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Disgraced reality 'star' has ruined my perfect baby name!

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Havingkittens04 · 07/09/2016 10:31

A popular baby name website has thoughtfully included on the list of famous people who share the perfect name we have picked out for a boy I had previously seen headlines relating to this person's antics, so I knew he was dodgy, but didn't pay attention to his name. Since discovering that my baby would share this person's first and middle name, and googling what he has actually done, I feel sick and don't think I can use it now.

DH and I have been trying to come up with alternative names, but there aren't any we like as much as this combination. Our 20 week scan is on Friday, and we'll be finding out the gender, but I don't want to go without a name in mind. Girl name is sorted. No dodgy connections

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UntilTheCowsComeHome · 09/09/2016 22:11

That's brilliant news kittens
Joshua James is a gorgeous name.

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Havingkittens04 · 09/09/2016 18:40

Aww thanks sausage! The news still hasn't sunk in, I think I'm still in shock

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sausagefest · 09/09/2016 18:30

Brilliant news. I'm delighted for you.
Enjoy Joshua James. I'm sure he will be as lovely as his name.

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Havingkittens04 · 09/09/2016 17:44

Had a great scan today. Relief doesn't even begin to cover it!

And....we're expecting a boy who hence forth shall be known as Joshua James. Thank you

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sycamore54321 · 09/09/2016 01:29

I went through quite the Duggar spell while watching re-runs on maternity leave and read all about the various scandals and there is no way I would associate a baby names Joshua James with Josh Duggar. And the vast majority of people will have better taste and more gainful hobbies than me and definitely won't know who he is or link it to your baby.

heron98 · 07/09/2016 14:02

I don't know who he is, or who the Duggars are so I wouldn't worry. Unless you're thinking of naming your son Jimmy Saville, I think it will be OK.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 07/09/2016 13:37

I thought the combo of Joshua James is very good, I had to look up who this individual is, honestly wouldn't let some person from an American reality tv show put you off.

monkeygone · 07/09/2016 12:29

You're definitely overthinking it. I have no idea who Joshua James Duggar is. And having googled him, I think even the minority of people who do know who he is will have forgotten him in about six months time.

Added to the fact that both Joshua and James and very common names, you have nothing to worry about.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 07/09/2016 12:17

It's a lovely name (I am part biased though and couldn't give a shiny shite if MN thinks a name is blah). I have only vaguely heard of the Duggars, mainly through here and I had no idea his middle name was James. It's not a name that would be associated with him as it's a classic. If it was something like Cliff Richard Smith (or whatever your surname is) then you would have a point about association disclaimer, I know he hasn't been found guilty of anything.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 07/09/2016 12:10

A quick Google has told me that DS1 shares his name with a leading Behaviour Analyst and a country music band. Also a men's clothing shop in Wembley.

DS2's first and middle names are also the brand name of a "Novelty Sheep Range" .

Nothing much for DD - just links to various baby naming sites!

My point being, that unless you are blatantly naming your baby after a celebrity (Elton John Smith, Philip Schofield Smith etc. etc.) - people are incredibly unlikely to register any connection at all. Especially not with a lovely, classic, popular name like Joshua James.

My GGF was a Joshua James incidentally. Apparently, he was a jolly nice and very respectable man .

Best of luck with your anomaly scan OP. It was at an earlier stage, but I had a MMC in 2010. I went for my routine 12 week scan expecting to see a baby on the screen, only to be told that my baby had died at around 8 weeks. Luckily, we went on to have DD in 2011, but I definitely remember the increased nerves and worry leading up to her 12 week scan.

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Havingkittens04 · 07/09/2016 12:05

Freddie Starr

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Havingkittens04 · 07/09/2016 12:03

Sorry to hear that you've been there too, Dixie

I'm sure I won't give two hoots about my current anxieties come January if/when I get to bring him/her home x

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DocMcFanjo · 07/09/2016 12:02

Lovely name. Never heard of the Duggar family.

Honeybee79 · 07/09/2016 11:59

Never heard of him - use the name if you love it.

Very sorry to hear of your loss.

ParadiseCity · 07/09/2016 11:57

I thought it was Freddie Star

Its a lovely name you have picked, don't worry. My DD shares a name with someone who was sadly murdered and my DS shares a name with a very unsuccessful thief who is always in court. I only know this from google - it has never ever cropped up IRL.

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 07/09/2016 11:48

I've never heard of him. I googled him and still had no idea who he was.

And even if I had, it wouldn't occur to me.

Damselindestress · 07/09/2016 11:47

I worked it out from your description but didn't even know Josh Duggar's full name was Joshua James. It's a classic name that doesn't stand out as his. Don't worry about it. I hope all goes well with the scan.

DixieNormas · 07/09/2016 11:45

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skyyequake · 07/09/2016 11:37

I've heard of Josh Duggar and what he did, but I had no idea his middle name was James! Honestly, without the surname no one would make that connection... They're both such popular names too, I think it's a lovely combination. My cousin is a Joshua John and it suits him very well

Clutterbugsmum · 07/09/2016 11:37

The thing with 'reality stars' is that unless you watch their crappy shows you have no idea who they are.

So I would say probably 99% of people haven't heard/watched the Duggar's so would have no idea who they are.

regularbutpanickingabit · 07/09/2016 11:33

Oh bless you, no wonder you are feeling vulnerable. Please please don't let this mar your scan. Hoping everything goes well for you and I am so sorry about the loss of your baby boy.

EreniTheFrog · 07/09/2016 11:28

I think that by the time your DC is old enough to be teased by his peers, Josh Duggar will have been long forgotten.

gingerboy1912 · 07/09/2016 11:26

Use it op. I watch the duggars on tv always have bought that josh duggar was slimy but I wouldn't make the connection at all and one day their 15 mins of fame will be up anyway.

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Havingkittens04 · 07/09/2016 11:23

Thank you all again, feeling emotional and a bit silly now reading your responses, damn pregnancy hormones and lack of sleep

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Puremince · 07/09/2016 11:22

Joshua James is lovely.

I think James is one of the most popular middle names for boys at the moment, I really don't think that combination would make anyone think of the Duggars.

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