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DP won't let me pick our daughter's name!

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JassyS · 28/10/2016 17:48

Our daughter is due soon. DP wants her to have his surname, so I said that's fine, as long as I get to pick the first name. He says no, so I said, we double-barrel her surname, then we both get to pick a first name that we both like (but not love - there isn't a name we both love). Or she has my surname and he can pick.

He still thinks I'm being unreasonable! Angry

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sonlypuppyfat · 28/10/2016 17:57

Well he would say you're being unreasonable because he sounds like a right tit. Seriously why do women have children with such idiots , back up over this and he will try and rule you forever

wobblywonderwoman · 28/10/2016 17:57

I wouldn't give baby his surname until you are married

That aside - why does he not let you pick or at least meet halfway (you are the one doing it all)

That said - dh picked our two Dc names because I did not have a preference - genuinely

ThatStewie · 28/10/2016 17:56

If he won't compromise, then name the baby yourself. I'd also be raiding an eyebrow at such ridiculously controlling behaviour.

ByeByeLilSebastian · 28/10/2016 17:56

Well unfortunately for 'd'p he has no choice in the matter!

RiaOverTheRainbow · 28/10/2016 17:56

All of your options sound fair, if he wants a say in her first name you should get a say in her surname. Has he given a reason why he doesn't agree?

WaxingNinja · 28/10/2016 17:55

Or as you're not married you go and register the baby on your own and call them whatever you like.

Tbh, as you're not married, I'd insist on my surname being in there somewhere if it were me.

DoinItFine · 28/10/2016 17:55

Just tell him you'll register her without him present and pick both names yourself if he doesn't stop being such a dick.

And definitely give her your surname, either with his name or on its own.

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JassyS · 28/10/2016 17:54

He thinks that baby should get his surname and a name that we both agree on but a name that I don't love (pretty much!) but if we do that, I think we should double the surname

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bigfriendlygiant · 28/10/2016 17:54

Give her your surname or double barrel.

instantly · 28/10/2016 17:53

So he gets the choice? He's not going to compromise?

Or does he think you should both pick the name? I.e. Agree on it rather than let you choose?

MrsJoyless · 28/10/2016 17:52

Fortunately he has no rights here as you are not married. Register the birth without him, leave him off the BC and pick whatever combination of names you like.

Lunar1 · 28/10/2016 17:52

I'd like to recommend calling her Blanch.

I'd keep trying to find something you both like and double the surname.

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