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Having an "unusual" name

31 replies

PaulaHollywood · 01/11/2016 23:24

There's often debate about "unique" or "unusual" names. As someone who has a fairly unique name I know there are definitely pros and cons to it. I'm a Bryony. I get a range of reactions from those who know a few Bryony's and people who have never heard of it.

For me the cons were/are
-Kids in school thinking it was the female version of Brian..so got called that a lot.

  • Never finding anything (teddies keyrings etc) with my name on.
  • Telling someone my name over the phone and automatically spelling it straight away "It's Bryony that's B-R-Y...."
  • Being on the phone telling someone my name with the response "Sorry is that your first or last name?"
  • Very often having people enquire the origin- yes it's not at all offensive and in a way quite nice that people are interested but it gets a little tedious "no it's not Welsh/Irish it's actually the name of a flower."
  • People from most other countries struggle saying it. I travelled a fair bit after uni and very often would introduce myself using my middle name just to avoid being called Barney, Bonnie, Bronnie, Biney, Briney and many more.
-Even countries where English is the first language are perplexed by it. In America people assumed it was Bryannie or Briannie. They thought it was a variation of Brianna.
  • I studied in Australia for 6 months and had to get very used to people looking puzzled and asking me to repeat myself when first meeting.
  • Knowing that it's a marmite name and a lot of people when hearing it will be thinking what a horrible name it is.

But some pros to

  • Although I hated my name growing up and was so envious that my twin sister had a top 10 name, I now appreciate that I was always the only one in a class and didn't have to be known as Bryony 'first initial of surname.'
  • I still find it quite exciting when meeting someone with the same name. I worked in a hotel a few years ago and one evening heard "BRYONY will you stop that!" I of course immediately turned round to see a little girl being told off by her mum. We became close pals over their 2 week holiday!

I suppose this is more a thread on the pros and cons of Bryony. But I think it's interesting to see people's takes on unusual names and their reason for choosing them. It doesn't help that I really really dislike my name. But I suppose that could happen to anyone even if it's a top 10 name! I think the most frustrating part is having to repeat it and the puzzled looks some people give.

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AprilShowers16 · 02/11/2016 01:04

I have a fairly unusual name - I loved finding other people with the same name when I was younger and liked being unique with my name in my class etc.

I always find it weird that people give not being able to find tatty keyrings with the child's names on it reason not to name them something unusual. I don't remember being particular scarred by this and nowadays it's so easy to order personalised items on the internet anyway

Yuckky · 02/11/2016 00:38

I know three Bryony's Grin

I have an unusual name. People spell it and pronounce it incorrectly all the time but it doesn't bother me. I often use my middle name though. My name is a proper name in another country. My parents are English but thought it a pretty name.

I think there is a fine balance between unusual and trying to hard to be unique though and I think it's really silly to purposely spell a name unusually.

CakeRattleandRoll · 02/11/2016 00:31

I have a very unusual name and have never met anyone else with it, although it is a 'real' name, with history/meaning etc.

I am very happy that my parents gave me an unusual name, I don't mind having to spell it and I'm used to answering to the most common mispronunciation. I use a short nn with friends/family and introduce myself like that.

I would find it very strange to have to 'share' my name with other people, and if I heard my name, not knowing if it was me being called/spoken about.

And it never bothered me not being able to find stuff with my name on it - most of that stuff was plastic tat anyway! It needn't be an issue nowadays anyway, as it is easy to get customised stuff for kids with whatever name you want.

BikeRunSki · 02/11/2016 00:09

I am called Alice. Very popular now, considerably less so when I was a child (1970s/80s). I have very similar feelings and experience about my name as the OP. Most people think I am Alison when they first meet me - they hear a name far more common on my age group. Never had a mug or anything with my name on. DSis had the top name for her birth year and had her name on everything.
We have deliberately given our DC short, simple, non ambiguous, well known names.

mmmuffins · 01/11/2016 23:54

Ive just done this to my baby daughter. She's only 10 months but I already know to spell her name straight away after saying it on the phone. I also get asked regularly if the name is Irish.

I hope she likes the name when she's older. If not, she has her less unusual middle name to fall back on!

OdinsLoveChild · 01/11/2016 23:34

I love the name Bryony. Grin

My name is a really naff 70's name that I hate. I have the more unusual spelling of my name and not a single person other than my mother actually spells it correctly. Even my bloody husband of 20+ years spells it wrong. Hmm

It's not unique in any way it's very common but just spelled slightly differently from the more popular version.

I don't have a 'name key ring' either. I have one that says 'they didn't have your name' Confused