obligation to use anything that even resembles their names, and so they should be grateful.

Changing it would definitely make that clear, so if you truly did want to and there is a name you like more than Juliana, I'd say go for it.

Juliana is lovely. Stick to your guns they are being completely unreasonable. No doubt if you gave two middle names they would then fight about which of them came first etc

I would choose something I liked if they are going to be arsy about it stuff em. She is her own self whatever

we were lucky all our DD's great grandmothers shared the same name (yes every one!! ) so that was her middle name and no arguments - lol. Having said that both grandmothers don't like any of thier names so that was probably a win - Jean my Mom and Brigid Agnes known as Agnes

Iys a lovely name and they should be very honoured.

I dont get this expectation of having child name after you..I would never expect it

You have done nothing wrong. They're behaving like spoilt brats. They have no right to expect their names as her middle name anyway so it's not like they've lost out on anything! One of my kids has a short version of my mum's name as a middle name so isn't totally named after her but she was chuffed. Try not to let them spoil this very special time.

Or for a laugh you could say to them that if they can agree the order of the two middle names and let you know then you'll think about it!

I agree lovely lovely name, lovely lovely sentiments and lovely that your baby has her own name and not one of the 'spoilt' grandmothers!

Now is time to move the generations along in to their next phase.
You are the parents and they the grandparents! If they are first time grandparents or not in the stride of a grandparents role it could be a bumpy ride for a while.

Smile and nod and say firmly oh well we like it anyway so it's time for tea who wants a biscuit and move on! Practice this now as there will be other opportunities in the pipeline

Congrats on your baby girl

If they're going to be this horrible about it you'd have had comments even if you'd given them the two middle names, as whoever came last would have moaned.

People have very small lives indeed if they can get worked up about whether someone hasn't named a child after them.