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Our oldest son doesn't want us to name our 2nd son after their dad..

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isitseptemberyet · 30/08/2016 20:48

Would Really appreciate some help.

Due no.5 very soon, i would like to name him Samuel after his father, but our eldest son is adamant that he Doesn't want that..
Could anyone suggest names Like Samuel ?!
Thank you :)

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ICanCountToOneHundred · 01/09/2016 14:22

Yes to Saul my favourite boys name.

Soloman
James
Anthony
Benjamin
Herbie

GoldFishFingerz · 01/09/2016 14:19

Solomon

CadburyChocolateCrunchie · 01/09/2016 06:59

I think it's fine to name a child after their father, but only the first born child. I can imagine your older son would feel he wasn't special enough to get his daddy's name.

sycamore54321 · 01/09/2016 01:00

I'm not normally one for allowing children any say in siblings names but in this case, I think you are doing the right thing by listening to his wishes. My view may be reinforced by the fact I hate the tradition of naming sons after fathers, among other reasons because it makes one child more 'special'. I would not however allow your son any further say in the child's name, nor use his name as a middle name. Selecting a name for this brand new individual is your responsibility as parents alone.

I always think the name Daniel very similar to Samuel - similar ending, similar shortening, etc.

RedLarvaYellowLarva · 31/08/2016 19:31

Lemuel.

Porcupinetree · 31/08/2016 14:17

What do you call your daughters?

I'm having a horrid vision of

Son: "our special boy"
Daughter 1:
Daughter 2: "The girls"
Daughter 3:

SatsukiKusakabe · 31/08/2016 12:35

I think your son is right and you are right to consider that. I hope you can find a name you like as much. We had lots of names we liked but couldn't use for various reasons - I think it's nice for children to have their own names anyway. What is your son's name? Sorry if you've already said and I've missed it. Could you use ds1's name as a middle name, to help him feel connected to the baby? It's not for me personally, but I know people who have done that.

I think Simon is nice and underused at the moment, I knew some nice ones. Ethan?

I think she's letting the ten year old have some input because children have feelings too and some parents like to take them into account. It's not for everyone, of course.

OhTheRoses · 31/08/2016 12:16

I know a family with a Samuel. Five others called: Joseph, Benjamin, David, Lewis, Abraham (known as Alfie).

The Sam's I know have brothers called: Max, Jack, Alfie, Ben, Toby, Thomas.

I can see your son's point and wouldn't. It crosses the love boundary.

Congratulations though.

LunaLoveg00d · 31/08/2016 12:09

Why are you letting a 10 year old have any say in the name of a baby?

MimiSunshine · 31/08/2016 08:57

Haven't got a band suggestion but would suggest you subtly start referring to him as your 'first special boy' rather than 'only' then if the baby is a boy he can be the 'second special boy'.

I can understand your sons feelings but he sounds like he's been treated as the prince of the family and if he's about to be usurped by a royal pretender (as it will feel to him as babies get a lot of attention and he may not have cared when they were girls) then it could get difficult between them especially when his dad is holding the baby

CharminglyGawky · 31/08/2016 00:36

Michael?

Sophronia · 31/08/2016 00:09

Henry
Alexander
Benjamin
Arthur
Thomas
Daniel
Edward
Gabriel
Isaac
George
James
Luke
Raphael
Matthew
Joseph
Louis
Nathaniel
Joshua
Oliver
Patrick
Nicholas
Reuben
William
Zachary
Adam

SirNiallDementia · 30/08/2016 21:36

I can see where your son s coming from, a kid may well feel that it is special to get your dads name and feel very left out if the new baby gets it.

How about

Isaac
Nate/ Nathaniel
Joel
Ezra
Eli
Asher
Elijah
Jacob
Reuben
Josiah
Lucas

Original poster
isitseptemberyet · 30/08/2016 21:35

loving the suggestions , thank you :)
Yes, totally dont want to upset our first son. It's not even that i want to name this one After his father, it's just a name that ive always liked that his dad happens to share lol
Certainly not worth it at the cost of our ten years old feelings tho.. so trying to search for a name, I can think of about ten girls name i like, despite already having three girls, find boys names so much harder !

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CotswoldStrife · 30/08/2016 21:25

Agree that it is normally the first son named after the father, I see your DS's point there.

Gideon (George Osborne may have wounded this name a bit, but it is still nice Grin )
Noah
Joshua
Theo (not Biblical)

nemno · 30/08/2016 21:24

I totally see your son's issue. Even if he doesn't articulate it he will feel he wasn't worth the most special name but his brother is worth it. There would be 2 Samuels and him. Poor chap.

Nathan/Nathaniel
Dominic
Frederick
Jonathon

QueenLizIII · 30/08/2016 21:17

Oh yeah, Seth is awesome.

Love Simeon too.

GoldFishFingerz · 30/08/2016 21:17

Hew Hugh Hugo is lovely

GoldFishFingerz · 30/08/2016 21:16

Joseph is similar in that it's quite a gentle Sounding name. Benjamin also

Yika · 30/08/2016 21:15

Adam
Asher
Simon
Simeon
Peter
John

Yika · 30/08/2016 21:14

Jesse
Ezra
Thomas
Joshua
Seth
Jonathan

I love the name David too.

Despicablyme · 30/08/2016 21:14

I'm on his side tbh

IcedVanillaLatte · 30/08/2016 21:13

I think the kid has a point TBH.

CRazzyyAce · 30/08/2016 21:11

It is normally tradition that if you name after the father its the first born son, I wouldn't even if is already upset.

Marilynsbigsister · 30/08/2016 21:08

Joseph - Joe